Does having Faith mean im not allowed to hurt?

[childofgod101388]

I love someone.. he loves me. He is in Afghanistan but he has cut off all ties with me.. we're both Christians.. his only explaination or words were "Be patient, Love is patient." ..... he's right. But it's still hurts. Im not mad. Im just a little down. I feel this is God testing my fAith and my Patients.. I know God has great plans for me and him.. and I know I shouldn't rush it. So im going to step back from the wheel and let god drive me. It's in Gods hands. If you love someone let them go. I love this man with everything I am. I have to let him go if I am ever going to get him back. 

My main question ... does having Faith and Patients mean I shouldn't hurt either? I mean I do feel confident that God isn't done with us and that this man that I am so deeply in love with will come.back though I dont know when.. I am at peace but I still hurt that I dont have those night time chats with him to tell him good night. Or that I dont get to tell him I love him. I miss his sweet voice. Does having Faith and Patients mean im not allowed to hurt like that? I'll wait until God tells me I either need to move on or until he brings my Josh back.

[other one]

Did you ever hear the phrase "Absence makes the heart grow fonder?"   Well that growing fonder is what you are experiencing and is very normal.  It sounds like you have a grasp on the Spiritual side of things, but think carefully about it......   do you really want God to take away that link between the two of you so the hurt goes away?  Cherish this time even more by trusting God to bring you back together..   but it's good that you miss him and long for him.....    makes his return that much better,

[childofgod101388]

Thank you... so much. It's 6am and I've been awake since 4... can't sleep. Can't hardly stop crying. Im keeping my faith through all of this. I know we're meantfor each other.. that much God has made very clear to both of us. I also know that he puts you through trials to test your faith. My Faith will never fade....I have patients because God has ppatients in me. I miss him so much. Id give anything right now just to tell him I love him.... do you think if I ask God to give him a message he'll somehow let him know im telling him? I mean I don't know what God is doing with him right now. It may be best to let God work him over without me interrupting. What would you suggest?

[other one]

i couldn't know that...   i would imagine that God could pass on the message that you love him and await his return.....    keep in mind that he may also be kind of busy and needs to focus.  I don't know where he is or what he's doing but I'd guess sitting around thinking about you all day might not be in his best interests.

 

he tells you he loves you so he could be feeling the same as you......   he doesn't need to be distracted right now.  So my view would be to trust God to bring him back to you and enjoy that feeling of love......  I know that it seems an emptiness, but that's what draws people together.

[kwikphilly]

Blessings childofGod,

       You sound very young,so I do hope I could comfort you as a mother would but I am a little confused....You say that Josh loves you and also that he has cut all ties with you,I cannot assume why he has done this because it seems you do not know why either,as you say his only explanation is "Be patient-love is patient".........May I ask,has Josh told you,"I love you" or only that "love is patient"?Do you feel this "cutting all ties" is a break up(temporary or otherwise)?What kind of relationship did you & Josh have before his deployment,long time,plans to be engaged,talk of marriage?

      I only ask these things because I don't feel I have enough information to give you good advice & I would never want to give you false hope nor little hope in error......Your main question was does having faith & patience mean you shouldn't hurt?Sweet childofGod,I do not think feeling hurt and longing for someone you love has much to do with faith & patience and yet it does matter what you have faith & patience in....faith & patience in waiting on our Lord will never fail us though faith & patience in a person will often times bring disappointment.You have expressed that you think God should "work Josh over",this gives me the inclination to believe you do may know more in your heart as to the reason for Josh's decision

       If you are not relying on your heart & mind & have prayed in spirit and it is clear that Gods Will is that you & Josh should be together then I would think you would not feel so hurt having faith in Gods blessed assurance......hanging on to "hope"that this is so can really hurt.......As I have said,I would love to comfort & encourage you sweet child but I do think you are very unsure of all things & thats what really hurts..........Oh,you do not know how I am praying for you,God certainly does not want to see you hurt...in Jesus Name I pray the Comforter wipes every tear from your eyes

                                                                                                                                                            With love,in Christ-Kwik

[Guest]

....My main question .... does having Faith and Patients mean I shouldn't hurt either....

