Remarrying after a Divorce....is it forbidden?

[Openly Curious]

This is one of the few subjects I have not come to a concrete conclusion on. For all of you who say re-marriage is not permitted, what advice do you give to a married couple which consists of at least one partner that is re-married? Should they divorce? Should they continue to live in adultry? (assuming it is adultry)

Hello hr.jr.

One has to come to the realization that divorce is a sin and just like any other sin we commit it can also be forgiven. Alot of people before they become a Christian get into these type of situations meaning before they know the ways of God they already got a divorce or married someone who was married before. Well if one becomes saved after the fact they are at that point just as clean and pure in the eyes of God as anyone as all their sins were covered by the blood and that included the sin of divorce and adultery. Sadly there is a lot of condemnation from the church world for those who have found themselves within this position and you are made to feel like a second class saint or not a saint at all but it is not true. You are just as much a saint as all the others in the body of Christ.

So being forgiven and washed in the blood one should not divorce because you are no longer in that state. Now that advice was for Christians in this state.

As far as unbelievers within this state who still do not know Christ they should neither divorce because they are bound by the law of the land and must meet their obligations accordingly. I have heard preachers who give that kind of advice and say they need to get a divorce and return to their original spouse but that is so ignorant and not good advice at all.

OC

[firehill]

Here is my contribution to this thread: If one feels they are being physicaly or even mentaly abused such is grounds for divorce as is unfaithfulness. Afterall, Christ sacrificaly died for his Bride and couldn't conceive of abusing her. In other words generaly speaking divine judgement is against those who would advocate that a spouse MUST stay in such an abusive relationship.

Some marriages can be restored others are not and it can turn deadly if the two come back together.

TRUE.

If a couple cannot be restored because of violence permanent seperation may be the result for the spouse's safety. But they should remain single and leave the door open for reconciliation though it may never happen. Because as long as the spouse is alive then they are bound to their husband and to divorce and get remarried would be according to scripture to commit adultery and the other person they marry to commit adultery. So I advocate whole heartedly seperation and even permanent seperation if necessary in violent situations but not divorce because their is no grounds for divorce in these areas.

OC

Hello, OC.

The Bride belongs to Christ not an abusive Pharisee to put it very simply and direct. Roman laws do not dictate God's provisions for the abused.

I'll attempt not to debate this topic thus forward.

[billie]

Are you saying that if someone that was divorced has re-married, they should stay married; yet someone who is divorced and not yet re-married must stay divorced?

Yes to the first, the second would depend entirely on circumstances.

I'm not one of those who say remarriage isn't permitted. I probably shouldn't even have responded. Sorry. Just had to throw in that observation.

[firehill]

Will Christ divorce the Bride?

Blaspheme His Spirit, apostate yourself, and lets see if He doesnt divorce you

What kind of response was that? That was an attack. A question was posed. I request your apology to MrsSealedEternal.

[firehill]

Are you saying that if someone that was divorced has re-married, they should stay married; yet someone who is divorced and not yet re-married must stay divorced?

Yes to the first, the second would depend entirely on circumstances.

I'm not one of those who say remarriage isn't permitted. I probably shouldn't even have responded. Sorry. Just had to throw in that observation.

O.K. This is a topic that I really have a problem with. I really would like to know the correct answer to it. As an ordained minister, people come to me and ask me about re-marriage. I honestly have to tell them "I can not give you a definitive answer." I know plenty of ministers who are re-married. I also know what the Bible appears to say about the subject. I am earnestly seeking the truth on this subject. I have had people who were re-married ask me if they should get divorced because they felt the second marriage was adultry. I had to tell them my opinion, which was stay married, but I could not tell them a definitive answer.

Two threads just opened up to discuss this issue. Foc opened one and MrsSealedEternal.

[Openly Curious]

Here is my contribution to this thread: If one feels they are being physicaly or even mentaly abused such is grounds for divorce as is unfaithfulness. Afterall, Christ sacrificaly died for his Bride and couldn't conceive of abusing her. In other words generaly speaking divine judgement is against those who would advocate that a spouse MUST stay in such an abusive relationship.

Some marriages can be restored others are not and it can turn deadly if the two come back together.

