Lament of a lonely girl...

[DaughterofKing]

I am very unlucky when it comes to relationships. I am always getting lousy friends who don't stick by me and lousy love relationships with men who dissapear into thin air. I guess there must be something wrong with me or maybe I deserve this somehow, I don't know. It just seems like everyone on the planet is paired up except for me and no one has ever truly been in love with me. I just wish for once things would go my way and I would truly make some beautiful relationships...but I'm pretty jaded now anyway...*sigh*...

[DaniJ87]

my dear friend....

You are not alone. You always have the friend that sticks closer than a brother;

You also have me, if you so desire... you can PM me sometime... I have MSN and AIM and YIM and Google talk... if you want to chat with me sometime... feel free... PM me if you want to contact me... or see my profile... I may have put some of that on there...

I don't have a "boyfriend" either...

we can be "unpaired" together..

:-)

your sister in Christ;

~Danette~

[darkest_red]

"You can't hurry love..."

As hard as it can be, be patient. If it is God's will for you to be married, He will send along the right man. I know it can be hard in the meantime but hold on to that thought. I know it can be especially hard when everyone around you is in a relationship- I've been there and done that. The relationship I am in now is the only one where I have loved and been loved. Even now though, it is still hard to see couples everywhere (and they do seem to be everywhere) as I live in the East of England and by boyfriend lives in the South so I spent the majority of my time apart from him. It hurts and it is hard, but you can get through it. Focus on Christ and everything will fall into place.

[Leonard]

I don't know how old you are, but if you're up into your late twenties, I might begin to worry.......

Something I've seen many many times in counseling sessions, is that some women get stuck in these destructive patterns, and don't recognize what they are doing. If you are in your late twenties, I really suggest seeing a professional Christian counselor, for some perspective. If you're much younger than that, then I think you probably don't have anything to really worry about......

[jenni211]

Daughter...

I have been where you are too! feeling completely alone and unloved. Its the hardest thing to deal with. I went through some really hard stuff and the people who claimed to love me fled. I had no one. Thats when I turned to the one who was ultimate rejected... Jesus. God the Father turned away from his own son... because of us and our sin.

Fall in Love with Jesus! He'll never let you down!

Also begin to love yourself... you are worthy! You deserve to be loved unconditionally and you need to realize that! Don't judge your worthiness based on your past experiences... but based on God's love for you and the sacrifice that He has made. We were all made worthy based on Christ's sacrifice.

Love ya

Jennifer

IF you ever need to talk... I'm here!

[Guest NewPilgrim]

This sounds to me like the angst of a relationship gone sour.

I dont suggest that the following are true statements about you DoK but they are questions worth asking when evaluating the sort of situations that you are lamenting.

1) Why does everyone I hang out with abandon me? Is it because I have too many faults or is it because my judge of character needs tweaking so I dont rest my hopes on shallow people who leave at the drop of a hat?

2)Who do I consider my friends? The ones who run away or the ones I always turn to when my so called "friends" run away?

3)If my friends are the ones who keep running away, then who on earth am I telling all this to?

4)Do I need friends or is God my first-love?

5)If God is my first-love, can I draw on that relationship in order to improve my social life?

6)What is the cause of my anguishes in life. The things that happen to me or my attitude towards them?

Hope these searching questions provide you with some enlightenment. And of course, I would advise you to consider them prayerfully and scripturally....if you choose to look into them.

God bless xx

[Jefferiah]

You have lots of time. Don't worry so much. Stop looking for it, and it will come.

[Guest NewPilgrim]

No offence Jeff, but that sounds almost superstitious...."look away and it'll probably turn up." "a watched kettle never boils" "buses always come in threes".

My advice: The more you focus on God, the easier you can deal with issues. He rewards the faithful, if youre faithful and a good christian partner is what you need, he'll provide, in time, when you are able and when it fits his will. He loves his children and provides for them.

Edited March 9, 2006 by NewPilgrim

[mikado5001]

You have lots of time. Don't worry so much. Stop looking for it, and it will come.

To true, to true. Welcome DoK, to the land of the jaded, cynical, skeptical, yet still, for some psychotic reason, holding out hope. It stinks, it really does. Looking for love, and a caring bonding relationship with a girl(or guy in your case). I have tried so many ways, ideas, you name it. Dating sites, singles mixers. I have almost given up. Folks say "Wait on the Lord." Well how the heck do we know when the LORD wants you to act. Or sit around and wait. About the only thing I am sure of is that I am not meant to use dating websites like Lavalife. So many great girls have I crossed paths with. And NOTHING. It gets so bad. I think about resigning myself to loneliness.

I would invite you out for Deli and a show. So we can commiserate over a Doc Browns Cream Soda, a Woody Allen Sandwich(Pastrami and Corned Beef on Rye piled high), and CheeseCake at the Carnegie Deli in New York City. Yum Deli!!

Beyond the food and fellowship. I can offer very little in the way of comforting words, or hope. But just to say good luck.

I don't know how old you are, but if you're up into your late twenties, I might begin to worry.......

Something I've seen many many times in counseling sessions, is that some women get stuck in these destructive patterns, and don't recognize what they are doing. If you are in your late twenties, I really suggest seeing a professional Christian counselor, for some perspective. If you're much younger than that, then I think you probably don't have anything to really worry about......

Leonard I am 32/Male/Single. Counseling might be a wise idea for me to. I have not been in a disastrous relationship, yet. But have the worst time meeting women. Thanks!

[50_Cent's_dog]

I am very unlucky when it comes to relationships. I am always getting lousy friends who don't stick by me and lousy love relationships with men who dissapear into thin air. I guess there must be something wrong with me or maybe I deserve this somehow, I don't know. It just seems like everyone on the planet is paired up except for me and no one has ever truly been in love with me. I just wish for once things would go my way and I would truly make some beautiful relationships...but I'm pretty jaded now anyway...*sigh*...

Don't feel bad. I have not had a girlfriend since I was 15 years old. I am now 29. God gave me a thorn in the flesh that keeps me from being able to be with a woman for now. A few months ago I doubted that I would ever be married in the future. One day I opened my Bible and something caught my eye. I read Psalm 128 and was filled with joy. It answered both of my hearts desires. To get married in the future and to be successful at my future job.

Right now I don't really have a girlfriend except a foreign pen pal. I don't have a job either. To be honest at all my other jobs I felt like a liability. I even gave money back at my last job to make myself feel more valuable. I was able to do that because I kept track of my own time.

What I am saying is work on your relationship with God and He will give you the desires of your heart. ( Isaiah 26:4) Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, is the Rock eternal.

Hope that I was able to give you some help.

Your brother in Christ,

Kevin