Living With Stress

[RdJ]

4 minutes ago, farouk said:

@Renskedejonge Wearying themselves for money, right? whereas prayer and the Scriptures address inward and spiritual and eternal matters.............

Yes. Not everyone has a choice of course, but if they only work so hard for luxury, what a pity of all the effort and because of it everything gets more expensive and others get forced to work more. I'm glad that women in Holland refused to work full time. They fought for their right to bake cookies with the kids and work part time. Now the prices have gone up, but not that bad and they try it again to let women here work full time. Come girls! Feminism! Bye bye. And a lot of men also want to work less to spend time with their kids.

[other one]

It helped me a lot when I stopped worrying about dying.  It's been a good number of years since I turned my whole life and future over to the Lord, but except for that two year stint with no sleep, I live pretty much stress free even though I had two of  the most stressful careers my whole life.  You just do your best every day and see what comes about.

We did plan for a retirement and all that, but didn't stress about it that much.  Prayed about it and did what I thought Jesus was telling us and so far it's worked out pretty well.

[farouk]

12 hours ago, Renskedejonge said:

Not everyone has a choice of course, but if they only work so hard for luxury, what a pity of all the effort and because of it everything gets more expensive and others get forced to work more.

@Renskedejonge John 6.27: "Labour not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, which the Son of man shall give unto you: for him hath God the Father sealed."

[Neighbor]

Happy  is the person whose work is their  play!

 I have always enjoyed work-ing. Hasn't  mattered the job or trade I have  enjoyed it.

Never have worked by the hour, with the thought of getting through  it, instead have  been eager to be in it and at it. So I just can't identify with the idea of needing a retreat a vacation.

I have taken trips for sure, but not with the idea  that I am getting away from something else. God has led me through some six careers  to date. I'd kinda like to gear  up for a seventh, but time is fleeting I think. Nonetheless may it be God has a seventh vocational career, or even an advocation, for me if I am to remain  yet awhile on this side of the grass.

[RdJ]

1 hour ago, Neighbor said:

Happy  is the person whose work is their  play!

 I have always enjoyed work-ing. Hasn't  mattered the job or trade I have  enjoyed it.

Never have worked by the hour, with the thought of getting through  it, instead have  been eager to be in it and at it. So I just can't identify with the idea of needing a retreat a vacation.

I have taken trips for sure, but not with the idea  that I am getting away from something else. God has led me through some six careers  to date. I'd kinda like to gear  up for a seventh, but time is fleeting I think. Nonetheless may it be God has a seventh vocational career, or even an advocation, for me if I am to remain  yet awhile on this side of the grass.

If you like it great, but I meant people mostly with kids who get very stressed. They just do too much. And in general the ones with a lot of responsibilities can get stressed. Some can handle it, but some can't.

A collegue for instance said that parents who don't help for free at school are bad and lazy blabla. I thought: I don't care. Bye. I won't do it anyway. And then a few months later she had a burnout and skipped work for a year. That's why I don't do extra stuff. Also the only 3 days working. 3 kids. I didnt get them to never see them. 3 days is enough. Oh thats lazy. Manager worked full time plus he had an airbnb house he rented. And then oh it's all too much and he was home for at least a year with a burnout. I think it's weird. Just see what you can handle and do that and live from less.

[Neighbor]

20 minutes ago, Renskedejonge said:

If you like it great, but I meant people mostly with kids who get very stressed. They just do too much. And in general the ones with a lot of responsibilities can get stressed. Some can handle it, but some can't.

 

H, Yes I do love it( work). I do have two kids of my own and now a grand plus raising another child, and decades of caring for aunts uncles inlaws and parents, going belly up financially more than once.  

Life is a grand adventure; and yes I do love the work careers God has put me into over the many decades now. Never would I have guessed at the most recent one, that of being called to go to work for a church body and a  Christian school for some 14 years.

Me? Me a church worker, Lord are you kidding me? Well okay  let's get it going; 60  to 90 hours a week eh? Okay.

Rest? Time enough  for the body of flesh on the other side of the grass  I suppose, but for the spiritual body and my soul I sure hope there is more than a desire within me to rest, and instead a joy is there to be found in the work at hand, for it is all counted as joy.  

[farouk]

On 10/30/2023 at 7:24 AM, Renskedejonge said:

If you like it great, but I meant people mostly with kids who get very stressed. They just do too much. And in general the ones with a lot of responsibilities can get stressed. Some can handle it, but some can't.

A collegue for instance said that parents who don't help for free at school are bad and lazy blabla. I thought: I don't care. Bye. I won't do it anyway. And then a few months later she had a burnout and skipped work for a year. That's why I don't do extra stuff. Also the only 3 days working. 3 kids. I didnt get them to never see them. 3 days is enough. Oh thats lazy. Manager worked full time plus he had an airbnb house he rented. And then oh it's all too much and he was home for at least a year with a burnout. I think it's weird. Just see what you can handle and do that and live from less.

@Renskedejonge This is also why a lot of teen girls and also young mothers smoke, because of all the stress, right?

[RdJ]

47 minutes ago, farouk said:

@Renskedejonge This is also why a lot of teen girls and also young mothers smoke, because of all the stress, right?

Could be. I started after we broke up and then it's hard to stop. If you want to stop and have kids, you can't do that, because you get nasty. My brother, childless, no partner, would just lock himself up for 3 weeks to stop smoking, so he wouldn't bother anyone with his mood. I was always like: What's a worse sin? Smoking or getting nasty? Glad I finally got rid of that stuff.

[farouk]

1 hour ago, Renskedejonge said:

Could be. I started after we broke up and then it's hard to stop.

@Renskedejonge This is why some ppl find vaping is the way to cut down on the levels of nicotine: to inhale with vapes with a level of nicotine that you can progressively decrease. (It seems to work with some ppl, anyway.)

[RdJ]

33 minutes ago, farouk said:

@Renskedejonge This is why some ppl find vaping is the way to cut down on the levels of nicotine: to inhale with vapes with a level of nicotine that you can progressively decrease. (It seems to work with some ppl, anyway.)

Patches helped very good. You had less side effects and nicotin chewing gum was also addictive, but those stupid itchy patches not really. That was like being addicted to bee stings. No thanks.