Immodesty Is A Growing Problem....

[Catsmeow]

LOL! Must've been obvious.....(argh!)

[bad biker]

My husband and I attended a social gathering of one of my ladies' groups this past weekend. It was mostly couples and two single ladies. The two single ladies were wearing very low cut blouses, knowing that husbands would be at this function. One of these ladies is a Christian.

My husband is a sex addict, sober now for almost three years. For him, the view was as much temptation as for the alcoholic having a bottle of booze rubbed under his nose. He is trying so hard to stay sober, and was so uncomfortable, we had to leave early.

I share his frustration, and yours, that Christian women would dress this way. It is hard not to be judgmental.

[Guest aggiekat]

This strikes me as a very interesting topic. As long as I lived under my parents' roof, I was never allowed to wear a bikini. When I finally got one, I found myself self-conscious and then proud. I think wearing something revealing causes a woman to flaunt herself in response. Showing one's tummy feels nice in hot weather, but belly buttons tend to draw attention.

The Victorian age may not have had women's rights down, but I think they understood modesty. I don't think we women fully understand what the sight of female skin can do to a guy. Our entire bodies are built in such a way that guys are turned on by the softness and the curves. We're walking weapons and don't even know it. Or we do know... but we don't care. Why should the other women look "attractive" and garner attention when we don't because our breasts aren't hanging out? Doesn't that way of thinking seem a little odd for a Christian woman to be entertaining? Yet I know I have. This thread has forced me to stop and think. I do have clothing that goes against my idea of modesty. So do I keep them for my husband in private, or just go on about my business as usual?

We are responsible for not allowing ourselves to be stumbling blocks. We aren't responsible for a man's lust, but we ARE responsible to do our utmost not to fan his flames.

Kat

[artsylady]

The two single ladies were wearing very low cut blouses, knowing that husbands would be at this function. One of these ladies is a Christian.

That's just so foreign to me I can hardly beleive it. I mean, Christian women at a church function? Never seen that. Thank goodness.

[jamie]

In the church we were in about 5 woman had gotten breast implants and as a result they had to wear their clothing tight in order to show off their new curves. Great example there, huh?

Yes, I agree that prayer for them is the best idea.

How did you know that the 5 women got implants?

They didnt mind letting people know. One of the ladies would show other woman in the restroom, so i heard

[tsth]

In the church we were in about 5 woman had gotten breast implants and as a result they had to wear their clothing tight in order to show off their new curves. Great example there, huh?

Honey, just pray for them. We're in desperate need to pray and pray hard. Satan is the enemy and he uses us.

We need to feel pity and compassion for other's now more than we ever did before.

You and I and others here will probably be safe and sound in our heavenly abode in glory with the Savior.

So, so many souls are swimming in chaos, sin and confusion. They're in churches but not regenerated; searching but not found.

Please, pray for those who attend church. Church is a hospital for the sick as well as a respite for the well.

Oh Sister Cats,

I know, I once was lost too! And also dressed immodestly. But what compels me the most, is that no one cared enough about me to tell me the Truth..........not even my parents knew that it was OK to say "NO!" to something I might choose to wear, and then explain the specifics of "Why"? Moms, Dads, it's ok to explain specifics about lust and desire to your daughters and sons, and when you tell them that what they are doing/wearing has a bearing on others thoughts, they are self-conscious, as they should be. Our youth have lost the teaching the consciousness of "shame". We have none.

Cats, I had a lady in my SS class, she and her live in came and heard "Truth"! About living together, about drugs, sex, alcohol, etc..........do you know what? They were appreciative towards us, because we loved them enough to speak openly and honestly to them, and share with them, and love them as family.........rather than chatter behind their backs, as many will do. WE LOVED THEM!!!! We invited them to our homes for Bible Studies, and we spoke to them just as we would have someone who had been in our class for years, it didn't matter, and they knew it and felt it, because............we spoke the Truth in love. It's kinda like somebody walking around with toilet paper hanging out of the back of their pants Do you let them go on, cause you don't want to feel the discomfort of telling them? Or do you save them embarrassment, because you CARE? Let's love and care about each other, just as we would family.

:hug:

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Guest Kandi]

Have you seen appropriate beach attire from the 1920's? Appropriate clearly changes with the times. so if you were dressed on the beach today in a suit from the 1920's you WOULD be innappropriate and drawing attention to yourself.

I just feel that it's not up to me to convict Steve's wife on this.

artsylady

You may think I am crazy, but I think it would be fabulous fun to wear those old 1920's bathing suits with the little skirt. And the men in suits like long underwear. I cannot really figure out why we have to bare everything to swim. Those little bikinis that the young ones wear, for me, they might just as well have nothing on. I am not against anything. I really just wanted to say I'd love to wear things from the 1920's.

Kandi

[artsylady]

They didnt mind letting people know.

Do you mean that all five told you personally?

One of the ladies would show other woman in the restroom, so i heard

I would pay no attention to this if it were me. I wouldn't even want to hear about it.

[artsylady]

You may think I am crazy, but I think it would be fabulous fun to wear those old 1920's bathing suits with the little skirt. And the men in suits like long underwear. I cannot really figure out why we have to bare everything to swim. Those little bikinis that the young ones wear, for me, they might just as well have nothing on. I am not against anything. I really just wanted to say I'd love to wear things from the 1920's.

Yeah, not that I'd mind if it was in style. Hey maybe we could start a new trend! You go first!

[Guest Kandi]

Oh dear gracious goodness. Me First???? Oh dear. Well maybe. Get a fix on the picture. Everything but nipples and ...... showing on the others and me with only my feet a hands and head showing. I wonder if they would be staring at the skin or at the clown :hug:

Kandi