meaning of submit

[Guest Butero]

Hi there,

I would like to ask you something about meaning of being submit to Husband. as There is some discussion that i have been talking with my husband about it so I need to be clear about this.

I told my perspective about being submit to Husband, work with husband as teamwork, and he said no it is not like he said it has to be control by husband and the wife have to do everything what he says.

I need your view of the concept of being submit to husband and the head of the house that the husband is supposed to love the wife just like Jesus love me. and he said that the husband (head of the house) is just being take care of everyone. I told him not that what the bible says i told him that the husband is supposed to love wife and be there for her etc. he disagreed with me. so I need the feedback what you think of "being submit to Husband" and being Head of the house

I am looking forward to hear what your feedbacks that will help me better understanding of this.

Thank you

DC

The Bible says that wives are to submit to their own husbands in the same way they submit to the Lord. I started a thread dealing with the relationship between husbands and wives in the doctrinal section to deal with this and all other topics concerning marriage. I believe that the husband has the final word on everything unless it violates scripture, however, since he is told to love his wife as Christ loves the church, it makes no sense for him to go around acting like a dictator and demanding his way in all areas. The couple should work together as a team in any area they can, and only when there is a stand off and one person has to make a final decision, and no compromise can be reached, should the husband make a decision they can't both agree on. I think that in most instances, likely more than 95 percent of the time, if the husband wants to come to agreement with his wife, it can be done. Some kind of compromise can usually be reached. Ultimately however, in that 5 percent of the time, someone has to make a decision, and that is left to the husband.

[Rick-Parker]

Oh, goody. This is such an educational, non-confrontational subject.

[Guest Butero]

Oh, goody. This is such an educational, non-confrontational subject.

Ultimately, it is important that both parties are on the same page before they get married, because there is no question this will come up throughout their marriage. If they don't agree before they say "I do," it is a mistake to think it will all be resolved afterward.

[deafcanada]

Hi there,

I would like to ask you something about meaning of being submit to Husband. as There is some discussion that i have been talking with my husband about it so I need to be clear about this.

I told my perspective about being submit to Husband, work with husband as teamwork, and he said no it is not like he said it has to be control by husband and the wife have to do everything what he says.

Thank you

DC

the first issue i see here brings me to ask....are YOU TWO believers and in constant study of the word of God. I would even ask that if this is evident in your daily life and has been for a very very long time.

If not then there will be issues.

for your questions about believers. I am believer, My husband is astraying from God for a while. I am constanting study word of His and praying. and it is making hard for who is believer and not believer marriage. so that s why I am searching the truth down deep in my heart and I just want to do the best for Lord.

thanks

DC

[exrockstar]

for your questions about believers. I am believer, My husband is astraying from God for a while. I am constanting study word of His and praying. and it is making hard for who is believer and not believer marriage. so that s why I am searching the truth down deep in my heart and I just want to do the best for Lord.

thanks

DC

well, truth be told, it's going to be a very bumpy ride if it's like that.

No matter what, please do study God's word. Even if it's by yourself.

[nebula]

Good point, Gator!

[other one]

DC, if there is any possible way you can get your husband to accompany you to one of these conferences, I can promise you that both of you will learn both sides of how you should treat each other.

http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnF..._conference.htm

Jesus tells us husbands that we are to love our wives as He did the church. As Fez has said that's a pretty special kind of love, and we are not to do anything that would hurt our wives in any way, either physically or mentally or spiritually. We are to make sure our wives are taken care of and are special creatures in our lives, basically the most important things in our lives.....

So from one of those seminaries, I'll just give you a quote from my wife, "If you treat me like that, I'll follow you to the very ends of the earth and beyond."

When I am that kind of husband, she is that kind of wife..... when I'm not, she threatens me with her six brothers. We've been married for 40 years and are one........... you can't be one unless both are fulfilling their roll as it is meant to be..... It's much like a little heaven on earth...... and when one or both do not follow their roll as it is meant to be is can often be pure hell.

[Guest LadyC]

DC, did you check out the audio that i posted links for? they really are excellent, EXCELLENT studies on what it means to be submissive in a marriage.

[Rick-Parker]

Oh, goody. This is such an educational, non-confrontational subject.

Ultimately, it is important that both parties are on the same page before they get married, because there is no question this will come up throughout their marriage. If they don't agree before they say "I do," it is a mistake to think it will all be resolved afterward.

Oh, I agree with you. It just seems that, like the rapture, this subject always ends badly (in an argument.)

[Guest LadyC]

Oh, goody. This is such an educational, non-confrontational subject.

Ultimately, it is important that both parties are on the same page before they get married, because there is no question this will come up throughout their marriage. If they don't agree before they say "I do," it is a mistake to think it will all be resolved afterward.

Oh, I agree with you. It just seems that, like the rapture, this subject always ends badly (in an argument.)

well so far, there doesn't seem to be any animosity in the thread.