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Kali_Ko_Kat

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  1. Knowing where you are going and seeing it are 2 different things. I certainly didn't see anything but I knew where I would go if Jan. 10, 2007 had been my last day on earth. When I came to and saw the ceiling of the trauma room my first thought was that heaven looked like a room in the hospital ER. When the pain that felt like my chest was on fire hit me, when people were telling me to be still, I knew I was alive.
  2. Who are we to judge whether someone is a Christian or a phoney? If someone says he/she is a Christian we should believe them. Granted some Christians don't act like they are one, but it still not our place to make that determination. If they are phoney time will reveal them for what they really are. Only God is the judge and He knows the state of their heart.
  3. The Bible does not specifically say interracial marriage is wrong. To many people take what it does say out of context. What it does say is do not be yoked to unbelievers. One of the passages taken out of context is Deuteronomy 7:3-4 which says "3) You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, 4) for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly." What they fail to do is recognize WHY that is commanded. It was not because of racial differences. It is purely religious. God was sending His children into a land occupied by non-believers. His was a warning that after they conquered the land they should not marry the unbelievers. This would lead them away from Him and into the worship of idols. The New Testament also addresses this in several places. 2nd Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” There is no place in the life of the Christian for favoritism based on partiality, in this case race. (James 2:1-10). The Bible is very clear about selecting a mate. One should always find out first is the person they are interested in is born again by faith in Jesus. Faith in Christ is the biblical standard for choosing a spouse. With both interracial marriage and non-interacial marriage it is not a matter of right or wrong, but of wisdom, discernment, and prayer. I dare anyone to tell me that son and daughter-in-law's marriage is a "sin". He is a white boy from Alabama. She is Colombian, which makes her Hispanic. FWIW, my daughter's first husband is from Puerto Rico. That makes him Hispanic. All 4 of them are Christians, therefore they followed the biblical principle for marriage. Both my children have daughters. Again, I dare anyone to tell me those 2 precious gifts from God are the products of a "sinful" marriage. Having said all that, immorality is nothing new. It's been a part of this world since Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit. Every generation has decried the lack of morality and how it is leading to the world's downfall. "The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they allow disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children now are tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.” Attributed to Socrates by Plato All you have to do is read the Bible to find out what immorality is mentioned in it. *edited to correct a spelling error*
  4. Thank you for saying that. If you had not, I would have. I know parents who did everything right. They brought their children up in a Christian home. The taught them morals and values. They did not over-indulge their children. They were not super-strict but did set limits. Somewhere along the way the kids went astray. The parents did everything they could to get the child back on the right path. Sometimes they suceeded, sometimes they did not. In all cases the parents blamed themselves, wondering what they did wrong, what they could have done differently to prevent it. The truth is they did nothing wrong and could not have prevented it. Some of the children got caught up in life of crime. Others turned to drugs and/or alcohol. Still others made a stupid decision to drink, even though they were not of legal age, and then drive and got caught. On the other hand, I know parents who did everything wrong yet their children turned out to be adults who are caring, kind, moral, fine upstanding citizens. Others may affected by a chemical imbalance in their brains, or may have suffered a head injury which causes their personality to change. Sure there are times when a parent is to blame for what a child does. There are parents who teach their kids how to steal or introduce them to drugs and alcohol. Just last night I watched a true crime story on tv about a dysfunctional family. The 2 kids wanted to kill their abusive father. When approached the mother was all for it. She helped plan how they would kill him. Should a parent be blamed? Not always.
  5. Thank you for clarifying what you meant. One breast exposed is not nude. NUDE is the whole body being unclothed, exposing the full body. In other words completely naked, in your birthday suit. You are of course free to define nude however you want.
  6. o Why would it be a problem for "especially the unsaved"? I know plenty of unsaved men and women it would not be a problem for and it would not cause them to stumble. And I know many Christians who do find it to be a problem who may stumble. One would hope they would not but being human it is a possibility. Everyone, whether saved or not, is subject to whatever problems it may cause. Depending on the position of the baby sometimes not all the breast is exposed. I see more exposed from the low cut tops and dresses women wear-the kind where it looks like "the girls" will pop out of it. I'd much rather see a nursing mother than what I see on some women walking around the grocery store, mall, WalMart or sitting at the table next to me in a restaurant. Those are the tops which make you think "the girls" will pop out of the top. With these women you see both of them, not just a portion of one. THAT can be a big stumbling block, especially for men who focus only on that. Some people equate breastfeeding with something dirty or shameful when it is not either of those things.
