NARCISSISM

[Guest]

It is way too long to get into. All I can say is, I am speaking from experience being with a Narcissist!Like I mentioned before, one must experience it first hand in order to fully understand it!

[hmbld]

Just a side question, does God allow/desire/instruct/ us to walk away from others with problems?  The problems referred to here, are actually abusive, so this moves into does God still hate divorce in abusive situations?  

[Guest]

Only God can make that call. Although many may have different opinions about it! God will also give us the direction and wisdom to speak with others if HE chooses too! Abusiveness is totally wrong to any degree. Sometimes we must walk away from abusive situations. He is not going to give us more than we can handle. Also, God cannot bless what is not ordained of Him!

[hmbld]

2 minutes ago, LionOfJudah said:

Only God can make that call. Although many may have different opinions about it! God will also give us the direction and wisdom to speak with others if HE chooses too! Abusiveness is totally wrong to any degree. Sometimes we must walk away from abusive situations. He is not going to give us more than we can handle. Also, God cannot bless what is not ordained of Him!

I like this answer, and agree with you, God can and will give us the direction, if we are willing to listen to Him!  In another thread you said live life to the fullest without toxic people, or something to that effect.  As Christians, won't we always have toxic people in our lives?  

[missmuffet]

57 minutes ago, Luke1992 said:

Its like your breaking into a rap ah don't really understand what your talking about but.

In this changing world and that women are becoming more and more like men doing mans jobs, and mans activities etc.. its about time women also did the chasing as well ahh.

Most people bring stuff on themselves and deserve what they get anyway by constantly choosing bad people when they is plenty of good decent people out there who they themselves reject AND THEN blame everyone else.

Men cant do right for doing wrong these days which is why I AS A MAN cant be assed chasing after women either, Its not all one sided. Trust me. Looking at the state of relationships these days I don't know if its even worth it especially because of the state of my generation and younger people. The worlds getting more evil and sick. The break down of morals, values, traditions and gender roles etc etc.

I have no idea why woman wanted to do a mans job and go out and work... but fair enough I am happy to just stay at home and watch tv all day AHHH  

and another thing why do people rush into things and relationships ?.

 

 

 

 

 

So lets blame the other person. It sounds to me that you are on the defense. I will not get into a man vs. woman bashing session.

[Guest]

Yes! We live in a toxic society. Thanks to Adam and Eve! God will direct our steps to lost souls. HE will give us divine appointments and give us the words to speak that will pierce the hearts of those who wants to have a personal relationship with our loving MESSIAH!

[missmuffet]

54 minutes ago, Luke1992 said:

Well whats a normal relationship and a narcissistic relationship in your view lol

Look up Scripture and see what God wants for a healthy Christian relationship and marriage. While you are at it read 1 Corinthians 13.

[Guest]

AMEN COBALT AMEN!!!

[missmuffet]

8 minutes ago, Cobalt1959 said:

If you have lived within a narcissistic relationship, there is no way you can ask what the difference is between the "normal" relationship and the "narcissistic" relationship.  They are as different as night and day.  The narcissistic relationship is marked by a high level of dysfunction, but any dysfunction is always blamed on the source of supply.  Through counselling, certain Cluster B's can be taught to mimic empathy, but they will never truly have empathy so their relationships will always be fraught with drama.  If one has to ask themselves whether or not they are a narcissist or not, they probably are not, or, at least, not to any large extent.  Narcissists will often straight up admit they are self-centered, but will pull up short of accepting blame or responsibility for anything.

Unfortunately I haven't experienced that.

[missmuffet]

1 minute ago, Cobalt1959 said:

I don't think they treat every victim differently.  Perhaps in small ways or individual ways, because narcissists, like any other humans learn as they go.  Narcissists get more learning experience because they often cycle through partners much quicker than normal people.  The cycle is always the same:  Adulation/Euphoria, Devalue, Discard.  Repeat as necessary.  Sometimes you get a rebound phase if they are keeping you in their orbit as a secondary source of supply if they feel it's useful to do so.  And woe be it to the one who rejects that second attempt.  Hell Hath No Fury Like A Narcissist Scorned.

The most important thing to grasp, once you get out of a relationship with a narcissist is this:  Contact = Pain.  Every.  Single.  Time.

OH YES!!!!!!!