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I swear I have heard this same story before. . . :emot-highfive:

Does anyone in here have any idea what it is like to not have a vehicle? To be forced to "bum" rides of friends and coworkers, or family? Has anyone faced the humility of that? Knowing you are completely dependant on others for transportation is humiliating, frustrating and depressing.

I can understand that you would like some appreciation from her for showing her such kindness, I wonder, how often did people repay Jesus? Is it possible we could? I don't remember any stories about anyone even thanking him, save for the one leper. Your reward will be in Heaven. "If you have done this for the least of these my brethren, you have done it for me."

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Oh give me a break.

It is obvious that she is being taken advantage of.

She might as well tattoo "VICTIM" on her forehead.

Christians are not supposed to be door mats.

She fulfilled her conscience obligations after the first couple weeks.

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try listening to the Bible on cassette or cd the whole time she is in the car, invite her to church, tell her Jesus loves her,pray with her , she will either change her behavior and convert or run away screaming

When this all first started I did witness to her. I prayed with her. I drove her to church. After several visits, she even joined the church. So, see, she has heard the gospel. She has even gone so far as to admit she knows she needs to live better. :emot-handshake:

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Try explaining to her how generosity can be taken advantage of.

Keep at her.

Dont give up ministering to her.

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I swear I have heard this same story before. . . :emot-hug:

Does anyone in here have any idea what it is like to not have a vehicle? To be forced to "bum" rides of friends and coworkers, or family? Has anyone faced the humility of that? Knowing you are completely dependant on others for transportation is humiliating, frustrating and depressing.

I can understand that you would like some appreciation from her for showing her such kindness, I wonder, how often did people repay Jesus? Is it possible we could? I don't remember any stories about anyone even thanking him, save for the one leper. Your reward will be in Heaven. "If you have done this for the least of these my brethren, you have done it for me."

:wub:

Yes, I have experienced the humiliation of being without a vehicle many times and have had to ask for help. However, I have never taken advantage of or abused the generosity of those who have extended a helping hand to me. Yes, we all have troubles, and we all need help occasionally. But, that doesn

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Lovinghim I think you have certainly gone the extra mile!! :whistling: In my experience, people like this just take more and more from you and I don't think you do them a service by enabling that!

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As long as there is no cost to her, why should she change? Until she has some pain associated with her behavoiur she will not change.

I am without a car and have been for years. Two words: Public transportation. A few bus or cab rides will teach her true humility.

i am kicking myself that I didn't take better notes when June Hunt talked about this stuff on Hope in the Night. :whistling::whistling:

There are all kinds of bits in Proverbs that apply to this

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You lay down the rules...this is how it is if you want to ride with me...

leave emotion out of it...

forget about yesterday and start over...

be respectful of her needs and demand she be respectful of yours..

if she can't be then let her find another way...

I have to ask for rides as I have no car now as my dh totaled it..

I offer gas money or any other way of repaying whom ever helps me..

It is only right...

I didn't always treat people with such respect and had to learn..

apparently so does she..so help her learn.. :whistling:

Bless you..learning to deal with people can be hard sometimes...

for everyone.. :whistling:

gotta run again..storms coming... :whistling:

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Thank you all for your input. I believe it's time I talk to this girl and explain my feelings.

(Very calmly of course). :whistling:

However, it seems to be more difficult than I anticipated. :whistling:

I have always been able to voice my opinions and stand up for my beliefs; sometimes to a fault. :thumbsup:

I don't understand why this one has been so difficult. Does anyone have any ideas? :whistling:

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I really am a very positive person, so please forgive me for this long post that sounds so negative. I just need to vent!

This certain girl works where I work. Several years ago she filed for bankruptcy, lost her car and has ever since been bumming rides from anyone she can.

A few years ago she began asking me for rides. I didn

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Perhaps if you set the "ground rules" ahead of time by having a frank and honest conversation about what you will and will not do to assist her. That you expect her to pitch in for gas money etc. Extra trips are only at a minimum.... find others to pitch in, this may help both of you out. Sometimes a dependent person needs a push to be independent and take responsibility for themselves. Yes, is so annoying but compare your action to Jesus laying down His life, and well it pales doesn't it? I would have to crucify the flesh continue to help, but set the expectation of what this person is responsible for. Oh and how can she "pay back" your kindness? Some effort on her part does a long way to pushing for her to take ownership of the situation. I notice a "victim mentality" in this person, in the mind of a person this "justifies" alot of actions that it shouldn't.

OH YES AND LEAD THIS PERSON TO JESUS THAT WOULD HELP THEM THE MOST

Hang in there and pray for God's intervention.

God Bless You for you giving heart.

Bethany

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