Just a Vent

[Orr v'emet]

I know you were trying to vent but it made me laugh. I totally understand what you are saying. My hubby and I went through some very difficult financial times and like your hubby, he is in to hunting. I can't remember how many days he would come home, having spent $20-$30 here and there on deer corn of all things. I used to tell my sisters that we couldn't afford to buy groceries for ourselves but my husband was out feeding the deer! Those were very frustrating days for me. The thing is though, in spite of all the "misspending" as I call it (my husband wouldn't agree), God always provided for us. We were always able to pay our bills and have enough food. This subsided over time so don't give up hope!

[our3blessings]

May God bless all of your hearts! Our relationships with our spouses are so very similar! I have to remind myself that if I took away or changed any part of my hubby that he wouldn't be the same man I fell in love with. Thank you for responding!

[Guest aggiekat]

Thank goodness mine doesn't hunt. We live in Texas, too. Unfortunately, I get to listen to him rant about Texas' version of hunting... He doesn't think much of feeding deer corn to get them to come and get shot.

He does, however, like to buy "things". Books on an interesting topic. A camp stove. DVDs. Hobby items. Granted he doesn't do this behind my back, but it's hard for me to say no. He does get disappointed. Right now our money is getting tight because less money is coming in than before and I don't have a job yet.

We'll see where the Lord leads from here. *HUGS* to y'all.

Kat

[UndecidedFrog]

Dear our3blessings,

This is just my opinion. You don't have to accept it if you dislike it. DISCLAIMER: I am not a christian.

You might demand that your husband go hunt and kill something that you can cook and eat with those $50 hunting boots.

Just a thought.

Regards,

UndecidedFrog

[Born Again]

Dear our3blessings,

This is just my opinion.

[hmh]

I WISH I could leave for a week and go deer hunting, or fishing, or anything for that matter, but in fact I probably get a good toungue lashing in spanish and a cast iron frying pan up side the head. Let me tell you, those frying pans hurt! My wife and I must be lucky, because neither of us spend money unless it is necessary. She has four credit cards and hasn't used any of them since March, and that was for auto repair. When she needs something, she is really good about finding bargains. If I need something, I get what is absolutely necessary. Sometimes being cheap is a good thing.

Actually the last time I was away for an extended peroid of time was 10 days and it was for an exercise my Air Force Reserve unit was involved in. :sam: :prayer

[keslc]

Just a side note....

I went and read the first post of the thread that George linked for us here. I agree with what was said in that post. And while I completely understand the frustration we feel when it comes to finances and spouses making "surprise" purchases, I have come to handle these situations much differently than I did when we were first married 8 years ago.

I used to freak out and yell "WHAT?!? We don't have $50.00 for 5 new CD's!!! What are you thinking??" He would get defensive and yell back, "Well, you just bought clothes!" and I would get defensive and yell back, "They were on sale for $5.00" and so on and so on. You can see that never got us anywhere productive. It is VERY hard not to fall into this!

Now, I will still voice my concerns in a gentler way, "Honey, why didn't you let me know you wanted to buy those CD's, I could have budgeted better so we would have more room to get those." his response, "oh....I'm sorry, I didn't think about it, do you need me to return them?" (usually how it goes something like that) See, that is much better. And honestly, if I need those returned to buy groceries, he will, but if I was counting on something maybe not as nessacary (like a new pair of shoes) then I will tell him not to worry about returning it. He also handles my extra spending (which I admittedly do occasionally) in the same manner rather than ranting and raving.