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  1. the dangers of compromise

    Interesting perspectives to consider here. Many churches I've visited have a policy that they won't allow people to attend service unless they have 'cleaned themselves up'. Banned people include those with tattoos, ex-cons, divorced women, and of course any gay or lesbian. Those people are not welcome. When we were looking for a home church, it would have been easier to save time and have the pastor fill out a form listing all the types of people not welcome in their church. All the while, I'm thinking of the type of people Jesus tended to be around.
  2. selective bible memory

    The correction part can go in the extreme direction as well. Several of the seeker friendly churches we looked at in our area seemed to be very open, bible based, and accepting, but they also seemed to pick their version of some sin and make it a mission. For one it was that women must cover their head during service, another was extremely against ever drinking alcohol. Several profess to be open to any seeker, yet also refuse to allow people that are divorced, have tattoos, or even those that adopt children of a different race. One SBC church excommunicated a family when they adopted some Korean children. Churches picking out pet sins and classes of people to effectively hate set a really bad example.
  3. selective bible memory

    Are most people too busy figuring out who to accuse of sin, wrong doctrine, or wrong interpretation next?
  4. Trick or treating

    Agreed. Many kids in my area dress up as as video game or cartoon characters. For the kids, it's generally a harmless and fun activity.
  5. What should someone who remarried do?

    Another viewpoint: Three rights within marriage Love, food, clothing These three rights became the basis of Jewish marriage vows This became vows to "love, honor, and keep" These vows, together with a vow of sexual faithfulness, have always been the basis for marriage. Thus, the vows we make when we marry correspond directly to the biblical grounds for divorce. Divorce for neglect included divorce for abuse, because this was extreme neglect. There was no question about that end of the spectrum of neglect, but what about the other end? What about abandonment, which was merely a kind of passive neglect? This was an uncertain matter, so Paul deals with it. He says to all believers that they may not abandon their partners, and if they have done so, they should return (1 Cor. 7:10-12). In the case of someone who is abandoned by an unbeliever—someone who won't obey the command to return—he says that the abandoned person is "no longer bound." Divorce is only allowed for a limited number of grounds that are found in the Old Testament and affirmed in the New Testament: Adultery (in Deuteronomy 24:1, affirmed by Jesus in Matthew 19[13]) Emotional and physical neglect (in Exodus 21:10-11[14], affirmed by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7[15]) Abandonment and abuse (included in neglect, as affirmed in 1 Corinthians 7)
  6. sensitivity

    Bragging: excessively proud and boastful talk about one's achievements or possessions. People brag about their career, how much money they have, their truck, their house, and more. Bragging about material wealth around someone that's poor or just lost their job can hurt them. Bragging about a marriage can have the same effect. Imagine hearing someone bragging about their 'trophy' wife around someone who's wife was killed a few months earlier. How about bragging in the same manner around someone who just went through a hostile divorce? That said, there's a difference between bragging and other comments. One may be proud of their kids in an accomplishment, or thankful their spouse cooks for them each evening. It's generally not hard to tell if a person's intent is to brag.
  7. Clever idea and concept: "...The brothers travel around Inkwell Isle earning contracts from residents who have lost their souls to King Dice and the Devil. Eventually, Elder Kettle tells the brothers that when facing the Devil again, they must "do the right thing". Once they make it back to the Casino where King Dice reveals that he too lost a bet, presumably about whether or not Cuphead and Mugman would be able to retrieve the contracts, he fights the two only to lose. The Devil then asks for the contracts and in return they will "join his team". At this point the player can choose whether to hand the contracts over or not. If they say yes, the Devil turns Cuphead and Mugman into his demonic lackeys and the game ends. If they say no, the Devil then battles the brothers."
  8. One church we attended for a while and liked kept playing their music really loud. Measured on my phone it was between 110 and 120 decibels. This is at a level most guides warn may cause permanent hearing loss. Even wearing foam earplugs, our son said it hurt too much to be inside the church. I agreed, talked to the pastor, was told it was at a level they liked, so we stopped going there. The next church wasn't quite that excessive but still seemed to believe 'louder is better'. If the church music hurts or if your ears are ringing after the services, it's probably time to leave. Church shouldn't try to imitate rock concerts.
  9. Including Eastern philosophy and thought about martial arts makes sense. I've not seen any of those involving spiritual or religious items.
  10. Note while I agree some meditation and yoga may include religious teachings or practices, tae kwon do is a martial art. It doesn't include any Eastern religion, nor any aspects of it. Below is some of the history: "Taekwondo was developed during the 1940s and 1950s by various martial artists who combined elements of karate and Chinese martial arts with traditional Korean martial arts traditions such as Taekkyeon, Subak, and Gwonbeop.[4][5] The oldest governing body for taekwondo is the Korea Taekwondo Association (KTA), formed in 1959 through a collaborative effort by representatives from the nine original kwans, or martial arts schools, in Korea. The main international organizational bodies for taekwondo today are the International Taekwon-Do Federation (ITF), founded by Choi Hong Hi in 1966, and the partnership of the Kukkiwon and World Taekwondo(WT, formerly WTF), founded in 1972 and 1973 respectively by the Korea Taekwondo Association. Gyeorugi ([kjʌɾuɡi]), a type of full-contact sparring, has been an Olympic event since 2000. The governing body for taekwondo in the Olympics and Paralympics is World Taekwondo."
  11. Churches losing members. Why do you suppose?

    Actually, I'm agreeing with you but also exploring the reasons behind what is happening. For example, some brick and mortar stores are doing well such as Costco and Bed Bath and Beyond. Many think that's largely because they provide value and compete on more than just price. Customer service can justify for many paying a bit more in price. So, is it simply a value question or are many more variables involved? With churches, those that provide community, fellowship, and ways to grow as a Christian seem to do better. Then again, some large churches that provide a big show and yet little more seem to be growing as well. Is this a case of good advertising and marketing making a church successful?
  12. Churches losing members. Why do you suppose?

    If the church doesn't provide more value than the service, that makes perfect sense to me. I wonder if the rise of TV evangelists caused people to stop attending church as well. When people aren't able to physically be at church, TV and now internet churches with streamed services have their place. The Worthy site is an example of this as well as it fills a gap that may not be easily provided by all churches.
  13. Churches losing members. Why do you suppose?

    That's an interesting point. So, why are brick and mortar bookstores losing customers? Does this apply to brick and mortar stores in general? With books, I think it's a matter of selection and value. If I'm looking for books, I want to see the table of contents and sample reading some of it. Next, reviews by other readers frequently provide good insight, especially for non-fiction books. Large brick and mortar bookstores generally don't have staff that's able to help with selection or insights. Small bookstores may have knowledgeable staff, but it's hard for them to have a large selection. So, are churches losing members because people are deciding they don't provide value? I just left a church where my family really liked the pastor. In the 90 minute service, the pastor's message was typically under 15 minutes. Church members greeted each other and were friendly, but once service was over everyone including the pastor left immediately. They advertised how that had many groups for church members, but they never met and getting info about them was difficult. In short, other than a short weekly message the church provided no value. As a Christian, there were little ways to grow and learn. This is just one case, of course, but I wonder if it's common.
  14. Please provide links for the studies supporting this from the 'medical community'.
  15. If we're talking about supporting addictions, should sugar be included here as well?