Is it a disadvantage to marry a mummy's boy?

[silviawang]

4 minutes ago, Temp said:

i did not say all Chinese or Indians

social psychologists would tell you it is proven fact that culture is one of the major environmental factor contributes to a person's attitudes and hence their behavior

but it is not the only factor of course

anyway, Silvia seems to agree with me, and she know something about Chinese culture.

lastly, i respect the fact that it is not about the original OP you have started

so I will stop here.

 

i am not "know something about Chinese culture. ""

i am the chinese

[silviawang]

2 minutes ago, Temp said:

you said you have been there for 12 years?

i thought you might be born in another country and went back to China?

or maybe it is opposite?

either way, it is just mine personal experience, more with Indians than Chinese

but many Indians i have came across are very scary and love to destroy and engage in destroy people's reputation over small things

but one person's experience does not make it facts

though i came across this article recently by an Indian who seems to have issues with his own culture as well

i will stop here because i don't want to offend OP 

I were born in china and raised in china and living in china

[silviawang]

12 minutes ago, Temp said:

also have you had a chance to compare your culture to Western culture?

The Western culture?

If y mean the Christian culture,yes,I were been called in 2003,and after that year,I try my best to pursue GOD,the GOD y westerners believed in for 2000 years

 

If y mean the Greece ,Rome

I do not know how to say , the only thing I study deeply is the Greek philosophy

[silviawang]

13 minutes ago, Davida said:

Sounds like over time you've gained some objectivity and personal insight. It is what happens after we leave our family of origin we gain some perspective to see what was and what is. It sounds very hard for a woman in the Chinese culture, very controlled.

in the traditional Chinese culture ,the situation of the woman was far more tough than the Muslim woman in their society, far more tough!

[silviawang]

See the picture?

Even 100 years ago,the majority of Chinese woman should disable their foot in this way,bcs the men thought that with this ,their wives is incapable  to commit adultery

 

[silviawang]

Hope y guys will not have the nightmare

 

[silviawang]

27 minutes ago, Temp said:

noted the term I used 

I did not say " Christian culture" i said "culture that is not rooted in Christianity"

so does that mean 

A German B French C American or D All of above plus every other countries where Christianity used to the one and only religion, which means values of Christianity have seeped into many of those culture despite the fact many of them are largely secular now

you tell me?

so you have no reference point to make the comparison on whether or not Chinese are more slanderous than Westerners from countries that are rooted in Christian history and culture?

yet you seem offended by mine suggestion?

how can you be offended when you don't have the facts?

 

 

 

 

Too huge the topic

And let me tell y my conclusion to the west

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Europe

The main religion of it is the Catholic/Orthodox

And the ethic of the Europe  is not the Christianity,it looks like the Christianity

But it is only”look like”

The true DNA of them is the paganism(mainly the Aryan Religion)

That means “justification by the good work of Mortal”

---------And do not totally surrender to GOD,and do not accept the Salvation is a free gift,is totally the grace from GOD

All the pagan Religion are based on “justification by the good work of Mortal”

So I think the ethic of the Europe is the mixed culture

With the Christianity cloth covering the body and the paganism in heart

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US

The main religion of it is the Protestantism

Yes,it is Biblical ethic

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And even the Christianity cloth ,the Europe does not want to wear now

The multiculturalism, the left wing is now the main ethic of the Europem

As a Godly woman,of course I should blame it

 

And to the US,I do not know why Donald Trump is win,if it bcs y guys still have some sincere toward GOD,I think maybe GOD still bless America

[Kindle]

45 minutes ago, silviawang said:

Too huge the topic

And let me tell y my conclusion to the west

 

***************

 

Europe

 

The main religion of it is the Catholic/Orthodox

 

And the ethic of the Europe  is not the Christianity,it looks like the Christianity

 

But it is only”look like”

 

The true DNA of them is the paganism(mainly the Aryan Religion)

 

That means “justification by the good work of Mortal”

 

---------And do not totally surrender to GOD,and do not accept the Salvation is a free gift,is totally the grace from GOD

All the pagan Religion are based on “justification by the good work of Mortal”

 

So I think the ethic of the Europe is the mixed culture

 

With the Christianity cloth covering the body and the paganism in heart

 

***************

 

US

The main religion of it is the Protestantism

 

Yes,it is Biblical ethic

 

***************

 

And even the Christianity cloth ,the Europe does not want to wear now

 

The multiculturalism, the left wing is now the main ethic of the Europem

 

As a Godly woman,of course I should blame it

 

 

 

And to the US,I do not know why Donald Trump is win,if it bcs y guys still have some sincere toward GOD,I think maybe GOD still bless America

 

 

20 minutes ago, Temp said:

 

Aryan?

which countries are you referring to?

true DNA?

again noted what i said

every other countries where Christianity used to the one and only religion, which means values of Christianity have seeped into many of those culture despite the fact many of them are largely secular now

just because many of those countries are becoming more secular , does not mean their Christian history and culture have lost it influences on general societal values

can you explain to me why there are so much issues with toxic goods and counterfeit goods coming from China, much more so than other countries?

why is it Chinese tourists are known to be inconsiderate and cutting in line?

the list just goes on and on

those things happens in Western Countries as well, but no where near the same magnitude

those things don't just happen by accident either

it is quite clear to me you took offense to mine so called "China  bashing"

but all i am doing is stating facts

anyway i will stop here

no point continuing the conversation if we can not have a real one that is based on facts

As a Christian i don't like it when mine fellow countrymen are commiting evil against others whether or not it impacts me personally is irrelevant

that is why it really rubs me the wrong way when i see other Christians get into this tribe mentality and getting defensive about these kind of thing regardless what the truth is

but in end of the day God gives all us freewill and we can use it anyway we like as long as we bear in mind we all have to answer to Him someday
that is all

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Please let us stay on topic. We don't want to derail HF's thread.

[kwikphilly]

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This is not what my OP is about, as the mummy's boy syndrome crosses racial lines and is part of human nature, not dictated by people groups.

Blessings His First

    Well,every Italian guy I ever knew was/is a "Mamas boy"I see it as a good thing as they do treat their wives with as much respect as they do mama(in what I've seen/know)   The mama knows her place as a woman,mother & will protect her children like a lioness with her cubs and usually she will pass on her wisdom to her "new daughter".......I know how the Americans think of a "mommas boy" & it seems to have a negative implication.......kind of like  hanging on his mothers apron strings.......personally,I've always paid close attention to family units,if there is mutual respect in the home with much love then its a good measuring cup for starters.....I would assume we are already talking about Christians,right?                                                              With love-in Christ,Kwik

[missmuffet]

21 minutes ago, kwikphilly said:

Blessings His First

    Well,every Italian guy I ever knew was/is a "Mamas boy"I see it as a good thing as they do treat their wives with as much respect as they do mama(in what I've seen/know)   The mama knows her place as a woman,mother & will protect her children like a lioness with her cubs and usually she will pass on her wisdom to her "new daughter".......I know how the Americans think of a "mommas boy" & it seems to have a negative implication.......kind of like  hanging on his mothers apron strings.......personally,I've always paid close attention to family units,if there is mutual respect in the home with much love then its a good measuring cup for starters.....I would assume we are already talking about Christians,right?                                                              With love-in Christ,Kwik

Good point kwik. I have always been told to look at the way a prospective husband treats his mother. Does he respect her? How does he treat her? If there is an unhealthy relationship going on between the mother and son that is something the woman  can pick up before she says "I DO".