  7. That's pretty cool that you had 3 babies and mommies all nursing at the same time. Children are a blessing from God. I think I understand what you're saying Kali in bold. However, as to this in bold did you ever think how dirty those places were? God bless, GE The 3 of us still talk about that day when we were sitting on the bedroom floor, backs against the bed, with our babies. As to the public restrooms I was well aware of how dirty they can be. That's why I took paper towels, rubbing alcoholor vodka because both are disinfectants, an empty wipes container and made my own disinfecting wipes. I used them to wipe down the stall I was in. I would then use regular wipes to make sure the alcohol was washed off my hands. We don't know whose hands have been touching anything and where those hands have been. If I had to nurse today I could use Clorox clean up wipes which were not available way back then. BTW, even today after I wash my hands I use a paper towel to open the door when I leave the bathroom. No paper towels? No problem because I keep a small bag of wipes in my purse.
  8. If I had to nurse my child while away from home I always found a private place to do it. In some cases at night I would take him out to the car and do it there. No one would have known what was going on unless they peered directly in the window. If at anytime I was at someone else's home I would go into another room and close the door. When my son was less than a month old, we had Thanksgiving at my parents-in-law's house. There were 3 babies there: mine, a 10 week old and a 5 month old. We moms borrowed a bedroom and nursed in that room. All 3 of us at the same time. Since it was just us we did not cover. For public places I would take the kid into the public restroom, close a stall door, and nurse there. While it doesn't bother me to see uncovered, my personal preference would be covered if there was no private place to nurse.
  9. By the way, there is a Biblical basis for suing someone. And trust me, I have tried to settle my issue with the man. In fact, he promised me 2 times he would pay me. One time he told me that "in 2 weeks I will be paying you in full". Another time he told me "I will bring you part of the money after I get off work this evening". Even though I did not believe him, I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and was hopeful he meant what he said. That 2 weeks expired last October. Now for the Biblical basis. If the biblical pattern for reconciliation has been followed and the offending party is still in the wrong, in some instances a lawsuit might be justified. Matthew 18:15–17 ]15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. In my case, I have witnesses to his statements that he will repay me as soon as possible. One of them is his daddy. We didn't tell it to the church because he does not go to church. Even if he did, I would not do that because this does not pertain to a spiritual matter. Should Christians take each other to court over church matters? Absolutely not! Should Christians take each other to court over civil matters? If it can in any way be avoided, no. Should Christians take non-Christians to court over civil matters? Again, if it can be avoided, no. However, in some instances, such as the protection of our own rights it may be appropriate to pursue a legal solution. man, you missed the point. I do NOT covet his money or anything of his. I certainly don't covet his dog. I would not have his dog. ALL I WANT IS FOR HIM TO REPAY ME WHAT HE OWES ME. No more, no less. I hope you NEVER have to go through what my family did on Feb. 13, 2012. I hope YOU never have to watch a 4 year old child throw up because she is terrified. I hope YOU never have to hear that child ask are the doors locked (they were that night) so the bad man won't come in again and if the doors are locked when we leave so the bad man won't come in and kill the dogs. I hope YOU never have to see the terror that child still shows whenever someone knocks on the door. THESE are the things that mere money will not help with. The only recourse I have is to get MY money to replace perfectly good things. We had to put a new roof on hold because we had to replace those things. Today I am still waiting to get it back so I can get the roof. I can be grateful that he hasn't lied to me anymore with his promises to get it to me. The amount is less than $1000. For me, that might as well be a million dollars because I am not wealthy and as I stated my bank account took a big hit and has not recovered.
  10. At this time, I am considering a situation where I might have to sue someone. Without going into details, that person owes me money for damages to items that I had to replace. I had to spend MY money to replace those items. I am the one whose bank account took a hit because of his stupid actions. I do not covet anything the guy has. He doesn't have anything for me to covet. And if I have to force him to give me what he has-money-then I will do so. Hopefully the case is settled soon and he abides by the court order to make restitution. If not, I will use any legal means to get him to repay me. If that means a lawsuit, so be it. If he can't fork over the money and his assets have to be seized and sold then fine with me, although I doubt this would ever happen because the fool has no assets. The only other thing left would be to garnish his work wages, and I have no qualms about doing that, even if it means his child support does not get paid. After all, he wasn't thinking about his child the night he took something from my family. Yes, some do covet what others have. And some of us just want what is rightfully ours.
