Death in Immediate Family

[Catsmeow]

I'm writing this post still reeling in shock. My mother just died.

When I was a baby, my biological father married my "new" mother when I was still an infant and she raised me.

I never knew my birth mother till I reached my thirties.

The woman who I have ALWAYS called, "Mom" has suddenly died. No explanation; no reason. Just found slumped over in her chair.

She was extremely healthy, active, thin, vibrant and youthful. She was left a widow when my father died in 95'.

She was a young "new" mother when I was a babe. She was only 17 when she married Daddy.

She's about 62 but always looked around 45. We could pass as sisters...and now she's just died. No reason. No explanation. Just slumped over in her chair.

I'm in complete shock. She was NOT saved. I sent her the "Passion" of the Christ for Christmas, which she'd seen at the theatre but wasn't moved by it.

She remained living with her boyfriend who is handling things there where she has lived so many years.

Now, my baby sister is in prison for drugs, my other sister will have to raise her two babies that Mom was also raising while she serves her prison term.

Mom's other brother died suddenly from a brain aneurism a few years back. I don't know if this is what happened or not. I'm sure they'll do an autopsy.

I'm just robotically typing facts....I've already grieved till I can't cry any more tears. I'm dried up. Now I'm on auto pilot.

My family is a mess. I've watched member after member of my family die. My other half-sister was only 40 and died of a drug overdose.

I have watched member after member of my family perish without Christ. I cannot fathom any of this.

My husband is no comfort to me. He's actually turned away from me in my grief instead of towards me. I finally understand Jeremiah in Lamentations. I read chapter after chapter and feel his pain...and aloneness.

I feel like I'm in a pit alone and there's no one who could ever comfort me .....as if in some kind of bondage of misery that I can't break out of.

I just had to tell someone.

[RustyAngeL]

I am so sorry for you loss. I too was raised by a step mom but never considered her a "step" mom...just mom. She was a wonderful lady who left very suddenly also. I know words do not soften the blow. I guess this is time where the rubber meets the road so to speak when it comes to our faith. You don't know what your mom did in her last seconds of life. Just hold on to God's promises in our lives. I'm praying.

[Work in Progress]

I am so sorry for your loss, Cat. I understand your shock. I wish I could do something, other than offer my condolences. Thank goodness you have everyone here at Worthy for support.

((((((((((Cat)))))))))))))

[Joe Christian]

Cat, You have my heartfelt condolences. I will keep you in my prayers. You know that it is very difficult to know waht to say in times like these, as WIP said...we LOVE you and are here for support and love. ((((((((((((((((((((((CATS))))))))))))))))))

[tillmother]

I feel sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you and the other members of your family. Like the person before me said you have "everybody here at Worthy for support".

[BibleBoy]

Sorry to hear about your family. Me and my family will keep you in our prayers to God.

[Catsmeow]

Bill and I are driving up to Birmingham, AL tomarrow night early and hope to arrive early Monday and check into a hotel.

That way he can rest at the hotel and I can spend some quiet time with my family at the house for awhile .... the funeral is tentatively scheduled for Tuesday.

They seem inclined toward cremation, which makes me cringe. My father rec'd a proper burial. It all seems so indifferent to have someone cremated. I just have a problem with it....

There wasn't a spot for her to be buried beside my Daddy.

They say she died very suddenly. No one in my family is saved so nobody understands the consequences of continually refusing Christ.

My mother had a warning of danger a couple of years ago. The Lord visited her with breast cancer but it was healed and dealt with completely and she returned to a vibrant life.

I believe the Lord was trying to get her attention and tell her that you don't know when your time is up but she wouldn't listen.

She wouldn't talk about the Lord with me at all...walls went up. She was living with her atheist boyfriend.

I don't think there's a single saved soul in my family....now or ever....except my mother's parents (one who's gone to be with the Lord) and the other who is alive at age 96. She's in complete shock.

She had 3 children. Two have died suddenly, (instantaneous death); neither were believers. She only has my Uncle Mike left and I'm not sure where he's at now concerning the faith.

Grandma, at 96, though confined to her home still tithes and reads her bible at night. She's still a faithful believer.

Her husband died years ago and I hear he was even joking with the paramedics as he was dying on the ambulance. He was so excited about seeing Jesus in heaven. He was anxious to go home to heaven and not afraid of death.

Funny, two believing parents...3 unbelieving children....of my mother, us three girls, (one an unbeliever), one in prison for drugs, and me.

I feel so utterly alone. This is one of those "no hope" funerals where they say "nice things" about a person's life and that's it.

The paramedics said she appeared to have died very suddenly and without warning. I doubt if there was much time to reflect on repentence.

I keep watching lost relatives die lost. They won't listen when you talk to them about the Lord.... and now all I wonder is what she's seeing and experiencing where she's at.

It's a horrid thought and makes me ill.

[IslandRose]

Dear Cats,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My love and prayers are with you through this time. May our Father comfort your heart and give you peace.

IR

[ayin jade]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Cats. In times like this, all we can do is hold firm to the Lord and trust in His ways. I will pray for you and also that remaining unsaved members turn to the Lord.

[UndecidedFrog]

Dear catsmeow,

I am sorry for your loss, and offer my heartfelt condolences. May you find peace in the rememberance of your stepmom and the important role she had in your life.

Best wishes,

UndecidedFrog