Opinions please.

[the_raven_1313]

A friend and I have been recently debating regarding lust and what it is exactly and I was wondering if you would give me your opinions on what exactly lust is and who is right. But I will first give you guys an idea to both sides of our debate.

One of us is saying that it is wrong to look at a woman and think to yourself that you think that she is attractive because looking at the woman and finding her attractive is lust. Also, the woman may possibly be married and finding her attractive to look at is lust and also adultery.

The other is saying that it is ok to look at a woman and think to himself or even say that he thinks that the woman is attractive. It is the thinking about her (or fantasizing) about her in your mind is when it becomes lust.

[abbershay]

I personally think it is when it goes to fantancy.

Noticing that as woman is beautiful it just reality it doesnt mean you want to be with her. She may be a total pig.

If anyman see a very pretty woman and says it means nothing to him he is lying. Either to the person he is talking or to himself.

Just seeing the beauty doesnt make you want to do anything. I think that being honest about it take a lot of the mystery out of it.

[other one]

If you look upon a woman as she is a creation of God and is pleasant to look at, there is nothing wrong with it. It is nature for us to look upon a woman and feel good about her.

If you look upon her and want her and/or think about being with her it is lust and one should not do that, and if you can not help but be that way one should stop looking and seek the face of God for help. women at their best or their worst, just make me want to go home to mine.

[Trinity]

If you look upon a woman as she is a creation of God and is pleasant to look at, there is nothing wrong with it. It is nature for us to look upon a woman and feel good about her.

If you look upon her and want her and/or think about being with her it is lust and one should not do that, and if you can not help but be that way one should stop looking and seek the face of God for help. women at their best or their worst, just make me want to go home to mine.

Yeh i have to agree with all the posts above but i think Other One hits the nail on the head!

[Bolts]

'The other is saying that it is ok to look at a woman and think to himself or even say that he thinks that the woman is attractive. It is the thinking about her (or fantasizing) about her in your mind is when it becomes lust'.

I tend to agree with this side of the debate. Its' not safe to walk around with our eyes closed - PLUS, if the person sitting next to you on the bus, or serving you in a store, is attractive, you have to have the right attitude about it - you'll end up a mess otherwise.

Interesting debate

[godrulz]

It is a normal, God-given thing to be attracted to the opposite sex. We should not feel guilty about this.

Lust is a legitimate desire out of control. Desiring a married person is tantamount to adultery in the mind.

Leering and sexual desire goes beyond love and attraction.

Billy Graham said it is ok to look at a woman once (we are not blind and might walk into traffic if we close our eyes every time a woman walks by), but it is wrong if we look twice (you get the idea).

We live in a sexually saturated society (media). Men are more sight-oriented, so sexual lust is a common struggle.

Job made a covenant with his eyes to not look lustfully at a woman. King David failed.

We can make a choice to resist temptation, but we cannot take ourselves out of the world to avoid some temptation totally. It all starts with our thought life. We need to feed our spirits and starve flesh.

Sexuality in the context of marriage is 'very good'.

[JesseB.]

If you look upon a woman as she is a creation of God and is pleasant to look at, there is nothing wrong with it. It is nature for us to look upon a woman and feel good about her.

If you look upon her and want her and/or think about being with her it is lust and one should not do that, and if you can not help but be that way one should stop looking and seek the face of God for help. women at their best or their worst, just make me want to go home to mine.

I agree with you, other one.

[the_raven_1313]

It seems so far, that everybody agree's with my side of the debate. I guess that has made me a little curious as to what people would have to say about another thing that we have talked about numerous times. Another thing that we have debated on at times is sex within marriage. I believe that it is perfectly ok to have sex (make love) with your partner within marriage, but my friend believes that you should have sex within marriage only for to procreate. Im curious as to your opinions on this but I would still like to hear others opinions on the lust debate. Thanks for taking the time to reply to this.

[Gerioke]

From what I understand, people dressed more modestly in biblical times. If everybody dressed the way they did back then, there wouldn't be as much lust. Children are subject to provacative imagry in TV shows and commercials. Children back then didn' have the same stimulation kids have today.

[abbershay]

If a woman is pretty and well built she doesnt have to show any skin to be completely attractive. All that skin tends to make her look cheap anyway.