you've come a long way, baby

[Guest LadyC]

ya know, my oldest daughter is very much about feminism. she thinks marriage is all about her, and can't figure out why her marriage is in the pitts. she is so infuriated that ever since she got out of the marine corp, (and is not working) her husband suddenly expects her to CHANGE... i.e. he expects her to wash the laundry and dishes and have a hot meal on the stove after he's worked all day... oh, and the baby's diaper changed. she insists that she had not signed up for this, he knew she was not domesticated when he married her. she doesn't understand why he doesn't treat her like he did when he was happy.

so i keep trying to tell her all sorts of things... i try to explain that this is a woman's role, to be a good wife! that by being a good wife, her husband will be a happy man, and in turn, SHE will be a happy woman!

and her stock answer to that is..... "i'm not going to be a doormat for my husband the way you and (my sister) are to yall's!"

oh brother! where did i go wrong?

[~Shalhevet~]

The womens movement screwed up a lot of things.

[alljoy123]

One man gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Proverbs 11:24

[MorningGlory]

I don't know who all of these unhappy women are; I guess I don't know them. I, personally, am a happy woman.

[Guest LadyC]

LOL, i'm a happy woman too! but i do think the study accurately portrays the level of happiness in general that women feel. and i think that, for the most part, the women who are happiest are the ones who are following God's instructions for being a godly woman.

[MorningGlory]

it probably just comes down to how women define happiness.

Very true. Happiness, to me, is being a woman who is equal to men....not in being a pseudo-man.

[Believer1997]

I've always had joy in my children and now my grandchild. But... there was a time when I had every single material thing I could think of and was miserable. I was in an abusive marriage with a non-believer who hurt my heart, body and spirit - but I HAD (at least according to my friends) "Everything".. Years later, I raised my children with the help of my parents (now deceased) and am busy in my career now that the children are grown... I'm married to a wonderful Christian with whom I am so happy - our home is old and we've enjoyed every minute of renovating this "money pit"... my husband's been laid off 2 times in a year and is now in a job that is a blessing ... we drive older cars and we don't have a lot of things that other people cannot seem to live without.... But, we are so happy. We struggle - together and we pray together and we appreciate things that most people take for granted. I am at the very base of my being - happy. I still have the same obstacles that many face - but I am happy ... at the end of the day, I come home to a man who smiles and hugs me and we fix a meal together and talk about our day and ... it is good. Thank You God - Life is good.

[MorningGlory]

I've always had joy in my children and now my grandchild. But... there was a time when I had every single material thing I could think of and was miserable. I was in an abusive marriage with a non-believer who hurt my heart, body and spirit - but I HAD (at least according to my friends) "Everything".. Years later, I raised my children with the help of my parents (now deceased) and am busy in my career now that the children are grown... I'm married to a wonderful Christian with whom I am so happy - our home is old and we've enjoyed every minute of renovating this "money pit"... my husband's been laid off 2 times in a year and is now in a job that is a blessing ... we drive older cars and we don't have a lot of things that other people cannot seem to live without.... But, we are so happy. We struggle - together and we pray together and we appreciate things that most people take for granted. I am at the very base of my being - happy. I still have the same obstacles that many face - but I am happy ... at the end of the day, I come home to a man who smiles and hugs me and we fix a meal together and talk about our day and ... it is good. Thank You God - Life is good.

You are truly blessed, Kat2.

[sheya joie]

I used to associate with someone who was rather cross with the fact that she had to stay at home and do something as mundane as look after kids when she would much RATHER be with her work colleagues and buy more "stuff" for the house. She felt her brain was shrinking by being at home with the kids.....

Sad.

I stay home and homeschool my youngest son - my brain sure ain't shrinking. I learn a lot right along with my son, and it's fun!

Aaaaannnnnd... I get to correct his math papers! Oh boy do I love math! *happy dance*

Seriously, I love math and love getting to correct his papers. No sarcasm there.

[Guest LadyC]

it probably just comes down to how women define happiness.

Very true. Happiness, to me, is being a woman who is equal to men....not in being a pseudo-man.

is that really how you define happiness? i mean, i can think of a million things that make me happy, but the ROOT of the happiness... MG, i suspect the root of your happiness goes a lot deeper than just being a woman who is equal to men. i'd be willing to bet the root of your happiness comes from knowing who you are in Christ and living according to God's word.

and i'd also be willing to bet that when that study was done, the average woman whom they interviewed didn't have those roots!