shazza Posted September 18, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 29 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 526 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/25/1965 Share Posted September 18, 2014 I haven't been on this site for quite a while. I was married 27 years and devoted to my husband and 3 sons. Like any marriage we had our ups and downs. About 15 years ago he was unfaithful to me on 2 occasions however I forgave him and we reconciled. I never really trusted him completely again but I did my best to work on that. Late last year I found out he was unfaithful once again and I told him enough is enough and asked him to leave. He confessed to me at this point that there has been numerous women over the years as he wanted to cleanse himself! I truly believe he is a sex addict and addicted to porn. We were both Christians when we married however within 2 years he had completely backslidden, I prayed for years and years. I have felt God's hand in this decision and that I did the right thing. I have received counselling and I have turned my life around after a really tough year. My marriage is now no more and we be divorced in the next couple of months. Australian laws state we have to be separated 12 months before we divorce. I just wanted to share my experiences, its been the most devastating year of my life, however I now am content with my life and God's Grace and His Peace and so grateful I had Him carry me through this. I have 3 wonderful sons who are devoted to me and trying to reconcile their relationship with their dad. At some point in the future I would like the chance to meet a Christian man I can share my life with but just relying on God and his plan for my life. Hugs, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted September 18, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 599 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,218 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,941 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted September 18, 2014 I can't imagine the heartache... Praying for peace for you and for someone you can grow old with..... and for simple happiness... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RustyAngeL Posted September 18, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 23 Topic Count: 155 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,464 Content Per Day: 1.02 Reputation: 8,810 Days Won: 57 Joined: 03/30/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/12/1952 Share Posted September 18, 2014 I haven't been on this site for quite a while. I was married 27 years and devoted to my husband and 3 sons. Like any marriage we had our ups and downs. About 15 years ago he was unfaithful to me on 2 occasions however I forgave him and we reconciled. I never really trusted him completely again but I did my best to work on that. Late last year I found out he was unfaithful once again and I told him enough is enough and asked him to leave. He confessed to me at this point that there has been numerous women over the years as he wanted to cleanse himself! I truly believe he is a sex addict and addicted to porn. We were both Christians when we married however within 2 years he had completely backslidden, I prayed for years and years. I have felt God's hand in this decision and that I did the right thing. I have received counselling and I have turned my life around after a really tough year. My marriage is now no more and we be divorced in the next couple of months. Australian laws state we have to be separated 12 months before we divorce. I just wanted to share my experiences, its been the most devastating year of my life, however I now am content with my life and God's Grace and His Peace and so grateful I had Him carry me through this. I have 3 wonderful sons who are devoted to me and trying to reconcile their relationship with their dad. At some point in the future I would like the chance to meet a Christian man I can share my life with but just relying on God and his plan for my life. Hugs, I am so sorry for all of this that has happened to you. Keep your eyes on Christ and He will lead you to where you need to be. Pray for your husband and your sons. Your husband sounds to me that He really needs Christ, and remember too you have forgiven him and that will always free you up. Your in our prayers sister, as well as your husband. Keep coming back for fellowship. Because He Lives!! Rustyangel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shazza Posted September 19, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 29 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 526 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/25/1965 Author Share Posted September 19, 2014 Thanks heaps Rustyangel! I appreciate your prayers so much. Hugs, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloe_fantastic Posted September 19, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 22 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 868 Content Per Day: 0.18 Reputation: 221 Days Won: 2 Joined: 06/09/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/17/1981 Share Posted September 19, 2014 Praying for healing, joy and peace for you and your children! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trinitron Posted September 19, 2014 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 140 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 42 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/16/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 19, 2014 (edited) Christian definitions on what is adultery for men and women, whether married or divorced: Matthew 5:31-32 "It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. Mark 10:2-12 Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" "What did Moses command you?" he replied. They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away." "It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery." Luke 16:18 "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Matthew 19:6-7 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" Romans 7:2-3 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man. Deuteronomy 22:19 They shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver and give them to the girl's father, because this man has given an Israelite virgin a bad name. She shall continue to be his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives. Matthew 1:19 Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. 1 Corinthians 7:11-13 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. Matthew 19:8-9 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Romans 7:3 So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man. Edited September 19, 2014 by Trinitron Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlelambseativy Posted September 19, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 230 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 4,941 Content Per Day: 0.95 Reputation: 2,003 Days Won: 14 Joined: 02/08/2010 Status: Offline Share Posted September 19, 2014 Shazza, I am so sorry that your life has had this turn, yet sometimes the hardest words are,"Not my will but Thine Lord." Take time to heal and worry not about the future but leave all in the hands of God and His good and perfect will for you and your sons and pray for the husband who has some very serious issues and that God will have His will in your husbands life. Rest in the Father's arms and be content with your life as it us now and let Him plan for your best be it marriage or life without anyone but Jesus. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmlusa2000 Posted September 19, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 53 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 823 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 217 Days Won: 6 Joined: 02/01/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/13/1981 Share Posted September 19, 2014 I haven't been on this site for quite a while. I was married 27 years and devoted to my husband and 3 sons. Like any marriage we had our ups and downs. About 15 years ago he was unfaithful to me on 2 occasions however I forgave him and we reconciled. I never really trusted him completely again but I did my best to work on that. Late last year I found out he was unfaithful once again and I told him enough is enough and asked him to leave. He confessed to me at this point that there has been numerous women over the years as he wanted to cleanse himself! I truly believe he is a sex addict and addicted to porn. We were both Christians when we married however within 2 years he had completely backslidden, I prayed for years and years. I have felt God's hand in this decision and that I did the right thing. I have received counselling and I have turned my life around after a really tough year. My marriage is now no more and we be divorced in the next couple of months. Australian laws state we have to be separated 12 months before we divorce. I just wanted to share my experiences, its been the most devastating year of my life, however I now am content with my life and God's Grace and His Peace and so grateful I had Him carry me through this. I have 3 wonderful sons who are devoted to me and trying to reconcile their relationship with their dad. At some point in the future I would like the chance to meet a Christian man I can share my life with but just relying on God and his plan for my life. Hugs, You have God's grace and peace, and that is all you need. You will be in my prayers. God Bless you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chapmic Posted September 19, 2014 Group: Junior Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 0 Topics Per Day: 0 Content Count: 84 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 13 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/19/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted September 19, 2014 Keep Your head up, you will be in my prayers as well. It's a tough situation but Jesus is with you and it will all work out for the good in the end! Jesus hears your cries therefore you are already blessed! God bless! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shazza Posted September 20, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 29 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 526 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/25/1965 Author Share Posted September 20, 2014 Thank you all! I am encouraged by scripture, particularly Romans 8:28 and Jeremiah 29:11. The Lord has really being laying them on my heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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