Prostitution

[eric]

Hezekaiah,

You said,

Good-bye. I'm through arguing and I'm through fighting. Listen to the song "Who Will be Jesus". See if the notions ring any bells. You've obviously never been through a dark night of the soul. If you do, I pray you find some loving Christians who are more interested in you and your soul, not how friendly you are.

By the way, I believe Christians are required to help. "As you argued with the least of these..."

You're response is so typical. Christians try to argue you into submission, not show love. The darkside just says welcome.

Do you think you are the only one who has been through a dark night of the soul, as you put it.? You were conned by a business man and now you have a great chip on your shoulder. A lot of us have been where you are at and are grateful for the support and the concern of our brothers and sisters on this board.

If you want to turn to porno web sites to solve your problem, that's your affair, but don't scorn genuine christians for offering advice. Did it ever occur to you that it might be your selfpitying attitude that turned people away from you. Humble yourself and get down on your knees and pray and pray and stop biting the hands of those trying to help.

We've all been down in that valley, mate.

[other one]

Prostitution, escort services, and other sexual sins are a growing problem for Christian men.  I found a link to a website where men debate whether or not you can be a Christian and see prostitutes, or be a prostitute.  Many prostitutes justify what they do by saying, Mary Magdalene was a prostitute.

These discussions come from The Erotic Review Board.  The primary purpose of the board is to discuss escorts.  It is an interesting place to find a discussion on Christ.

By the way, the use of escorts is referred to as "the hobby".

This is a problem the church is ignoring.

What say you?

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I started not to respond to this thread, but find it hard not to. I am one of those who has pretty much overcome a severe addiction to porn from his college days. I can tell you from experience that those of us who have overcome this problem do not appreciate people posting websites like this in their face. I personally don't understand how someone who has accepted Jesus as the Lord of his life could expose others to the very thing that he is having trouble with.

There are several threads that have dealt with this issue and if you are really seeking help I suggest you use the search tool and look through them for you will find help.

As for the church not helping I would disagree. While I am not attending any church at the present time I have attended many different ones in the past. I don't know of any church organization that did not have someone that you could turn to for help in this area. It may not be discussed in the open or preached openly, but largely so as not to expose people to the temptations of the problem as a whole.

So from experience of looking for "The" New Testament Church", resulting in being in and part of at least 20 churches in at least 10 denominations and all of them having people who could help in this situation, I would respectfully disagree that the church is not dealing with the problem.

Add to this the "Family Life" marriage seminairs dealing directly with this problem and I'd say that Christianity as a whole deals with it. At least it is that way here in the Oklahoma area of the country.

I'll leave my thoughts at this, for I am really disturbed as to how you are handling this topic as a whole. If you are yourself seeking help for this PM me and we can discuss it all you want. But I won't post that kind of thing on the open forum for those who struggle to have to deal with, not to speak of the lovely young people here that simply don't need exposed to the trash in the first place.

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[WayneB]

I have modified my post to remove the links.  I still haven't heard what the church is doing to help men with this problem.

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Bless you brother. There are some things that are best discussed in private or in a controlled setting with like others who struggle with the same sin. An Internet discussion board is not necessarily that place because of the diversity of folks that are present for the discussion from young children to senior saints.

I am sorry that your new pastor handled your situation so poorly. Don't judge him for it though, but rather pray for him that the Lord will help him grow in insight and wisdom.

So you ask what the church should do? First you need to understand the church can do very little because it is Jesus Christ in you that will transform you. A fella named Mike Cleveland wrote, "the Biblical solution to my sin problem: repentance and forgiveness, and the newness of life that comes through the gospel."

Yes, you can need the strength of a good friend and prayerfully, God will provide you a good Christian counselor to point you in the right direction BUT as you know, the ONLY direction is upwards placing your focus on Jesus Christ.

So my suggestions (and not in any particular order):

Visit the following web-site Setting Captives Free. I can not personally attest to its value but the Statement of Faith seems rock solid and it is endorsed by gospelcom.net.

PRAY!!! Put on the full Armor of God and PRAY!!! [Ephesians 6:10-18] Allow God to speak to you through HIS Word. The ONLY way you will hear HIS voice is if you listen and that comes through prayer and reading HIS Word.

Lastly, seek a Godly sorrow and not a worldly sorrow. [2 Cor 7:10] The world's way is to impose GUILT but God's way is to lead you to repentance and empower you to live a life that reflects your inheritance.

May the Lord Bless you richly,

Wayne