Parents so called rights

[hippo's hope is HIM]

I have been told lately that it was a parents rights to know certain things, that it was there right for such and such.

And my dad's favorite line is because I am the parent, and it is my right.

What have I missed?? What are these rights all you parents out there???

[Guest yod]

Since they are responsible for your welfare and wisdom, they have the right to know everything about you.

Since they are the ones who love you enough to raise you, they have the spiritual authority to make decisions about what is in your best interest.

Since you are to honor your Father and Mother according to the Big 10, you better comply!!!

The own the publishing rights to you

You are their property and responsibility until you are (at least) 18

[Guest LadyC]

a child has the right to food, shelter, love, clothing, and education. all else is gravy.

a parent has the responsibility of providing everything, including any gravy that they may find the child deserving of. therefore they have all rights.

keep in mind, the government has stripped away many of a parent's LEGAL rights. but they can never strip parents of their moral rights.

your parents cease to have rights over what you do, who you hang out with, what time you come home, etc. etc. only when the child has reached the age of 18 and moved out on their own. if they turn 18 and stay at home, then parents will automatically forfiet many of their rights... but as long as the child lives under the parents roof and is supported by them financially, the parents will retain some of them!

[hippo's hope is HIM]

This makes no sense to me. what does age have to do with right??

and what rights?????????

Why would my mom need to know something......i.e. if it is going to hurt her, and bring pain upon her???

I just don't get it.

oh btw please don't tell me I will understand when I have kids. I just am trying to grasp this concept

[BoldlyProclaimingChrist]

Legally, you are still a minor if you are under 18. Even if you are over 18 and still live with your parents, you are to obey them. The only time you wouldn't is if what they're telling you goes against God.

I never had a lock on my bedroom door growing up and my parents came and went as they pleased but I understood that it was their house. I respected their rules, washed my own clothes, bought my own food, paid rent when I got a job, and could NOT DATE ANYONE. My dad monitored all incoming and outgoing phone calls and sometimes eavesdropped on me. While this may seem strict, I can see why they did it which was for my own good. I couldn't get into as much trouble as I would have liked.

[Guest LadyC]

This makes no sense to me. what does age have to do with right??

and what rights?????????

Why would my mom need to know something......i.e. if it is going to hurt her, and bring pain upon her???

I just don't get it.

oh btw please don't tell me I will understand when I have kids. I just am trying to grasp this concept

i'm beginning to think i don't understand what you don't understand! :oww:

here's what age has to do with it... your parents are legally responsible for your behavior until you reach the predefined age which the government has established... i.e. 18. that means that if you are 17 and go out and vandalize a neighbor's house, steal a car, beat the tar out of some kid, or blow someone's brains out, you are not the only one that can be dragged through our legal system. your parents can and very well may be held equally responsible for your actions, may at the very least pay exhorbitant amounts of money in punitive damages, medical bills or property damages, legal fees for both you and the defendant, and at the very worst may also serve time in jail... and while the latter doesn't happen often, it does occur. if a child under the age of 18 tries to perpetrate harm on himself, for instance, suicide, the parent can be charged with neglect and have to be drug through our legal system.

when you reach the age of 18, the parents can never again be held legally accountable for anything you do. by law, that responsibility for your actions becomes solely you're own.

because parents invest so much time, money, and emotion into their child's lives, and because they are legally accountable for their child's actions, they not only have the inalienable right, but the absolute responsibility to know if that child is exhibiting behavior that could be harmful to himself or others... even if knowing is going to cause the parent emotional harm.

however, if after the age of 18 you still live at home with your parents, they could be held accountable for certain things... for example, if you're 19, living at home, and are busted for cooking meth in the basement, because it occurs on the parents property, they are going to jail without a doubt.

now, given that i know a little about your history and what your mom probably is pressuring you to tell her, she still has the obligation to protect other family members... and other members of society. once you open up the bag, you have to let the whole cat come out. i know it's not easy... and i fully empathize with your situation. it might be wise to get a third party involved... a counselor or pastor. feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

[irishcowboy]

Parents are required to provide certain things to the children, but also if the child gets into trouble, the parent can also be held responsible for the childs actions...

so, as a parent, if I am going to be held responsible for the actions of my children, then I willl also be responsible for all that my child does, and that also means I will be poking my nose into the things my child brings into this house and who they are hanging with.....

is that being nosy? or taking away privacy??? possibly, but I also have to watch out for myself, my wife, and the other children in this household, to ensure their safety and security......

if one of the children error, they are responsible for making it right.... what are my rights? as a father, and a parent???? to maintain a nice secure quite household with out evil or danger infiltrating it.... so I will protect it as I see fit, for the government has lost sight of what is right and what is wrong, i will not rely on them to make the decissions for me as to what I can and can not do.....

mike

[Guest LadyC]

beth, let me put it another way... your parents had a right to know... and if they HAD known, they would have been able to protect you. now don't you wish they had been able to protect you?

you can't change the past, but don't you want to help change the future, so that someone else can be protected the way you weren't?

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[salt and light]

My wife and I have the right to tell our two small children when to go to bed,when to get up,what to eat,what not to eat,do a particular chore if they are able to, and if the Lord tarries,when they are 18,and still living under our roof, we still have the right to expect them to get a job and help out a little bit, and help out around the house,and we have the right to expect them to let us know where they are going,and what time they will be back,and we expect no back talk. Since they are small right now, we have a right to go into their bedrooms whenever we need to without knocking first,and we will knock if they reach the age of 17 or 18 out of respect for their privacy,as long as they give us no reason to be suspicious of hiding something from us, and no matter how old they get, we have a right to expect them to be in Church with us every Sunday morning,and Sunday night,and Wed. night bible study,and until they are 18 and out of the house, we have a right to decide if a boy is decent enough to take out our daughter,and if a girl is decent enough for our son to take out. I believe that my wife and I as parents do have those rights,especially if I'm working 2 jobs like I've been doing for the last 10 years,and paying all the bills,and my wife is cooking,and washing and cleaning etc. Children have the right to a decent home,with plenty of clothes and food and beds and toys etc.,and they have the right to do as they are told and show respect for their parents.

[WayneB]

I have been told lately that it was a parents rights to know certain things, that it was there right for such and such.

And my dad's favorite line is because I am the parent, and it is my right.

What have I missed?? What are these rights all you parents out there???

Hey sister Beth,

Speaking from a Christian perspective...

Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2"Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise-- 3"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." 4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

---Children have been commanded to "obey and honor" their parents and living your life as an "open book" so to speak is part of that. Children must obey their parents in order to learn self-disciple and respect and many times their witness is reflected in how they treat and respond to their parents.

---Parents have been commanded not to exasperate their children. In other words, we are not to place unreasonable demands on them without concerns for their feelings and in turn build resentment. We are responsible for teaching them right from wrong...God expects that and even secular society expects that. It is a tough job...I raised two man children and it wasn't easy. I made many mistakes but when they grew into men, they came to realize that it was out of love that I disciplined them and held the bar high.

The family was created by God for us to learn how to relate to Him, our heavenly Father. If we refuse to submit to the authority of our earthly father, how can we ever learn to submit to our heavenly Father? Jesus taught that we are to submit to the authority of earthly rulers and that even includes Godless leaders and parents but ONLY up to the point that submission to them does not interfere with our relationship with Him, our Heavenly Father.

Does any of that make sense sis?

Know that I love you and you are always in my prayers,

Wayne