What motivates people to announce leaving a board?

[wondering04]

In the boards that I have been a member of, I have noticed a trend of people making an announcement that they are leaving a particular board. It puzzles me because when a board no longer meets my needs I just quietly disappear.

I wonder what the motivation is for making an announcement. Do the people want other board members to beg them to remain? Are they looking for people to agree with their points and if they don't, they leave, but make a big announcement? Will that clench the argument in their favor? Does it bring more attention to them? It just puzzles me.

If someone is hurting or hurt by a comment, would it not be better to openly state the hurt, PM the person who hurt them and ask for an explaination. Or point out what is bothering them openly?

Perhaps it is the same phenomenon that motivates some people to church hop. My pastor once said that going from church to church will not solve the problem. That churches are places where we, as living stones, rub against each other and learn to fit together to build a corporate temple. If we leave, we leave a hole, but also do not learn the lessons that can be learned even through the difficult times. That often the problem with a church lies within the person leaving and when they go to a new church, they will find the same problem until they stay and face it. That does not mean that there is never justification for leaving a board or a church, but that if it is a trend that one notices in onesself, that maybe it is time to look deeper within.

I am not meaning to offend anyone by this post, but sincerely am just puzzled. I find myself praying for those who leave, hoping they find the peace that they are seeking wherever they end up.

Heather

[jcm]

Over time relationships are built through the board. When someone makes a decision to leave then probably the announcement of that decision is intended for that person's friends, acquaintances, and whoever might be affected.

I can't speak knowledgably if this is similar to the church-hopping phenomenon.

[other one]

May well be that they sense something that they want to help go away and don't know how to deal with it any other way.

It is sort of like saying,"Something's wrong here and I am having troublel dealing with it..... can someone please tell me why I should stay here."

This is a good place with a few high minded people that you can ignore if you will.

Folks have come to know and believe here and that's a good thing to be part of.

[Catsmeow]

Sometimes people get their feelings hurt. Sometimes they just feel "invisible". I do think in some cases they need to just be cuddled and encouraged.

When I've gotten really frustrated, I've had good friends hug me and encourage me and yes,....it helps.

So, I'm sorry for those who disagree but sometimes a big hug goes a long way.

It could be they have serious problems at home and need a friend who cares.

This is one way to say, "I do care. I'm here for you."

[Catsmeow]

By the way, there's times when I throw my arms up into the air and say, "Lord, I give up!" And that's when His sweet, loving Spirit holds me close and reassures me.

[Adstar]

Well how long is a piece of string?

Why do people announce that are leaving from a forum?

Maybe they have made a few friends over the time they have been on the forum and want to say goodbye.

Maybe they might not be sure if they have any friends and say good bye just in case there might be someone at the boards that might be hurt and worry what has happened to them. Maybe they might think you have died?

Maybe it might be to find out if anyone really cares if they stay or leave?

Maybe their message has been comprehensively rejected and it is a way for protest?

Maybe they just feel that it is good manners to tell people you will no longer be on the boards?

There are probably many other reasons why people say good bye. If i decide to leave this board i will post a good bye letter for sure.

All Praise The Ancient Of Days

[wondering04]

Thanks, I have just been troubled about this.

Heather

[hazel]

Hi Heather, glad to meet ya! I haven't been on for a while, and just wanted to introduce myself. God Bless!

[Catsmeow]

Announcement !

If Catsmeow leaves Worthy Boards, it's because:

1. I'm having hormonal problems( I'll be back when hormones are stable) -or-

2. I'm in the midst of a Florida Hurricane. (I'm busy praying.) -or-

3. I'm real sick and probably in the hospital. (A get-well card is appreciated)-or-

4. I'm in glory with Jesus. (Throw a party and praise God.)

[wondering04]

Hi Hazel, thanks for the welcome. Catsmeow, I hope we all leave the board by being raptured, that would be awesome. Imagine the instant messaging in heaven.

Heather