The Problem With Kids Today...

[BeauJangles]

To be perfectly frank, I never thought in all my born days I'd find myself in a state of pretty much living with young people again. Now, don't get me wrong right off the bat. I dig young folks. Yes, I most certainly do. We have a sense of relating to one another that perhaps they might not with somebody else in my age bracket.

Some of these kids are very hip and cool. Not all of them show tremendous intelligence, but some are truly amazing. On the other end of the scale, there's some really dumb ones who haven't a clue. So, it's a little frustrating dealing with this since I'm around them constantly now. Again, it surprises me having a few new revelations concerning them.  

Let me share something to a young poster on another topic who won't respond to what I've tried to do in reaching out the him/her. This would sum up the basis of why I tend to struggle with today's generation of young women and men. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Feel free to offer any thoughts you might have to this topic and thread. God bless. 

 

Allow me to step into your inner circle if I may in a basic overall ascertainment of what kinds of struggles that are typical for today's younger persons. Let me give you a few generalizations of what I'm speaking of. In this day and age, I'm seeing more and more self-centeredness of personalities, basic lack of concentration skills and focus, this would be an aspect of attention deficit disorders, also restlessness, which leads to easily becoming bored, hyperactivity, difficulties staying on task, and a real problem with tremendous apathy. What is the major problem with apathy today? Well, this would explain it. 

 

1. Apathy

   [ˈapəTHē]

    

   NOUN

   apathy (noun)

   1. lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern.

      "widespread apathy among students"

      synonyms:

      indifference · lack of interest · lack of enthusiasm · lack of concern · unconcern · uninterestedness · unresponsiveness · impassivity · passivity · passiveness · detachment · dispassion · dispassionateness · lack of involvement · phlegm ·

      [more]

[BeauJangles]

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[Aimes]

The problem with kids today:

They were given trophy's for participating.

They were never told no.

They were raised thinking the world revolved around them.

They weren't spanked.

They weren't taught respect for others.

Their parents wanted to be "their friends" and didn't parent. 

[IloveyouGod.]

Why do kids act the way they do today:

It really all starts with public school, they are not taught to think.  Instead they are taught to go along with the crowd which leaves no room for free thinkers,  then there is the parents.   They are not allowed to ever tell their kids no that is unacceptable.   They let them run around like lunatics and have free reign on anything and everything.   Most of this is simply started by the facts that the popular culture is fighting against anything that even slightly reminds them of God's rule.   

[Justin Adams]

15 minutes ago, Aimes said:

The problem with kids today:

They were given trophy's for participating.

They were never told no.

They were raised thinking the world revolved around them.

They weren't spanked.

They weren't taught respect for others.

Their parents wanted to be "their friends" and didn't parent. 

Yes. And if one parent stood firm he was marginalised using the state as a policeman and eventually cast out on his ear... Hmm, where have I heard of that before? But men rarely complain since they have been branded as weak and ineffectual in a world of internet harassment for 'bad dads'. It will only get worse and the state then becomes one or more of the parents and the shrinks that love the money can say what they like. The kids are taught all their problems are from the 'cast off' person and then must endure psychological evaluations to keep the system going. 

If you want any of @Aimes ideas (above) to be adopted, you are obviously psychotic and need therapy!

[Aimes]

1 minute ago, Justin Adams said:

Yes. And if one parent stood firm he was marginalised using the state as a policeman and eventually cast out on his ear... Hmm, where have I heard of that before? But men rarely complain since they have been branded as weak and ineffectual in a world of internet harassment for 'bad dads'. It will only get worse and the state then becomes one or more of the parents and the shrinks that love the money can say what they like. The kids are taught all their problems are from the 'cast off' person and then must endure psychological evaluations to keep the system going. 

If you want any of @Aimes ideas (above) to be adopted, you are obviously psychotic and need therapy!

I'm thankful to have been raised by one of the "old-school parents". My Mom didn't care if I liked her, she was more concerned that I grow up to become a kind, decent, respectful, moral, human being. 

