Crumbling Away

[pokemaughan]

Right now I kinda feel like I'm falling apart, but I'm so numb I can't tell. I've got a blank slate in front of me that I can fill with God. New opportunities and paths. But I just feel like parts of me are crumbling away and I can't tangibly feel it. Like when you're all numbed up at the dentist, and you know he's drilling holes in you, but you can't feel it in a physical sense.

What am I to do?

[pokemaughan]

Right now I kinda feel like I'm falling apart, but I'm so numb I can't tell. I've got a blank slate in front of me that I can fill with God. New opportunities and paths. But I just feel like parts of me are crumbling away and I can't tangibly feel it. Like when you're all numbed up at the dentist, and you know he's drilling holes in you, but you can't feel it in a physical sense.

What am I to do?

Well first off, keep your relationship with Christ at the forefront of your mind. Stay in the Word, and stay in prayer.

Is part of this because you just broke up with your girlfriend? I don't mean to pry, just asking, because I know it's very recent, and things like this often have a devastating effect on ones life. It has happened to me before. The good thing is, one does heal, and although it often looks like things will never get better, they eventually do. Hang in there, it will get better. I know it doesn't seem like it will, but it really will.

I think that incident has a large part. I've always kept emotions deep inside and rarely let them out when I get into a really hurtful situation. I don't think I've even realized what's happened yet.

[Guest man]

Right now I kinda feel like I'm falling apart, but I'm so numb I can't tell. I've got a blank slate in front of me that I can fill with God. New opportunities and paths. But I just feel like parts of me are crumbling away and I can't tangibly feel it. Like when you're all numbed up at the dentist, and you know he's drilling holes in you, but you can't feel it in a physical sense.

What am I to do?

Ask the Lord to harden your heart to the emotions associated with the break up. Not toward her, just the feelings. Every time you feel those heart strings being tugged, ask Him to take those feelings away.

Harbor no animosity within you. Let her go. Pray for her.

The Lord is your only refuge. He will see you through this. It'll take time before things get back to normal. Let the Lord carry the things you aren't able too.

If He did it for me, I know He'll do it for you.

[OneLight]

The pruning process can be painful. Do not be discouraged, my friend. Instead, be grateful that He loves you enough to do the pruning!

[pezzaroo]

I think this is partially because you feel obligated to keep your distance, when in fact, you don't have to! She's always going to be there for you as a sister in Christ and a best friend. Or at least a close friend. It could be a little awkward, but only if you make it awkward. It doesn't have to be that way at all.

And OneLight, that is very insensitive and ignorant for you to say such a thing about her. God did not 'prune' him of her.

[OneLight]

I think this is partially because you feel obligated to keep your distance, when in fact, you don't have to! She's always going to be there for you as a sister in Christ and a best friend. Or at least a close friend. It could be a little awkward, but only if you make it awkward. It doesn't have to be that way at all.

And OneLight, that is very insensitive and ignorant for you to say such a thing about her. God did not 'prune' him of her.

Well, pezzaroo, it may seem that way to you, but it is the truth. Pruning is something that happens all the time when a change is made. May I suggest you take some time and study what pruning is, and not be so fast to call people names. Poke knows me well enough to know that I would not suggest anything to him that is not true. Too bad you are so quick to judge. Maybe once you are here long enough to know me, you will know that I speak out of love, not unjustly, as you seem to.

May His peace be with you.

[ellarose]

Right now I kinda feel like I'm falling apart, but I'm so numb I can't tell. I've got a blank slate in front of me that I can fill with God. New opportunities and paths. But I just feel like parts of me are crumbling away and I can't tangibly feel it. Like when you're all numbed up at the dentist, and you know he's drilling holes in you, but you can't feel it in a physical sense.

What am I to do?

Pray long and hard - God will listen to your prayers even if they are just weeping or noises... He will help you too if you stick in there and try to use a horrible situation for His glory.

Pray that when you do start feeling, that God, by His grace, will take away all your pain and anguish as you start trusting more in Him. It's a good idea to start praying now, while you are not bound up in emotions.

As everyone else has said, this time will pass - Some day you will think back on it - For now you can use the opportunity to come closer to God, trust in Christ and try to live for Him in this hard time so that God will be honoured in your life.

Keep in there! Praying for you.

[Guest]

Praying!

[georgedrw81]

Praying

[desi2007]

I think this is partially because you feel obligated to keep your distance, when in fact, you don't have to! She's always going to be there for you as a sister in Christ and a best friend. Or at least a close friend. It could be a little awkward, but only if you make it awkward. It doesn't have to be that way at all.

And OneLight, that is very insensitive and ignorant for you to say such a thing about her. God did not 'prune' him of her.

I believe what OneLight was saying about "prune" was ...Some of our growth may be slow and painful as Jesus prunes and trains us to yield to Him. Which is correct.

See Jesus has a picture of what He sees in us. We cannot grow on our own. We grow when Jesus shows us His love, He softens and warms our hearts. He tends to our needs and feeds our souls. Our spirit lean towards His spirit. Hope this is helpful.

blessings,

desi