Site about Divorce

[2Joyful]

Christians don't need more excuses to divorce we are already divorcing at rates at least as high and sometimes HIGHER than non-believers.

But is divorce some kind of horrible sin according to God, or is there just a stigma to those who are divorced based on religiousity?

No, I don't believe divorce is a horrible sin, even tho God hates it and any Christian who maybe facing it. But like NO ONE ELSE, He sees everything that going on in that marriage! What I have received from this article is....sometimes the weight of saving a marriage is placed upon one person.

I do not understand how a COUPLE who is trying can't succeed in saving their marriage. It's the marriage that over MANY years one individual is left trying

to hold a marriage together that the other has no thought or put no time in making it work. The type of marriage that one stays in the face of God praying for the restoring of a troubled marriage. Where one continue on doing ALL the things to keep the marriage going. This is what this article (I believe) is sharing. No one in their right mind and have a passion to save their marriage is just going to wake up one morning and look at their spouse and say, hey I've had enough of you.

It's so easy for people standing on the outside looking in, pointing fingers at folks and not fully understand, EVERYTHING a person did to save their marriage.

But let me say this, I do believe many people now a days are getting marry for the wrong reason. Marriage is a serious commitment, and everyone that enter

must die to oneself, because there is no longer one...two joined together becoming one, in sickness and health, better or worst, rich or poor, and there are so many things that's going to come up later. And the only way the two is going to make it is keeping their eyes on Jesus, much prayer, and being able to work through everything together as one in Christ.

Be blessed,

Joyful

[Believer1997]

Christians don't need more excuses to divorce we are already divorcing at rates at least as high and sometimes HIGHER than non-believers.

But is divorce some kind of horrible sin according to God, or is there just a stigma to those who are divorced based on religiousity?

No, I don't believe divorce is a horrible sin, even tho God hates it and any Christian couple who maybe facing it. But like NO ONE ELSE, He sees everything that going on in that marriage! What I have received from this article is....sometimes the weight of saving a marriage is placed upon one person.

I do not understand how a COUPLE who is trying can't succeed in saving their marriage. It's the marriage that over MANY years one individual is left trying

to hold a marriage together that the other has no thought or put no time in making it work. The type of marriage that one stays in the face of God praying for the restoring of a troubled marriage. Where one continue on doing ALL the things to keep the marriage going. This is what this article (I believe) is sharing. No one in their right mind and have a passion to save their marriage is just going to wake up one morning and look at their spouse and say, hey I've had enough of you.

It's so easy for people standing on the outside looking in, pointing fingers at folks and not fully understand, EVERYTHING a person did to save their marriage.

But let me say this, I do believe many people now a days are getting marry for the wrong reason. Marriage is a serious commitment, and everyone that enter

must die to oneself, because there is no longer one...two joined together becoming one, in sickness and health, better or worst, rich or poor, and there are so many things that's going to come up later. And the only way the two is going to make it is keeping their eyes on Jesus, much prayer, and being able to work through everything together as one in Christ.

Be blessed,

Joyful

Exactly!!! I think you nailed it.

[artsylady]

Exactly!!! I think you nailed it

I agree.

There are the immature who divorce because they are bored or unhappy in their own lives and instead of getting help, they find someone to pique their interest.

Then there are those who stay in painful marriages, go to counseling on their own, try everything possible to make it work - do this for years and years and feel this is their cross to bear, which I don't necessarily agree with. I also agree that this site is for those people. Those who want to weigh everything carefully and scripturally and need to know they don't have to sacrifice their life to make their marriage okay if the other partner is just unwilling.

[artsylady]

In the end, if one is seeking Him and His will for their lives, He will always direct that person back to their spouse because with Him, all things are possible.

Yes, all things are possible, but that doesn't mean a spouse will change. It's possible he/she will change, but there is no guarantee. God has given us free will and some spouses will choose to reject God.

[Smalcald]

Well marriage is not our whole life. If that part of our life is simply too much work and will never "work" then maybe we should focus on other parts of our life?

In the case you mentioned my advice would be for the wife to stop trying the marriage is what it is. There are worse things than having a roommate to share child rearing, housework and bills with. Find some hobbies and get involved with some other things, he may come around he may not.

I agree though cheating and abuse are not worth living with, cheating is certainly the main biblical reason for divorce, abuse I think is justified but the bible is less clear about it. But those are extreme examples, most divorce is not about abuse.

But Christ did say, do not divorce. Most marriages stink at some point, God does not promise us romantic happiness in this life. But of course if there are children involved to me that makes it much much harder for a Christian to justify a divorce.

(On edit, I did not mean that abuse was justified!, I meant that divorce in the case of abuse was justified)

[MorningGlory]

Christians don't need more excuses to divorce we are already divorcing at rates at least as high and sometimes HIGHER than non-believers.

But is divorce some kind of horrible sin according to God, or is there just a stigma to those who are divorced based on religiousity?

No, I don't believe divorce is a horrible sin, even tho God hates it and any Christian couple who maybe facing it. But like NO ONE ELSE, He sees everything that going on in that marriage! What I have received from this article is....sometimes the weight of saving a marriage is placed upon one person.

I do not understand how a COUPLE who is trying can't succeed in saving their marriage. It's the marriage that over MANY years one individual is left trying

to hold a marriage together that the other has no thought or put no time in making it work. The type of marriage that one stays in the face of God praying for the restoring of a troubled marriage. Where one continue on doing ALL the things to keep the marriage going. This is what this article (I believe) is sharing. No one in their right mind and have a passion to save their marriage is just going to wake up one morning and look at their spouse and say, hey I've had enough of you.

It's so easy for people standing on the outside looking in, pointing fingers at folks and not fully understand, EVERYTHING a person did to save their marriage.

But let me say this, I do believe many people now a days are getting marry for the wrong reason. Marriage is a serious commitment, and everyone that enter

must die to oneself, because there is no longer one...two joined together becoming one, in sickness and health, better or worst, rich or poor, and there are so many things that's going to come up later. And the only way the two is going to make it is keeping their eyes on Jesus, much prayer, and being able to work through everything together as one in Christ.

Be blessed,

Joyful

You have such a great heart for doing what's right, sister! I don't think I could do this; that's probably why I will remain single.