Suing a mistress?

[Guest LadyC]

i'm not opposed to such lawsuits. i've heard of them for years, and really i think it's almost silly... mainly because the husband's affections were obviously alienated long before a mistress entered the picture, or he wouldn't have taken a mistress!

but, in many instances, divorce gets ugly and the wife is the one that loses everything except the debts, while the husband gets to move on with his life in spite of destroying someone else's. maybe it's vengeance rearing its ugly head here, but if the wife can afford the lawsuit and can actually win, good for her!

[MorningGlory]

I wouldn't lift a finger to stop a wandering spouse, I'd simply lock the door behind him. I think it's degrading to fight over a man and, anyway, men get a big ego-boost from it. No guy's getting his ego charged on my dime regardless of how handsome, wonderful or rich he might be.

[Guest LadyC]

MG, i don't think the objective of such a lawsuit is to get the man back... i think it's to make them both pay for what they've done!

[MorningGlory]

MG, i don't think the objective of such a lawsuit is to get the man back... i think it's to make them both pay for what they've done!

Oh....I thought the OP was talking about paving the way to reconciliation; my bad . Regardless, I wouldn't sue the 'other woman'/; if she could snag him she could have him. I think it's a stubborness issue and refusing to care too much about a spouse or boyfriend. If you don't care overly much, it's easier to move on. Ah, life is great when you're not all weighed down by the baggage of another.

[RGR]

MG, i don't think the objective of such a lawsuit is to get the man back... i think it's to make them both pay for what they've done!

Oh....I thought the OP was talking about paving the way to reconciliation; my bad . Regardless, I wouldn't sue the 'other woman'/; if she could snag him she could have him. I think it's a stubborness issue and refusing to care too much about a spouse or boyfriend. If you don't care overly much, it's easier to move on. Ah, life is great when you're not all weighed down by the baggage of another.

[NewlySavedGirl]

It is for either accountabily or reconciliation. I jus think women would think twice if there were cinsequences for her to. Ive met girls that exclusively date married men. Fun with out worry plus the men pay for them take them expensive places, pay their bills ect.....they r part of the problem and should be responsible for part of the consequenses

[Guest LadyC]

good point, newlysaved. there are a LOT of women that prey exclusively on married men, and they SHOULD have to pay for it. after all, they may not really be alienating the affection of the husband from the wife, but she's certainly helping to alienate the wife from the husband's pocketbook! to me, that's theft.

ya know there are a lot of people that believe that the mistress should never be held accountable for her actions... that the responsibility for an affair rests solely on the one doing the cheating. they think the other woman doesn't have any obligation at all towards the wife, and owes her nothing. i so totally disagree.

the only thing that bothers me about this kind of lawsuit is that it's dishonest from the word go. it's not alienation of affection. it may be alienation of all sorts of things, but not affection. because like i said earlier... if the husband is giving his affection to another woman, it's because it was already alienated at home to begin with.

[Guest man]

I jus think women would think twice if there were cinsequences for her to.

Prisons are overflowing with people who knew the consequences of their actions.

Nobody enters an affair thinking they're gonna get caught.

[2Joyful]

I'm all for releasing and letting go...

The problem arise when the mistress (too pleasant of a word if you ask me) keep harassing you as if she has done a great thing. Thats only the reason I feel you should take matters in that direction.

[Babbler]

I really missed the point. I thought the philanderer could sue his mistress for alienation of affection. Now that would really be liberal!