Marriage...Abuse

[FaithfulFollower]

Within my readings of the Old and New Testament, I came to find many readings about marriage. However a question or two came to mind. For within the New Testament it says that the only reason a man or woman can divorce the other is on account of unfaithfulness, however this does make me ponder about abuse. For does it not also state within the bible that a man should love his wife not only as Christ loved the church, but also as a man should love his own body? Is it just for a man to strike his wife?Would it be wrong for a wife or husband to leave the other on account of abuse? Here are some verses which I read... that is the foundation of not only my beliefs but the questions which I have had as of lately regarding marriage and abuse.

Matthew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for unfaithfulness, causes her to be an adultress, and anyone who marries the woman commits adultry.

Ephesians 5:21-28 Further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. You wives will submit to your husbands as you do the Lord. For a husband is of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything. And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed for the church. He gave his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's word. He did this to present herself to him as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands out to love their wives as they do their own bodies. For a man is actually loving themselves when loving his wife.

Any thoughts on this are greatly appreciated as well as welcome.

With Love In Christ,

Danielle

[BobTriez]

Greetings in Jesus Danielle,

I have a few thoughts on this issue, and if there are no other responses, I'll put something together in hopes of answering your question....it is indeed a valid question.

Also, I am going to move this to the General Discussion Forum.....it'll probably will get more attention there. This is no fault of you, just a little "housekeeping" on my part trying to keep things organized

God bless and may you experience His peace,

Bob

Worthy Servant

[Kay]

Dear Sister

Jesus doesn't want HIS brides to be mistreated in anyway. Abuse is not listed as a reason for divorce, but I truly feel that the LORD will forgive you.

I was abused by my children's father. I waited 5 long years for him to file and finish our divorce. He was more abusive when we were separated. My family, all christians wanted me to wait and see if GOD changed his heart. I know in in the bible, it states we are to stay for our walk with our LORD might save our spouse, but they have to want the change. I fully want to live by GOD's word.

I married our of GOD's will, otherwise I would not had been abused. Unfortunately, and I say this with all love of CHRIST, probably you were too. But it is ok, we are covered by HIS blood and bought! Jesus wants HIS children treated with love and respect. OUR earthly husbands are to love us as CHRIST loves the church. Would Jesus abuse us? NO

I am still single, waiting on Jesus to bring me my mate, it has been 10 years. Honey, if a person is being abused, we need to break that cycle, show our children that we need to stay celebant until CHRIST shows us whom we are to marry.

Blessings

Love

Kay

[Born Again]

This is interesting that this thread comes up- My husband works with a girl whose husband abuses her. He called me asking about how God feels about divorce when there is abuse involved. I told him exactly what you mentioned Danielle. Since we couldn't give her the best advice, we referred her to a preacher we're friends with. Personally, I think God would forgive :il: He wants the best for His children

[Adstar]

I would like to express a thought on the Word Divorce.

Is divorce a legal document allowing a woman and a man to part company?

or Is divorce a legal document that allows both parties to re-marry ?

Does one need a divorce to leave an abusing partner?

To me the primary reason for divorce is to give those married the right to marry another legally. If there is abuse like wife bashing there is no need for divorce but there is a need for separation.

To me violence is a reason for separation but it is not a reason for divorce.

All Praise The Ancient of Days

[cymba22]

adstar...my hubby nearly killed me and the baby...i do not want anything to do with his name or relations...the only way for me to completly sever ties is divorce...until then i am legally a part of him...i wish to be no part of him...God provided my way to safty...as i have had police protection in this and changed my name i cannot divorce him...without him knowing my new name and address....after 5 years he can legally divorce me on grounds of desertion without me having to reveal my identity....i am in no hurry to re-marry...its usually the last thing and abused spouse wants to do anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

however there is no reason why we HAVE to be legally tied to them...they broke their marraige contract(love/honour etc) when they laid that first hand on their spouse.

that is when the marraige becomes void...divorce is only an requirement of the land you live in.

go to saudie arabia...then say i divorce you 3 times...you are then legally divorced...(hope you get what i'm trying to convay)

[Adstar]

adstar...my hubby nearly killed me and the baby...i do not want anything to do with his name or relations...the only way for me to completly sever ties is divorce...until then i am legally a part of him...i wish to be no part of him...God provided my way to safty...as i have had police protection in this and changed my name i cannot divorce him...without him knowing my new name and address....after 5 years he can legally divorce me on grounds of desertion without me having to reveal my identity....i am in no hurry to re-marry...its usually the last thing and abused spouse wants to do anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

however there is no reason why we HAVE to be legally tied to them...they broke their marraige contract(love/honour etc) when they laid that first hand on their spouse.

that is when the marraige becomes void...divorce is only an requirement of the land you live in.

go to saudie arabia...then say i divorce you 3 times...you are then legally divorced...(hope you get what i'm trying to convay)

Hello cymba

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[FaithfulFollower]

Thank you all for your replies to this post. They are very much appreciated. For any of you who may have been concerned that I was in an abusive relationship you need not worry. I was asking these questions for the reading that I did in the bible confused me and I wanted to be sure that I understood God's word as I should. Other than that, I do have a friend that I am beginning to question being in an abusive relationship. Your comments truly were blessings to me. So thank you all once again for your replies on this matter.

With Love In Christ,

Danielle

[truseek]

I always though that unfaithfulness meant a breaking of any part of the marital vows, not neccessarily just cheating. I think abuse would generally fall into this category.

In Christ

Truseek

[Kabowd]

I always though that unfaithfulness meant a breaking of any part of the marital vows, not neccessarily just cheating. I think abuse would generally fall into this category.

In Christ

Truseek

I agree with this. "Unfaithfulness" can be defined in many ways. The Scripture also states that if one is abandoned, they are no longer bound to the marriage (thus free to divorce). If a person is abusing their spouse, this would constitute not only unfaithfulness but also abandonment.