TRUE.

If a couple cannot be restored because of violence permanent seperation may be the result for the spouse's safety. But they should remain single and leave the door open for reconciliation though it may never happen. Because as long as the spouse is alive then they are bound to their husband and to divorce and get remarried would be according to scripture to commit adultery and the other person they marry to commit adultery. So I advocate whole heartedly seperation and even permanent seperation if necessary in violent situations but not divorce because their is no grounds for divorce in these areas.

OC

Hello, OC.

The Bride belongs to Christ not an abusive Pharisee to put it very simply and direct. Roman laws do not dictate God's provisions for the abused.

I'll attempt not to debate this topic thus forward.

Hello again firehill

This is a special verse to me I want go into details as it doesn't relate to topic

Romans 7:4--"Wherefore my brethren ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ that ye should be married to another even in him who is raised from the dead that we should bring forth fruit unto God."

The bride does belong to Christ. But what is the bride of Christ is it not the body of Christ made up of both men and women and Christ is the head of the body. So it is within the marriage when a man leaves father and mother and is joined unto his wife they become one flesh and the husband is the head of the home their body. As far as the church goes we are joined unto Christ body by the blood that ran down the Saviour's side on the cross of Calvary. And thus we are married to another as Romans 7:4 says as Christ becomes the provider not another man but Christ become the provider for His glorious church made up of men and women who have been redeem by the blood and are the bride the body of Christ. As we have become dead unto our sins.

As far as God goes He provides for all of His children for we are married to Christ as the bride we must be submissive men and women to the laws of God in His word. Because He is the head or authority of the church as the man is in the home.

The Lord is very much aware of His dear children who are being abused in these bad types of relationships and I don't think it is the Lord's will to let them go without should permanent or temporary seperation is necessary because of abuse. The Lord loves His own and will provide and be a husband to His bride made up of both men and women joined to Him through the blood of His side that was pierced.

OC

[billie]

HR,

FoC just started another thread on this, and I posted the only thing I've found from looking through the Scriptures about remarriage. I was looking because I'm married to a divorced man, and I wanted to make sure what I was doing was biblically okay.

Mat 19:9 "I tell you anyone that divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultry."

We see that the one initiating the divorce for any other reason besides adultry commits adultry themselves.

[anitarose]

HR,

FoC just started another thread on this, and I posted the only thing I've found from looking through the Scriptures about remarriage. I was looking because I'm married to a divorced man, and I wanted to make sure what I was doing was biblically okay.

Mat 19:9 "I tell you anyone that divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultry."

We see that the one initiating the divorce for any other reason besides adultry commits adultry themselves.

So I'm basically in the clear if I choose to get married after I divorce my husband for the reasons stated in the previous thread....

Anita

[Openly Curious]

HR,

FoC just started another thread on this, and I posted the only thing I've found from looking through the Scriptures about remarriage. I was looking because I'm married to a divorced man, and I wanted to make sure what I was doing was biblically okay.

Mat 19:9 "I tell you anyone that divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultry."

We see that the one initiating the divorce for any other reason besides adultry commits adultry themselves.

So I'm basically in the clear if I choose to get married after I divorce my husband for the reasons stated in the previous thread....

Anita

Hello Anita,

If your spouse was unfaithful and commited adultery you are loosed from the law and you can remarry and do not have to stay single for all of your life. This is biblical and you will not be sinning or commiting adultery should you choose to get remarried. The Lord has allowed for divorce in this area of adultery and by the law of the land being a bill of divorcement you are loosed from the marriage as God had allowed and this looses you from the marriage and God allows it. You are no longer bound by law unto your husband but are made free and can once again remarry again and shouldn't feel guilty.

OC

[anitarose]

Remarrying after divorce is not wrong. In many cases it is very good. Just one thing... if you are a Christian, marry in the Lord, another Christian.

That's the plan after the divorce is final. Problem is, right now I can't afford a divorce. I even got ahold of a paralegal who said he would file all the paperwork and it would cost $175. I can't even afford that right now, what with working and going to school and paying a car and all my bills...

So I guess for right now I just work on myself and work on my walk with God until He sees fit to provide me funds to get out of this fraudulent marriage.

Anita