Choosing to have children without a man...

[firehill]

firehill................did you just agree with me?

You bet! Eh, there's some nasty parents out there who's children should be adopted out and into foster care.

[firehill]

Shalom Firehill,

Welcome back!!

Thanks, Vickilynn. I've been around here and there a bit.

[Scarletprayers]

firehill................did you just agree with me?

You bet!

It doesn't happen often enough, this is cause for celebration!

[firehill]

firehill................did you just agree with me?

You bet!

It doesn't happen often enough, this is cause for celebration!

I'm all for it!

[MorningGlory]

What do you think of single modern day women who choose to have invitro and/or adopt without a man. DO you think it is selfish? Do you think the children will lack without a dad? And...what do you think of a child whose dad is frozen popsicle, would that affect them negatively?

A friend of mine did exactly that; she went to a 'bank' and became pregnant that way. Her reasoning? She was 39 years old, had never had a relationship with a man or been married, and wanted at least one child before it was too late. Is that selfish motivation? I don't know. The child is very bright and seems well adjusted but, and I never voice this, I wonder how she will grow up without the influence of a father? She has already asked about her father. Imagine not being able to tell the child anything about him! I don't judge this woman, she loves her child and does the best she can for her. I just know it would not have been right for me, personally.

[Guest crinago]

Yup, I daresay it's selfishness. It will greatly affect the child's whole personality as he grows up. The child needs both parents for him to carefully balance his personality be it emotionally, spiritually or mentally. Without a father, the child can't help but wonder how other children who have both parents feel.

Edited July 3, 2007 by crinago

[Vickilynn]

Shalom,

Nothing selfish about it. It's UNselfish to give a child a loving, G-dly home and teach them about the love of Jesus. It's a sacrifice to do that and we are not to judge someone else's motives. G-d can bring G-dly men into the child's lilfe, through church, family, friends etc. There have been many wonderful Christian people raised with one parent, or none.

[Guest LadyC]

vicki,

it's selfish to open your home up to a child IF that child stands a good chance of being adopted by a 2 parent home. for a single person to only open their home up to a newborn, or to get IVF so that she can bear a child of her own without a father for the child, is utterly selfish.

if a single person wants a child, and is truly unselfish, there are thousands upon thousands of children who are past the goo-goo-gaa-gaa stage that are unlikely to ever get adopted.

[Marnie]

Shalom,

Well, I don't mind being the one in the crowd with the different opinion!

I believe a single woman can give a child a loving, healthy and G-dly home in the right circumstances.

I believe we should do as G-d leads us, not as others think.

If I were single and wanted a child, I would adopt and give a child a loving home. In a heartbeat!

AMEN AND AMEN

[Marnie]

Yup, I daresay it's selfishness. It will greatly affect the child's whole personality as he grows up. The child needs both parents for him to carefully balance his personality be it emotionally, spiritually or mentally. Without a father, the child can't help but wonder how other children who have both parents feel.

Nope, sorry. You are dead wrong on all counts. Ideally, a child should have both a father and a mother. However, one parent doing the job properly will produce a child full of confidence and ashamed of nothing. For that matter, I am not sure what country you live in, but the sad statistics say over 40% of children today are being raised in one parent or step parent households. I'd say that child you gave as an example is in good company. I say that, not happily, mind you, but merely stating the reality of 21st century America.