Guest shiloh357 Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 Just now, kwikphilly said: I believe OotS is referring to room mates not couples living together for extra marital reasons Even if that is the case, his response really oversimplifies what premarital counseling seeks to accomplish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest shiloh357 Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 13 minutes ago, Out of the Shadows said: When I said it teaches two people to live in close proximity to each other I was speaking of after they were married, not before. I do not know where you got the idea I was speaking of before marriage. The part about moving into a dorm together. At any rate, you have an incorrect understanding of what premarital counseling is and what it seeks to accomplish. It's not simply about teaching people to live in close proximity with each other. Married people live TOGETHER, not in close proximity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Running Gator Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Royal Member * Followers: 8 Topic Count: 91 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 10,596 Content Per Day: 3.69 Reputation: 2,743 Days Won: 25 Joined: 06/16/2016 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 5 minutes ago, shiloh357 said: The part about moving into a dorm together. At any rate, you have a very simplistic understanding of what premarital counseling is and what it seeks to accomplish. It's not simiply about teaching people to live in close proximity with each other. Married people live TOGETHER, not in close proximity. Spoken like someone who has never been married. The "together" part is easy, it is the close proximity part that takes some getting used to. Of course it all teaches how to make decisions, finances and how to settle disagreements. But none of it has to do with Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Running Gator Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Royal Member * Followers: 8 Topic Count: 91 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 10,596 Content Per Day: 3.69 Reputation: 2,743 Days Won: 25 Joined: 06/16/2016 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 1 minute ago, Yowm said: After? Is that why it is called PREmarital? Yes, PREmarital counseling helps to teach people how to live together AFTER they are married, that is why it is called PREmarital. Is this confusing for you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwikphilly Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 96 Topic Count: 307 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 18,136 Content Per Day: 4.63 Reputation: 27,817 Days Won: 327 Joined: 08/03/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 15, 2016 Yown.....I don't know about you but I'm getting tired,past my bedtime & I kinda got confused for a minute,,,,ROFL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Running Gator Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Royal Member * Followers: 8 Topic Count: 91 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 10,596 Content Per Day: 3.69 Reputation: 2,743 Days Won: 25 Joined: 06/16/2016 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 Just now, Yowm said: Yes, it's like something out of Alice in Wonderland. LOL I am sorry to hear that. Let me see if I can help make it more clear The purpose of PREmarital is to help people prior to being married to deal with life after they are married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.81 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 15, 2016 I think premarital counseling is important. "Till Death Due Us Part" is a very long time. Unfortunately many today ignore those words. A Christian marriage counselor is there to help you prepare for these many years. There are many Pastors who will not marry you unless you have had premarital counseling. I respect the fact that a marriage means enough to this Pastor who is about to join two lives together to require this. The honeymoon phase dies out. There are many,many challenges that the couple must overcome together. First with God in the center of their relationship but then together. The couple must ask....Are we really as compatible as we think we are or are we just blinded but love? Are their other reasons why we are getting married? Are we thinking with our hearts only or also by our brain? There are many questions to consider. It takes a lot of courage to say " I do not think we would make a good lifetime couple" goodbye. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,189 Content Per Day: 7.98 Reputation: 21,467 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted October 15, 2016 1 hour ago, kwikphilly said: Me too! Are the adults all done so I can get back to the crow thingy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.81 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 15, 2016 1 minute ago, enoob57 said: Are the adults all done so I can get back to the crow thingy No, you must sit with your hands folded and wait. And while you are at it please eat your broccoli. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwikphilly Posted October 15, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 96 Topic Count: 307 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 18,136 Content Per Day: 4.63 Reputation: 27,817 Days Won: 327 Joined: 08/03/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 15, 2016 Nooby,this adult has left the building,time for sleepies,,,,,nite nite,LOve you Steven Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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