Question?Am I damned to Hell? :(

[Amaan]

CSA:

Child Sexual Abuse...

I forgive all things described above done to me...

However, I hate myself due to a condition of being in sexual trauma. If I hate myself and don't forgive myself, does that = Hell for me?

[Floatingaxe]

CSA:

Child Sexual Abuse...

I forgive all things described above done to me...

However, I hate myself due to a condition of being in sexual trauma. If I hate myself and don't forgive myself, does that = Hell for me?

Hell is reserved for those who refuse God's free gift of salvation, and would rather pay for their sins themselves. If you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Saviour and want to make Him Lord of your life, then you have a home with Jesus--no matter what trials you are going through. We are all damaged goods, Amaan! But Jesus and His extreme love and compassion raises us out of that pit of despair and up onto the solid rock, the high ground of the Kingdom of God! It is a life for overcoming, and Jesus gives us the strength and fortitude to overcome!

There is no need to turn your traumatic experiences against yourself in self-loathing. Knowing Jesus will help you view your situation with His perfectly right perspective. You will discover just who you really are in Christ! Seek Him, press into Him by reading His Word and find Him faithful!

Blessings!

[Ovedya]

CSA:

Child Sexual Abuse...

I forgive all things described above done to me...

However, I hate myself due to a condition of being in sexual trauma. If I hate myself and don't forgive myself, does that = Hell for me?

Not at all.

Some things take more time to heal then others.

[Grace1479]

CSA:

Child Sexual Abuse...

I forgive all things described above done to me...

However, I hate myself due to a condition of being in sexual trauma. If I hate myself and don't forgive myself, does that = Hell for me?

No, i don't believe so, not if you are truly a child of God. But I want to ask you to ask God to help you in self forgiveness. Ask me I know. I was molested as a child up to teenage stage and couldn't forgive. Firstly I asked God to help me forgive those who sinned against me and when He did help me with that, He helped me to forgive myself. There is alot of other placed God had to help me with self forgiveness...a LOT of bad things. And believe me, He did. It took a very long time to get to that point, but it did.

Everytime I got the sick feeling of hate for myself, I tell satan to take it and buzz off, cause God forgave me, so who am I not to forgive myself.

[sweetycakes]

"Him that cometh unto me, I will in no wise cast out."

- Jesus

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The Father loveth the Son, and hath given all things into his hand. He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him. John 3:35-36

Or The Wrath Of God

Be Blessed Beloved Of The KING

The LORD bless thee, and keep thee:

The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:

The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.

And they shall put my name upon the children of Israel; and I will bless them. Numbers 6:24-27

Love, Your brother Joe

And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the LORD shall be delivered: for in mount Zion and in Jerusalem shall be deliverance, as the LORD hath said, and in the remnant whom the LORD shall call. Joel 2:32

[ayin jade]

Im sorry to hear about your abused past.

Have you had counseling for your trauma? It will help you.

Pray and ask Him to help you heal, to help you get past the hate and see yourself as He sees you. To love yourself. You may have to make this a daily prayer and it may take time. The hurts run very deep.

[damo1]

CSA:

Child Sexual Abuse...

I forgive all things described above done to me...

However, I hate myself due to a condition of being in sexual trauma. If I hate myself and don't forgive myself, does that = Hell for me?

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i have been were you are at and i can tell you no you will not go to hell

god will walk you threw this amaan and he wil put the right people around you to help you

have you tried christian counsling dont go to a secular counsler christian counsling is more better and the counsler will help you and guide you and it stays confident nothing goes out the door to the people the christian counsler knows

i am a 40 yr old male i am nearly 41 yrs old and at the age of 37 i was finaley able to forgive my own father amaan it was not easy it was hard i had a lot of trust issues i found it hard to trust authority figures and i could not trust a male i had more female freinds then i had male friends and for a man it was hard to seek the right help as i thought no man goes threw this and as a man it was shame on my part amaan i was

doing an emmause walk he died at the age of 51 were i wanted to face him forgive him and try to rebuild the relation ship that i never had with him i never got the chance to do this instead i wil be sitting on his grave when i come back from the philippines on the 7th of jan 2009 telling him that i forgive him i had no contac with my father from the age of 14yrs old

give it time pray for the right person amaan and dont tell those around you in your church no one needs to know its between you and god we have what you call gossipers amaan

we are human beings amaan and part of our flaw we love to gossip i am not comming down on the body of christ i had this happen to me and i had to rebuke the person were things were said in confidence it was going around the church and i dont know how much off it went into the community i had to come before god and i had to seek his guidance first before i confronted this person i thought i could trust

let the guilt go let the shame go and what ever is going on in your own thoughts let god heal you if you can amaan he knows what has been done to you he sees everything from above he is not a silley old man he sees what goes on from above

this is something you wil have to decide i cant force you to do this you are your own person

for me when i finaly let everything go it was like a weight that was lifted off me from the age of 7 to the age of 37 i hated my father i wished nothing but trouble over his life i wanted him dead amaan when the holy spirit would bring this to the surface for me to deal with and hand over to god i would block his convictions i would avoid discussing this with my own pastor and the people god had put in my path

my relation ship with women suffered the ones i had fallen for the relationships never really lasted long i could not love a women the way she should be loved amaan i could not open up to the women i had allowed into my life all i wanted was one thing and at times i could see my old man comming out in me i found it even hard to love my own child amaan i would push him towards his own mother i would never shower him even when i was asked to change his nappy and put clean clothes on him i struggled i had to call out to my first wife were our son started to ask questions when he would shower or bath with his mother i could not respond to his questions i refused to bath or shower with my own child

so i know were you are comming from and what you wil be dealing with and what will be going threw your thoughts dont beat your self up or feel bad for the questions going threw your own head

only you are the one who decides amaan and god will walk you threw this he wil not force him self on you or wil he throw what happend to you back at you right now he stands knocking and it is up to you if you open the door amaan and let him help you

also forgive your self you are not to blame even though this is eating at you forgive your self

God bless from damo