Relationship Question

[Blien]

Hi everyone, I need your help. My ex girlfriend who caused me much suffering and even physical pain contacted me recently. During the days earlier this year (Jan) when we broke up, I swore to myself I would never speak to her again but found myself keep coming back to her. I hated her but I loved her so much. I hated her because of how cruel and unsympathetic she can be. I loved her for all the wonderful little things she did. Someone told me that its not her that I liked but the idea of her. Maybe... but maybe not. I suspected she is evil because of somethings which didn't make sense about her. For example, she says she loves God and always tells me "God Bless You" but she is obsessed with looking good and how she appears to people. Is this the kind of life a christian leads? There were times also where I suspected she practices witchcraft and might be charming me. This is part of the reason why after I broke up with her I said to God. I WILL NEVER SPEAK TO HER AGAIN. Every time I am with her, Demon's attack me and my spiritual eyes open up.. are they attacking me to keep her away from me or are they attacking me because she is indeed evil? She never said that she is a witch or practices witchcraft but what born again christian would not get excited when someone mentions God? Whenever I spoke to her about God and what he's been doing in my life she just seems disinterested.. which made me question her.

Back to the original statement, she contacted me. Because of my promise to God I put her email in Junk Mail without replying but everyday my desire for her keep on growing. Its as if deep down inside I really wanted to be with her again... I know I do. But is it the idea of her or actually her. How is it someone can really hate someone and really love them? Every time I think about her my love grows... is this normal???? It can't be.. I seriously do not know.

I don't know what I'm asking for.. if someone has insight please do share it. If someone has experience please tell us! But if no one has any comment or anything, just pray for me.

[Hunterpoet]

If this were 25 years ago I'd swear we were dating the same woman.....my advice......RUN RUN RUN and don't look back.

[MorningGlory]

Blein, if you suspect that this girl is into the occult there is something that has given you reason to do so. No matter how beautiful someone is, if they have an evil heart, no good can come of having a relationship with them. I know you've read that we can't be unequally yoked and it's true. It's self destructive to tie yourself to someone who isn't a true believer or who is cruel to you. You deserve better than that! I will pray for you, brother.

[LadyRaven]

SOunds like a serious case of obession to me.

I'd leave it alone, run the other way, stay away from her.

[kross]

If you can keep your position in your walk, then try to remember that she is no different than anyone else who needs the truth.

Once you have separated from someone, you no longer have a position to help or influence them.

Find a spiritually strong church and take her there for as many functions as you can.

Or, RUN AWAY. GOD will still have HIS way in her life regardless.

The next time you go to church, look around. The entire church is full of people wrapped up in their looks or posessons. If you feel you are truly more mature in your walk than she is, such that you can look down on her weaknesses, than you are mature enough to maintain self control while trying to lead her to a greater understanding of how you feel a Christian should act.

Perhaps, you should take the time to lay out your feelings about lifestyle choices to her so she can see if she wants to fit into your expectations. That might end it right there. People do not like to think the person they are with is judging them.

[Blien]

If you can keep your position in your walk, then try to remember that she is no different than anyone else who needs the truth.

Once you have separated from someone, you no longer have a position to help or influence them.

Find a spiritually strong church and take her there for as many functions as you can.

Or, RUN AWAY. GOD will still have HIS way in her life regardless.

The next time you go to church, look around. The entire church is full of people wrapped up in their looks or posessons. If you feel you are truly more mature in your walk than she is, such that you can look down on her weaknesses, than you are mature enough to maintain self control while trying to lead her to a greater understanding of how you feel a Christian should act.

Perhaps, you should take the time to lay out your feelings about lifestyle choices to her so she can see if she wants to fit into your expectations. That might end it right there. People do not like to think the person they are with is judging them.

The fact is, I never judged her not once. I always looked at her with love even when things were hard even when she did things that really made me hate her. One time she refused to go out with me because I was overweight... the other times she kept mentioning how I should walk more often. Another thing she did which broke my heart is that she would call me childish or immature and when I asked her to tell me about it so that we can work it out she refused to tell me! That relationship was not healthy at all... I found myself at time so angry with her that I would get sick and couldn't even get out of bed. Seriously. So thats why I cut it loose with her. We are not dating anymore and its been close to 9 months since we've talked over the phone or in person. I have no desire to go back to her, but something is pushing me to.. if I had my wits about me I would tell you its the Devil or some Occultic practice doing this.. but there are so many variables and I have a problem with remembering all the good times. I want to see the best in people.. this however is not always the best thing.

During our final days together I prayed to God to save her because I've done all I can and (if you belive it) a flash of white light appeared in my room and scared me half to death as if I car was in my room or train.. But I knew it was God's Hand so I praised God for it. I promised to Him I would never speak to her again or go near her.... but this woman drive me mad! Desire, my friends, desire is killing me!

Want to know something else? In our language, her name is translated "our desire"... scary

[pokemaughan]

If she's going to drag you down, it's not worth your eternity. But if you look at it like an oppurtunity to establish a discipleship with a sister in need, then there could be something there for you. Ultimately you can't stand half on the Rock, and half in the sinking sand... so it could be God's will that you pull her out, or it could be God's will that you are tested in your faith. No one can honestly tell you one way or the other- it's up to you what you decide to do. I myself would want to help someone who has slipped from the path... but I lack the capacity to lead someone right now. I can hardly keep myself up, nonetheless another person.

So ya... every situation is tailored to YOU and YOU only. Read the Bible, pray for help, and make a decision. Don't wait around for a miraculous sign- God gave you the capacity to make right decisions, through counsel and the Holy Spirit.

I hope that wasn't too confusing.

God bless, brother

[Blien]

If this were 25 years ago I'd swear we were dating the same woman.....my advice......RUN RUN RUN and don't look back.

Sorry to hear you had to go through this bro. How long did it take for you to get over her?

[Blien]

Blein, if you suspect that this girl is into the occult there is something that has given you reason to do so. No matter how beautiful someone is, if they have an evil heart, no good can come of having a relationship with them. I know you've read that we can't be unequally yoked and it's true. It's self destructive to tie yourself to someone who isn't a true believer or who is cruel to you. You deserve better than that! I will pray for you, brother.

Thank you for praying I really need it. And you are right, if something has motioned me that she's doing something occultic I probably was a good reason. Before I met her I had such a strong spirit, like Samson completely unpenitrable.. but now I just find myself weak and unable to resist things like this. Isn't it amazing? Samson's demise was an bad relationship as well...

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