I am absolutly terrible at keeping the house clean.

[sotphmfm]

I think the thing that bothered me most was that she was holding a standard over me that she didn't hold over herself.

Being a mom I have taught my children things that I thought were cute or cool until I saw them do it. WHOA!!

Wait a minute that wasn't so cute or cool after all. And I had to admit to them that I should have never done that and I expect them not to do it again, sometimes I've taken it a step further and told them that if they see me do it to remind me that it wasn't acceptible behavior. Perhaps I shouldn't have given my children this much power but I look at it more as a team effort to do what is right in the long run. As they grow into adulthood I hope to have a great communication with them so that we can agree to disagree if necessary.

Not everyone can admit they were wrong with ease. Some people simply don't think they can do it.

I don't know you or your mother so please don't take this wrong. I love to help people even in the slightest way and sometimes I know I could be way out in left field but perhaps you both should agree to calmly talk about what bothers you and agree to end the conversation if it starts to heat up and continue later. If it does heat up think first what you could have said different in the conversation instead of what she said. I am not trying to accuse you of anything like I said I don't know, I'm not there, I just had this come to me and decided to put it in.

Maybe someone needed to read this that has nothing to do with this post at all. I don't know. I've never been one to write alot and I'm trying to learn to hear God's voice and have come to the conclusion that if you don't act when you think he's guiding you then you will never learn the difference between his voice and your own.

Great Love to all

[F8thNJesus]

I read Under Cover . It is abook concerning authority figures over you. It points out the blessings of God when you submit.It is very hard reading for me, and I thought the author was just speaking to christians with christian parents, and then he pointed out that too. Ouch SO i was convicted by the Lord to HOnor my mother and father. I do not wish to shed bad light on her. I lived with her when we had two of our children, and I rented from her as well. It was very hard. Especially for my husband because I would work myself todeath trying to please her. There are times we have to stand up for ourselves out of love, but only when if we don't it could cause adverse affects on ourselves or others. I have had to cut the apron strings, and accept that to keep a loving relationship with my mother, I cannot be around her for very long. I am so thankful for our home, and I know that when I was living with my mother, the Lord was telling me for a long time to step out in faith and find a home for rent we could afford. I was so scared to even take a first step, that we stayed their a lot longer than we should have. Pray everyday for you mother. Bless her with prayers lifted up to the father. It will help not only her but you as well live in peace. I would see what God's will is concerning you staying there. IF it is his will for you to stay there, then he will give you strength and wisdom how to balance everything. If it isn't, then step out and pray for new doors to open for you.

Another tid bit. My mom couldn't stand someone being inher space. If my sweet tea was in front of her unsweetened, in the fridge, she would say she felt raped. Maybe just maybe staying out of her room, and making sure everybody respects that place as Granny's sanctuary, then she might feel you are making an effort. Even if it means the boys can't be onthe computer. Or if when she gets home the first place she goes to relax is completely tidy, and no one is in there it might help her unwind and be more receptive to other untidiness.

[Emily~Anne]

I just wanna throw this in

I am a ho hum housekeeper, it wasn't and isn't that important to me, I was however a pretty good mom raising 3 kids by myself.

My sister, well you could have ate off her floors, her kids could get out 1 toy at a time, and couldn't get another out until the first one was put up.

Guess where her kids LOVED to stay????

Now that they are all grown, when we all get together and start one of those "do you remember when" conversations, her kids and mine talk about all the fun times at my house. They are all strangely silent about her house.

It hurts her feelings and she has loosened up alot, but kinda late now, it is working alot better for her grandchildren though.

When I die, and my children, grandchildren and various and sundry relatives are standing around, I don't want the only thing they can think of to say about me is "Well, she was a really good housekeeper"

This is a good reminder that our focus should be more towards beng a homemaker rather than a housekeeper.

[sweetycakes]

I think y'all should come to my house.

I'm sure that the experience would make you all feel good about yourselves.

[Scarletprayers]

I just wanna throw this in

I am a ho hum housekeeper, it wasn't and isn't that important to me, I was however a pretty good mom raising 3 kids by myself.

My sister, well you could have ate off her floors, her kids could get out 1 toy at a time, and couldn't get another out until the first one was put up.

Guess where her kids LOVED to stay????

Now that they are all grown, when we all get together and start one of those "do you remember when" conversations, her kids and mine talk about all the fun times at my house. They are all strangely silent about her house.

It hurts her feelings and she has loosened up alot, but kinda late now, it is working alot better for her grandchildren though.

When I die, and my children, grandchildren and various and sundry relatives are standing around, I don't want the only thing they can think of to say about me is "Well, she was a really good housekeeper"

This is a good reminder that our focus should be more towards beng a homemaker rather than a housekeeper.

Amen, Emily Anne, Amen!

And sweetycakes, no..................................

[kari21]

You should see my bedroom sometimes...I need radar to find the bed.

....I used a homing pigeon once...but it got lost and starved to death.

Edited August 5, 2007 by kari19

[Emily~Anne]

You should see my bedroom sometimes...I need radar to find the bed.

....I used a homing pigeon once...but it got lost and starved to death.

My weak spot is our family room carpet. I have come to just accept that it is riddled with stains.

[Scarletprayers]

You should see my bedroom sometimes...I need radar to find the bed.

....I used a homing pigeon once...but it got lost and starved to death.

poor birdy!

[ladypeartree]

stains are memories that you grow to love

[sweetycakes]

stains are memories that you grow to love

Now that I understand!

My stains depict all kinds of wonderful scenes in my imagination. I just wouldn't feel 'at home' without them.

Darn those carpet-cleaning contraption thingys