congratulations are in order?

[~candice~]

When I encounter an unmarried pregnant woman, I thank God that the woman chose LIFE rather than opting for an abortion.

All this means is that the woman chose not to compound one sin with another sin. The sin of sex outside of marriage remains. However, I think 99% of the population are aware that Christians believe that sex outside of marriage is sinful and they don't need to have that rubbed in their face. I don't think we should pretend that it isn't a sin. It is. But I think we can celebrate the new life, and support the woman, in a happy and excited way, without condoning the sin.

I know that a lot of Christians have been guilty of this very sin, except we were not unfortunate enough to have the consequences of our sin revealed to all, which is what happens when people fall pregnant.

Thank God for grace!

[anitarose]

I'm living that situation right now. My roommate thinks she's pregnant--if she is, she's 6 months along--but...she might not be. She has two indicators that show she might not be, but she's convinced she is. I can't convince her to go to a doctor, because she has no insurance. I had warned her ahead of time that she would be playing with fire, but obviously she wouldn't listen to me. Now she's facing a life just like her mother had.

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[Guest lovinghim4ever]

I think of how Jesus would react. If it was a friend of His, I'm certain He would comment on a healthy and safe pregnancy - that's what I would do.

Remember, God looks at man's heart - He knows that you don't approve of the living arrangements and how the conception came about but are happy about the coming of new life....the conception has happened, you can't stop that part.

When I encounter an unmarried pregnant woman, I thank God that the woman chose LIFE rather than opting for an abortion.

I do congratulate unmarried pregnant women because (for whatever reason) it is GOD who allowed that conception.

The daughter of a friend became pregnant before marriage.

My friend was excited about being a Grandmother but felt she

couldn't express that excitement because her daughter wasn't married.

What a shame that Christians would feel this way.

The sin of sex before marriage is a forgivable sin.

No, we do not condone the sin, but we certainly can't blame the baby.

Does being unmarried and pregnant mean you can't enjoy the baby because it is "illegitimate"?

NO WAY! ENJOY! It ain't the baby's fault.

[alljoy123]

When I encounter an unmarried pregnant woman, I thank God that the woman chose LIFE rather than opting for an abortion.

All this means is that the woman chose not to compound one sin with another sin. The sin of sex outside of marriage remains. However, I think 99% of the population are aware that Christians believe that sex outside of marriage is sinful and they don't need to have that rubbed in their face. I don't think we should pretend that it isn't a sin. It is. But I think we can celebrate the new life, and support the woman, in a happy and excited way, without condoning the sin.

I know that a lot of Christians have been guilty of this very sin, except we were not unfortunate enough to have the consequences of our sin revealed to all, which is what happens when people fall pregnant.

Thank God for grace!

[Guest lovinghim4ever]

When I encounter an unmarried pregnant woman, I thank God that the woman chose LIFE rather than opting for an abortion.

All this means is that the woman chose not to compound one sin with another sin. The sin of sex outside of marriage remains. However, I think 99% of the population are aware that Christians believe that sex outside of marriage is sinful and they don't need to have that rubbed in their face. I don't think we should pretend that it isn't a sin. It is. But I think we can celebrate the new life, and support the woman, in a happy and excited way, without condoning the sin.

I know that a lot of Christians have been guilty of this very sin, except we were not unfortunate enough to have the consequences of our sin revealed to all, which is what happens when people fall pregnant.

Thank God for grace!

Good points andy!

No, we don't condone the sin or condemn the sinner.

These sins are sins that CAN be forgiven.

[elizabetht]

I say... be excited about the baby, but not about the circumstances of it's conception. I am facing this exact issue at the moment.

I agree Andy,

when I was 22 years old, I found myself in that situation. I had no idea what to do, but God had it all figured out. I went through the pregnancy, and when my son was born, God chose the perfect couple to adopt him. It was the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life, but also the thing I am most proud of. God took my shame, and made it into a miracle.

So i say yes, congratulate her. God can use anyone, and any situation for His good purpose. I am living proof.

[paul1149]

I think circumstances have a lot to do with it. Some premarital situations lead to marriage, and in those cases marriage is to be encouraged. When there is stability and love, I would congratulate and then promote the deeper commitment of marriage.

Other situations are tougher. I might offer congratulations, but not so enthusiastically, and then use it as a touchpoint to talk about getting relationships right (or breaking them off), and affirming the value of all human life in God's eyes.

Basically, in each situation I would try to engage the person where he/she is at and then try to promote a better position, if there is one.

[Believer1997]

Where there had been no physical hope for having children - a miracle happened - In our case - we rejoiced and still do - daily. I thank God each day for allowing us the privilege and blessing of a little child in our lives. When I hold this sweet little angel and she sings "Jesus Loves Me" in that clear sweet little voice, I know God is speaking to me. This blessing of humanity brought a family that was fragmented and so far apart on many levels- together in joy and His Love. We are ALL raising this baby - Her Mamma, her Uncle Bub, grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins... we may not agree on many things - but we all agree that a miracle happened in our lives and we ALL thank God for His Grace and Mercy.

I always greet pregnant women with a smile and offer blessings that they are going to experience a miracle of God - I never query them on their marital status. I choose to rejoice in the fact that God offers the world yet another miracle. Blessings.

[elizabetht]

When I encounter an unmarried pregnant woman, I thank God that the woman chose LIFE rather than opting for an abortion.

Amen Sister!!!

[Rick-Parker]

Christians who are living together and/or having children out of wedlock are being deceived by Satan and failed by their church. They are not being taught the truth that although they are forgiven of their sin and will still be saved, they will enter heaven as through fire. They believe that they can do anything they want without any spiritual consequences.

1 Corinthians 3:14-16 (New King James Version)

14 If anyone's work which he has built on it endures, he will receive a reward. 15 If anyone's work is burned, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire. 16 Do you not know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?