Should married Christians have friends of the opposite sex?

[JohnD]

There's also the females out there who (once they see a man is taken and especially if their wife is gorgeous) start with the flirtatiousness etc.

So, it's not as if you are the only one (or only gender) that has to fend off predators.

I'm ordinary as toasted bread. So I am left alone.

Then when I'm spotted with my beloved, it's time to raise deflector shields. {SIGH}

She was in television in the 1970's.

[JohnD]

My beloved was MC for the Jerry Lewis Telethon.

Worked with Walter Kronkite

She misplaced her photo with Bob Hope before we scanned it to the computer...

[JohnD]

Her recent photo shoots include

Batgirl

(I am an amateur  screenwriter) for Supergirl and Star Trek (she participates with costume shoots like this one).

She voted in the last election in her Supergirl costume.

So I don't sound like some boastful egotistical cad.

I know of what I speak.

 

[JohnD]

Answer to the OP question:

It depends...

LOL

[1x1is1]

This is a tough one for sure.  Maybe okay if there is a 50 year age gap between the two.  I wonder what would be the difference between calling a person of the opposite sex a friend and a person in here at Worthy that you may call a Brother or Sister?   I readily open a communication in here with Brother or Sister, but I also have a particular opposite sex person at Worthy that I consider a "Dear Friend".  We will most likely never meet in person, but I intend to smack her in the head with some kind of fruit at the Marriage Feast of the Lord! 

There would have to be taken into account the issue of why it is necessary to have a friend that you see in person.  The time devoted to that person would be better spent with your spouse.   Hobbies or special interests that are not shared between spouses can still be done without the need of other participants present.  It's just risky.

[PageofGrace]

I'm married. 

Going on 30 years this month. If I trust my husband, and I do, what's the issue? 
Men and women populate the earth. 

If I do not trust him to have friends that are the opposite sex, I do not trust him. 

And that is not a marriage. That's a lie. 

 

[PageofGrace]

2 hours ago, JohnD said:

My beloved was MC for the Jerry Lewis Telethon.

Worked with Walter Kronkite

She misplaced her photo with Bob Hope before we scanned it to the computer...

SMALL WORLD!

My dad was the producer of the JLT. 

 

 

[Neighbor]

I don't know anything about posing nor tv  fundraisers, but "But I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express hotel last night."

And; I know better than to sell the idea that it is harmless to a marriage to go having  opposite sex friends. It ain't.

[romans828]

4 hours ago, JohnD said:

Old JohnD's opinion.

Friends are not acquaintances. Too many folks get the two confused. Nor are they coworkers. Oftentimes they are not even family or extended family members.

A true friend would NEVER give anyone any reason to doubt them in their loyalty under any circumstance (especially of a sexual nature). Otherwise they are not a friend in the first place... a questionable friend is NO friend. Fiduciary is another word for friend.

Greater love hath no man than he who lays down his life for his... 

If your spouse is not only your friend but your best friend... then you need to look up the definition of all three... friend, best friend, spouse.

If you go back far enough you can find archived here my response to the thread title along the lines that no one of the opposite sex can be just friends... I was quite hurt at the time by one who I believe for years was a true friend but she turned out not to be. No it was not my beloved (if the thought crossed your mind). It was just a friend (of us both or so I thought who turned out to be no one's friend).

But I have since gotten over the disappointment and regained my senses on the issue.

You might ask the question can a brother and sister remain friends after they get married? How about parents of the opposite sex?

The core issue is fidelity and without it there was never a true friendship in the first place.

IF a spouse is jealous of the friend of their spouse, they are obligated to end the friendship because the spouse takes precedence (obviously).

And a true friend would understand that.

I had one male friend that I remained friends with after I married my husband, but only after introducing him to my husband and making sure they were friends. However, I never did anything alone with this man - we would just spend time with him and his wife as a couple. I just think having those kind of boundaries are wise. I don't want to invite trouble into my marriage.

[Anonymous Aristotle]

If you can't trust your husband around a woman

You can't trust him