  11. Been there, done that. I hope you don't think I was haughty or picking on you. I wasn't.
  12. Most likely it would be the church people who be haughty, not the lady of the evening, if they knew what profession she engages in. Haughty is defined as disdainfully proud; snobbish; scornfully arrogant. Those church people will one day have to answer to God for their attitude if they turned up their noses at someone who may have been looking for a better way of life.
  13. Marriage is a BIG adjustment. For us women, we generally have to get used to a new last name. For 23 years I had a different last name. All of sudden I had a new one and that took some getting used to. I had told people what my last name was for years, then had to remember to give them my married name. When I signed papers and documents it took me a while before I stopped signing my maiden name. As for the little annoyances, those hit home when you move in together after the I Do's are said. I had no idea my new husband would leave the newspaper scattered on the table. He did not know I would want my books and some of my furniture or how I cook certain things. We did not live together before marriage so how would know about the quirks the others had? That was all part of the discovery process, learning more about each other, and working together to accept each other as we were-faults and all.
  14. Will the little things keep you out of heaven? NO, if you have accepted Jesus as your Savior, which is the only way to have eternal life. The above verses (there are more than just those in the Bible) do not place any conditions on eternal life. John 3:16 and the others do not say you will have eternal life unless you shave your head, dye your hair, have green eyes, have red hair, use hairspray, drive a white car, etc. God knows His children will slip up. He still loves us when we do and will not take away our promise of eternal life because we do slip up. And he certainly won't take it away because I may not have long hair. Also, keep in mind that what some consider a sin, others may not. Example: that beer. A lot of Christians will say that any form of alcohol is forbidden and you sin when you drink it. Others will point out the Bible says only that one should not drink to excess. At this point I will say that I know there are many verses that one can use to justify his/her position on drinking. I am simply pointing out what people say about it. I do not wish to get into a debate about alcohol consumption. There are some who believe drinking coffee is a sin. I am not one of them.
  15. Malwarebytes is not an antivirus. It's strictly a malware scanner and a very good one. It should work very well with Bit Defender or whatever antivirus you use. If you are using the trial version of the paid Malwarebytes it should revert back to the free version if you do not purchase it after the trial ends.
  16. There is no reason to be surprised that Bit Defender did not find it. There is no program guaranteed to find everything. If you ever see one that says it will stay away from it. Malware comes in so many forms that multiple tools are needed to combat the things that invade computers. You said you removed the software. Was the deletion done by Malwarebytes or was it program uninstalled using Add Remove? If from Add Remove, it's possible that there are leftover entries left in the registry. If it was found by Malwarebytes and deleted it is most likely gone. As for how it got on your computer, no way to really know. It could have been installed as an add on when installing a program you want. I did find a reference that it could also have gotten on it if you installed a browswer extension that was developed using the crossrider framework.
  17. Good guidelines to follow. However, it does not say to NOT associate with unbelievers. They do say to be careful when do associate with them. Keep in mind that not all unbelievers engage in anything those verses say to be wary of. I have good friends who are unbelievers. They lead explemplary lives. These are some of my inner circle. I can talk to them about anything and will receive good advice from them. They have been there for me when my "Christian" friends were not. We have been friends for a long time. I will not toss them aside because they are not Christians. In addition, there is someone in my family who is an atheist. This person was raised in a Christian home and grew up as a Christian. As he got older he strayed from that and for whatever reasons is now an atheist. That does not make me love him any less. It is not enough to make me not associate with him. It's not enough for me to never want to see him again. I talk to him often. I love him to pieces and would give my life to protect him and will not remove him from my inner circle. My point is that we can be around unbelievers and if our faith is strong and we are secure in our faith we can overcome any temptation to engage in non-Godly things if they are thrown at us. BTW, I would rather be around unbelievers who live a good life than a "Sunday morning Christian". You know the ones I mean, party hard through the week, do things that hurt their witness, and think showing up at church on Sunday with a show of faith is all they need to do.
  18. One can always LINK to a passage if it's not quoted. I will normally not use the quote function when posting a Bible verse. I simply supply chapter and verse and use quotation marks if I post the verse(s)
  19. Personally, I don't like posts with a lot of quotes in it. I don't think it is neccessary for a bunch of posts to quote the original post in a topic. Having said that, I will quote part of a post if I want to make a point about that part. I've seen forums where a question is asked and every reply does quote the original post. I usually don't bother with reading the topic. As for long posts without a lot of quotes or even no quotes I don't mind reading them. I just don't want to wade through what has already been said.
