Where would your boundary be in a relationship with a wiccan relative?

[Emily~Anne]

Just wondering, if you had a relative, whom you love dearly, yet she is wiccan, where would your boundary be in the relationship? Pretend you have two children to think of. Would you be willing to stay with your family at her house for a week or so? Or would you only want her to stay at your house? Or would you use a hotel when you went to see her or had her come see you? Would you allow her to talk on the phone wth your children? Would it depend on the spiritual maturity of your children? How would you go about it?

[kitty1]

My mother is I would say pretty close to that. She beleives in witches and admirers them and swears like nothing I have ever known.

As for staying at her house, no because she is close by, but she is very self absorbed and doesn't pay any attention to my kids, and pretty much uses me for transportation and money. But I use that to talk about God. She calls me a bible thumper and rolls her eyes. I beleive the more I talk to her about God, maybe one day a seed will be planted and grow.

[Guest Biblicist]

Just wondering, if you had a relative, whom you love dearly, yet she is wiccan, where would your boundary be in the relationship? Pretend you have two children to think of. Would you be willing to stay with your family at her house for a week or so? Or would you only want her to stay at your house? Or would you use a hotel when you went to see her or had her come see you? Would you allow her to talk on the phone wth your children? Would it depend on the spiritual maturity of your children? How would you go about it?

I will say one thing for your topics EmilyAnne, they are thought provoking. Obviously, your children must be the first concern. If it was me, no matter how I felt personally about this relative, I wouldn't stay at her home ever, and wouldn't invite her to stay at my home. A hotel is a much better way to go. If my children did talk to her on the phone, I would be listening on another extention, and would cut off the converstation if it turned towards religion. No matter how spiritually mature you think your kids are, they could be deceived, so I wouldn't leave them alone with her ever.

Wise words Butero.

I would also add that there is nothing wrong with limiting your children's time with family members that do not believe in Christ, or even Christians that may hinder your children's walk with their hypocrisy. It's no different than sheltering them from unsaved friends in school or the neighborhood.

[David of Derby]

Just wondering, if you had a relative, whom you love dearly, yet she is wiccan, where would your boundary be in the relationship? Pretend you have two children to think of. Would you be willing to stay with your family at her house for a week or so? Or would you only want her to stay at your house? Or would you use a hotel when you went to see her or had her come see you? Would you allow her to talk on the phone wth your children? Would it depend on the spiritual maturity of your children? How would you go about it?

Are you serious? My sister is pagan, and if I had a child I wouldn't have any hesitation letting that child stay with her, letting her babysit, staying with her on holiday, putting her up, whatever. I trust her completely, I love her unconditionally and I'd trust my child completely and love my child unconditionally. Any child of mine would be free to choose their own faith, and if they turned wiccan or whatever, they'd still have my love, support and acceptance. I don't think I'd even have my child baptised until they were old enough to ask for it. I don't believe in indoctrinating children.

I don't consider any member of my family to be a risk to myself or any child I might have, and I'm pretty sure my pagan sister wouldn't mind leaving any child of hers with their Christian uncle. I wouldn't go trying to convert them and she wouldn't try to convert my kids.

Honestly, do some of you actually think like this? Do you not trust your own family? I can't imagine living like that, worrying if my sister is trying to corrupt my children behind my back, or staying in a hotel because I don't trust her enough to go to sleep in the same building as her...

[tsth]

I think you have to evaluate what message you are modeling to your children by what you are willing to abide with. In other words, you're in essence telling them that it is ok to have fellowship with someone/something that you believe to be extremely dangerous or possibly a bad influence. Yet, I'm sure you're going to encounter a time when you are going to be instructing your children to be wise in their choices of friends/etc. So, is this a problem in the longrun? I would have to think so. It will be confusing for them in the future with regard to the choices they may need to make, in the company they keep.

Personally, I would not be exposing my kids to this, and I would explain in detail, why.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Guest LadyC]

my daughter (oldest one) is involved in the whole wiccan/pagan/mysticism thing. she can't really make up her mind exactly what she is.

i allow her to stay in my home. i have no objection to her being around my other daughter's son. i just cover them, and my home, with prayer. she's not allowed to bring her occultic stuff into my home, nor is she allowed to practice it in my home.

when i visit her, i stay with her. i don't try to push my beliefs on her and expect her to show me the same regard. i keep a prayer covering over myself and my environment when i'm there... that includes her, her home, her husband and friends, and soon will include her own baby.

if this were a more distant relative, i think it would be a different story. but it's not a more distant relative.. it's my daughter. and i am praying for her salvation. under no circumstances would me or anyone in my immediate family alienate her because of her rebellious belief system.

[~~ angelique ~~]

I have only been a believer for less than a month. If the Wiccan is your family, what is more important: Wicca or the fact that she is flesh and blood. My family stayed with me just fine and I didn't share my beliefs with them or them with me. The main focus was that we were flesh and blood family. I had to stay with a high school friend last year who is baptist. She knows of my beliefs and wasn't freaked to have me around her little girl because I repect her and love her. I guess it would depend on your spiritual sensitivity as well. If you are spiritually sensitive, then even if topics aren't being discussed, you may feel them anyway. Just don't confuse being spiritually sensitive with spiritual danger.

Everyone keeps telling me that the blood of Jesus is strong so why not pray it and fellowship with your sister?

[Guest LadyC]

i'm gonna take issue with that one.

does training up a child in the way he or she should grow, mean that we raise them to reject anyone who doesn't know Christ? does it mean we teach them to alienate their unsaved family?

or does it mean we teach them the TRUTH, and that we teach them to TRUST JESUS?

i think it means the latter.

emily, here is my advice, take it or leave it. teach your children that your relative is into the occult, and that it is very bad, and teach them to PRAY for her, and over her. make it a part of your bedtime routine every night. make it clear to your relative that she is not to discuss her beliefs with your kids at any time.

if your children start acting out in a very negative way, or having nightmares, or something like that when they have been exposed to the relative, then by all means remove your child from that situation and explain why to the relative. and if you're not diligent in keeping a prayer covering over the circumstances, you will without a doubt have some negative consequences.

but if you ARE diligent in prayer, there is no reason to doubt that God will protect your children, and at the same time, you will be doing as God commands you to do... training your child up to be compassionate, loving, and prayerful. you'll be teaching your child reliance on God. and your silent witness to your relative may very well bring them to Christ.

[Phantasia]

I had to stay with a high school friend last year who is baptist. She knows of my beliefs and wasn't freaked to have me around her little girl because I repect her and love her.

? Do you not consider Baptists to be Christians then?

[~~ angelique ~~]

I had to stay with a high school friend last year who is baptist. She knows of my beliefs and wasn't freaked to have me around her little girl because I repect her and love her.

? Do you not consider Baptists to be Christians then?

How is that relevant to the OP's question?