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[pokemaughan]

I'm struggling bad. This break-up has really gotten to me. I'm in a fog and I've never felt so far from God. I'm reverting back to self-destructive habits and depression in a hurry. It seems to me that I never really genuinely followed God in the first place. As soon as Sara was removed from the picture, I lost my companion and follower. I tried to stand tall and be godly to lead her in the right way and now that she's off on her own, I just lost it. Everything is foggy and I can't see happiness or a point to life. It's like I based my salvation on Sara instead of Christ. I thought I was a genuine believer. I know all the right answers but whenever I get down and especially now more than ever I hide myself away instead of going to God. I think I used to go to Sara when I wanted comfort. What's wrong with me.

[pezzaroo]

I'm struggling bad. This break-up has really gotten to me. I'm in a fog and I've never felt so far from God. I'm reverting back to self-destructive habits and depression in a hurry. It seems to me that I never really genuinely followed God in the first place. As soon as Sara was removed from the picture, I lost my companion and follower. I tried to stand tall and be godly to lead her in the right way and now that she's off on her own, I just lost it. Everything is foggy and I can't see happiness or a point to life. It's like I based my salvation on Sara instead of Christ. I thought I was a genuine believer. I know all the right answers but whenever I get down and especially now more than ever I hide myself away instead of going to God. I think I used to go to Sara when I wanted comfort. What's wrong with me.

I'm not removed from the picture, and you know that.. I'm still here, always. And I want to help you, just am not sure how..

[Trusting Jesus]

This wound is fresh and it hurts. There is no easy solution, but you must live each hour of each day. It will be easier when you move away. There is a bit of shock involved when a relationship ends and you just need to go through it. Pokemaughn, don't focus on Sara. She may have been the one who introduced you to Jesus, but it is the Holy Spirit who has help you grow. Don't allow your pain over Sara to destroy the good that has happened in your life. I think that one day soon you will find that your faith is your own and isn't dependent upon Sara or anyone else to make it work for you.

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Nathele

[OneLight]

I will say again what I had said earlier This is a pruning process in your life. My words may of not been well received, but if what you are now stating is true, then Christ wants you to place Him first in your life and no one else. This not to say that you may never get back together or find someone who you can share your life with, but it is a growing process. When we place our faith in Him alone and allow Him to guide and comfort us, He then will add to our lives. Scripture tell us in many different ways to look to Him first, trust in Him first and He will add everything onto you and direct your path. He wants to be your God.

In steps Satan from the shadows. Satan has been there all along watching for an opening. He now comes to seal the deal by suggesting to you that you are no longer a Christian. That you were never a Christian and that you are hypocritical. Don't listen to his lies.

[georgedrw81]

This wound is fresh and it hurts. There is no easy solution, but you must live each hour of each day. It will be easier when you move away. There is a bit of shock involved when a relationship ends and you just need to go through it. Pokemaughn, don't focus on Sara. She may have been the one who introduced you to Jesus, but it is the Holy Spirit who has help you grow. Don't allow your pain over Sara to destroy the good that has happened in your life. I think that one day soon you will find that your faith is your own and isn't dependent upon Sara or anyone else to make it work for you.

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Nathele

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[shanee]

hi my freind...a verse came to mind...hope it helps...Pro 31:30 Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

[Guest man]

I'm struggling bad. This break-up has really gotten to me. I'm in a fog and I've never felt so far from God. I'm reverting back to self-destructive habits and depression in a hurry. It seems to me that I never really genuinely followed God in the first place. As soon as Sara was removed from the picture, I lost my companion and follower. I tried to stand tall and be godly to lead her in the right way and now that she's off on her own, I just lost it. Everything is foggy and I can't see happiness or a point to life. It's like I based my salvation on Sara instead of Christ. I thought I was a genuine believer. I know all the right answers but whenever I get down and especially now more than ever I hide myself away instead of going to God. I think I used to go to Sara when I wanted comfort. What's wrong with me.

You're physically alone. You're in a place you've never been before and it sucks. I know.......I was there too.

It's hard. It's like half of you is gone. Your reason for being no longer exists. There's a great big empty hole of loneliness and nothing to fill it with. The isolation is maddening. The days are long and boring and the nights are even worst.

I know where you're coming from. I was there.......many of us were.

Saying that now is the time you must turn to God, is so "cliche", but that's what you have to do.

It's obvious that you want Sara back in your life, but you have to come to terms with yourself that that may never happen. You have to let go. And only God can help you in that department.

Trust Him. Go to Him and ask Him to take away the pain and loneliness. Ask Him to give you peace of mind. Ask Him to harden your heart to the emotions you're feeling right now. If you have to do this a hundred times a day, do it. I did, and He gave me everything I asked for.

I was with my girlfriend for almost 12 years. I loved her more than life itself. She was my life. I didn't even see the break up coming. I got up one saturday morning about 7 o'clock without a care in the world, 3 and a half hours later....it was over.

It took a long time to get over her. That was in 2003. I still think about her everyday, but the pain is gone and the thoughts are fleeting. It wasn't until I told God that I forgive her, that everything started to fall back into place.

That's what you need to do. Forgive her. It's not Sara's fault. It's not your fault. It's not anyones fault. These are the things that happen in life. I know it sucks, but life can just blow at times.

And now I'm gonna say something that you're probably not going to like, but the both of you cannot be on this board together. Head-wise it's not healthy. It will only make the separation more painful. You have to let each other go and that's not likely to happen if you keep bumping into one another. You need space. You need time. You have wounds that need to heal.

Go to God and ask for the things you need to get you through this. Be totally honest with Him. Don't hold anything back. Don't be afraid to cry. God gave us tears for a reason.

Everything will work itself out. I know it seems hopeless.....but it's not.

Go to the Father in Jesus' name and He will get you through this.

[mead]

Hello friend, I agree with everything everyone else has said as well. Pruning is a good thing, but even if you weren't a believer this will still happen in your life. You may have thought, "I am going to lead this girl to Christ, she is gonna see His light shine in me and together we are gonna roll on." Then bam, it blows up in your face. It is easy to base, in our minds, our happiness from fulfilling someone elses. I have no doubt that in your heart you wanted the best for the both of you. You are experiencing heartache Pokemaughn, tired but you can't sleep, hungry but you can't eat. I understand this feeling as anyone else that has loved can relate to as well. God has a plan for you friend, the old ways only have as much leadway back into your life as you give them (self control). I think you have come a long way since coming to Worthy, as we all have. Remember who you are in Christ, draw upon this strength. No one person will ever determine who you are and your value with the Lord. Continue to heed the call that the Father has placed in your life. Let her go little brother and move on day by day under the shelter of the Lord's wings for grace and comfort. In time, it will get better, time does alot things friend. You never know what the Lord has in store for you, something better than you ever hoped or planned for. Slow down, take the time to rethink what has happened and educate yourself from this. Stay in prayer and the Word, continue posting and go to chat more for fellowship. This is not my saying but I agree with it: Life is 10% of what happens to ya and 90% of how you choose to deal with it. In the past, during some of the darkest times in my life I found that the more love and encouragement I gave (which is what we are called to do, love and serve the Lord and serve each other) despite the circumstances the more peace and grace I was comforted with from the Lord. Choices friend...I hope and pray that from this experience you lean on the Father and make a diligent effort to make the right ones.

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....I want to help you, just am not sure how..

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