 

 

Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book? Psalms 56:8

 

And because ye are sons, God hath sent forth the Spirit of his Son into your hearts, crying, Abba, Father. Galatians 4:6

[childofgod101388]

Im 25. I have four kids from a previous marriage. I dont hurt from not.knowing. I know we are meant for each other. I know he'll will be back but I also know that it gets lonely without hearing his voice.Yes he has told me countless times that he loves me. He was the first to admit. He also has told me that he too believes we are meant to be together. He has a very close relationship with God. He talks to him much like I do. As if I were talking to a friend that were right there in front of me. I laugh with God.. I cry with God... I talk and sing with God. Josh is a very good person. He wouldn't do this just to hurt me so I believe God must have told him something. Maybe he's told him to do this as a test of both of our Love. We do talk about marriage. He even said he wanted to try having a child with me afterwards. He loves my kids and wants a big family as do I. We both feel God would bless us with another boy. He does love me. He tells me every day.. he tells me that GOD put me here for him and that he has plans for us. God has said the same for me. We dont know what those tiny details are but we know that our souls are connected through God. We're here in this situation for a reason and God will bring us through it no doubt stronger than before. I just get sad when I miss out phone calls and I can't see him say he loves me and I can't see him tell me about his day. I miss being able to tell him I'll always be here. I miss telling him that even though he's not here with me I carry him in my heart. It's not that we're unsure. We're both very sure. Im just not sure why he cut ties with me. God keeps reassuring me that it's temporary and that it's a test. Before all this happened Ihadn'tasked God to send me a sign because I was feeling uncertainty about the pace at which we were moving. I didn't see the first sign.. though now looking back i see it's a sign I would have had to look for. I asked him again for a sign and this time I told him "and please... you know how my mind works. Give me a sign and make it hit me in the face so I dont over look it." (Maybe not in those exact words but you get the idea) so when he went silent and wouldn't say anything other than "be patient, love is patient" a believe that was my God speaking through my Josh. I KNEW that was my sign just like when you know you're hungry. I just knew. Was no question about it. So I am thinking God wants us both to take a little personal time and ponder what it means to be patient and then when we are ready (and no doubt with God guiding us) we will get there then he will bring us back together and cut that separation. We both want to move at Gods pace not our own. ((Just a heads up.. we are both in agreement on celibacy before marriage. So that's not an issue.. in fact we pretty much agree on everything.)) He talks to God too so maybe there is something God trying to work out with him just like me. I have nno doubt we will be back together... I dont know when but i do know that I wot be giving up my sweet faith. My life and future with him depends on it. Plus it would be a pretty scary life without it. So my Faith stands. Maybe he's teaching me a little more patients. But either way whatever he is doing he KNOWS what he is doing so im not worried. Im just lonely. I miss him. I hurt because I can't hear his voice. It's like if your child goes to his fathers for the weekend (much like my son) I miss him. I know he'll be back but I still miss his sweet hugs and I ive you's. Just like I miss Josh. Same concept. I dont doubt our LOVE and I don't doubt that he will be back.. I just miss him so much.

[childofgod101388]

He just sent me an email. I was right. Time. God is in our favor. Just keep us in your prayers guys. God just needs my amazing man for something right now. He'll be back. Just pray for us

[other one]

*****smiles and feels good about the news*****

[childofgod101388]

I love this man with everything I am. I'd die for him no questions asked. He and my kids are the world to me. God is a great God and does great things. This is jus one of the great things he's done for me. He'sgive me to the man he wants me to be with for the rest of my worldly life. So I'll wait. Time isn't even an issue. None of it isn really an issue I just get sad because naturally I miss him but after you guys reassurin me.. I feel thats ok. Means im human. Means I have a heart.