  20. I would redo my kitchen which is in desparate need of it. I inherited my parents house and the original 1950's kitchen is almost non-functional. I would have my driveway paved. The old pine tree in the front yard would get cut down, I'd landscape the front yard to make it look better. There are some minor other things house-wise that I would fix. Nothing would be fancy, extravagrant or over-the-top. I prefer simplicity, which can look elegant if done right. One other thing I would do: take my grand-daughter to Puerto Rico so she can spend time with her grandmother and other family members who live there and who have not seen her since she was a year old.
  21. When you pray are you expecting the answer to be what YOU want it to be? Are you really listening to GOD and His answer which may not be what you want it to be? Sometimes we so desire that it be the answer we want that we fail to see that maybe God answered in a different way. We have to be open to the possibility that it will be NO or Not now. As for your prayer for salvation for Fred, keep praying. Years ago, I had a similar situation. There was a family in our church-the father came to church with his family but was not saved. For years everyone had been praying for him. One day, at the end of the service, the invitation was given. We were singing and no one came forward. The singing stopped. Instead of the final prayer, the preacher stated he felt led to sing one more verse of the song. When we got half way through it, that man stepped out, went to the altar, and accepted Jesus. The praise the Lord's, Amens, and Halleujah's went up loudly at that moment. Tears of joy were shed, not a dry eye remained. His name-Leon. He stated that he felt at the last possible moment that the feeling he had was so strong he could not overcome it and he took that step after resisting it for so long. He finally made his choice and it was right one. Today he is still a very good friend to me and my family and is the minister of a local church. He has come a long way from the man he used to be. The only thing you can do for Fred is pray for him in love. Begging, in my opinion, won't accomplish anything-no matter what you are praying for. Be a friend to him and if you talk to him about it do it in love. Don't hit him over the head with your Bible, for that can run people off. Be a good example to him-actions do speak louder than words. Since God gives us free will, Fred is the one who will have to make that decision. I do hope that he is so convicted that he says YES.
  22. First you have to figure out what day of the week Sabbath is. Jews and some Christians claim Saturday as the Sabbath. For most Christians it is Sunday, which commenerates the resurrection of Jesus. It's Friday for Muslims. Genesis 2:2-3 "And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made. And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it: because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made." Since we don't have a calender from that time, we have no way of knowing if the 7th day was what we now call Saturday, Sunday, or even Thursday. Days of the week came later, a man-made concept. There have been different calenders throughout time. Sunday is the first day of the week according to Christian and traditional Hebrew calenders. Day 7 on these calenders is Saturday. If you go strictly by this calender and believe the day God rested to be Sunday you would be wrong. Going back to Sunday as the day to commemerate the day of the resurrection we really don't know what day of the week it would be on the modern calender. There are some calenders which have Monday as the first day and Sunday as the 7th day. My opinion: it does not matter which day it is as long it's the day your faith/affiliation designates as the day to worship with others.
  23. That brings back some memories. Early on my husband would tell me when I cooked "that's not the way my mother (or grandmother) made it". After hearing that a few times I came up with the perfect answer. For grandmother: That's the way I make it. If you don't like it get in your car, go to your grandmother's and have HER make it for you. For mother: If you want it the way your mother made it, I suggest you get her to cook it for you. I can easily arrange for that to happen. Just tell me what weapon of choice you want me to use to send you on your way to the Pearly Gates and Streets of Gold. But before I do that, let me figure out how to make it look like an accident so I can get the life insurance money". (he was 16 when his mother died) With both of them I always added OR YOU CAN COOK. Which would not be a bad thing since he was and still is an excellent cook. I don't let him do it often because what takes me an hour to do will take him 3 hours. It does NOT take 3 hours to make biscuits and the rest of breakfast. A couple of times of me telling him that worked. I never heard it again.
  24. Marriage is the union between 2 people. It's what comes after the I do's are said. It's about living together and working to make it better. Wedding, no matter what form, is the official ceremony and binding of the two. So to answer your question what is a Biblical marriage it is about love and respect and forsaking all others. It's working through any problems and becoming stronger as a couple and a family. It's about honoring each other. Most of all, it's instituting the principles that God has in place for marriage, putting Christ as the head of the marriage. A biblical marriage is a oneness between a man and woman that mirrors the oneness of Christ with His church. Without that, you cannot have a biblical marriage.
  25. I realized I was married when my new husband did not put the Sunday paper back together after reading it. That was one thing I insisted on being done. The first time someone called me Mrs. my new last name also was a shocker. I looked to see where his mother was. He realized he was married when he found out that more than just my clothes were being moved into his apartment.
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