[Mantis]

The short attention span is due to five minute YouTube videos. They don’t have patience for anything over a few minutes to learn.

The social media has turned them into the selfy generation. It’s all about me, look at me, look at my life. It’s totally self centered and narcissistic. I hate it. My daughter will have nothing to do with God. It’s all about the world and what they want in it.

[missmuffet]

2 hours ago, BeauJangles said:

To be perfectly frank, I never thought in all my born days I'd find myself in a state of pretty much living with young people again. Now, don't get me wrong right off the bat. I dig young folks. Yes, I most certainly do. We have a sense of relating to one another that perhaps they might not with somebody else in my age bracket.

Some of these kids are very hip and cool. Not all of them show tremendous intelligence, but some are truly amazing. On the other end of the scale, there's some really dumb ones who haven't a clue. So, it's a little frustrating dealing with this since I'm around them constantly now. Again, it surprises me having a few new revelations concerning them.  

Let me share something to a young poster on another topic who won't respond to what I've tried to do in reaching out the him/her. This would sum up the basis of why I tend to struggle with today's generation of young women and men. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Feel free to offer any thoughts you might have to this topic and thread. God bless. 

 

Allow me to step into your inner circle if I may in a basic overall ascertainment of what kinds of struggles that are typical for today's younger persons. Let me give you a few generalizations of what I'm speaking of. In this day and age, I'm seeing more and more self-centeredness of personalities, basic lack of concentration skills and focus, this would be an aspect of attention deficit disorders, also restlessness, which leads to easily becoming bored, hyperactivity, difficulties staying on task, and a real problem with tremendous apathy. What is the major problem with apathy today? Well, this would explain it. 

 

1. Apathy

   [ˈapəTHē]

    

   NOUN

   apathy (noun)

   1. lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern.

      "widespread apathy among students"

      synonyms:

      indifference · lack of interest · lack of enthusiasm · lack of concern · unconcern · uninterestedness · unresponsiveness · impassivity · passivity · passiveness · detachment · dispassion · dispassionateness · lack of involvement · phlegm ·

      [more]

I have noticed a change of kids today. They are not respectful and they seem more aggressive. Look at what many of them are exposed to. You have television of today, video games and movies that their minds are digesting. Satan goes after them when they are young. Perhaps many parents are not good roll models. 

Edited August 17, 2020 by missmuffet

[BeauJangles]

1 hour ago, Aimes said:

The problem with kids today:

They were given trophy's for participating.

They were never told no.

They were raised thinking the world revolved around them.

They weren't spanked.

They weren't taught respect for others.

Their parents wanted to be "their friends" and didn't parent. 

Amen, sister. I couldn't have detailed these vital issues better. Thanks for the input. Very insightful as well as being intuitive. Am I to understand that you are also a parent? You do sound as one who knows their onions on the subject. I was a "stand-in" dad (step father- 10 years) with three sons that were the offspring of former missus (God rest her soul) and her former husband was an chronic alcoholic and also a methamphetamine addict. This caused the entire family I married into a tremendous challenge. I tried very hard with everyone's dysfunctional ways of being. Certainly not an easy role to "step" into. 

[Henry_iain]

Hi David . I think I can safely say that I get on well with you  . Actually I tend to get on best with children, or with seniors. 

A great topic which I was hoping someone would start eventually. I will add my bit. 

Can I get an idea of what people consider to be young? I am 35 years old. Teenagers think I am old and senior citizens think I am young. So what is the real cutoff point for "young people". I think it is important to recognise that a person's physical age is not necessarily a guarantee of character, either good or bad. 

In these conversation I tend to aim  for a balanced view because I do recognise the problems of the time we are living in where youth is concerned. I live with two experienced, semi-retired, teachers. So I get all the "young people of today" discussions coming out of my ears.  Sometimes it gets frustrating. And then there is plenty of critical voices abut young people in the media and on the internet. That is not going to help anyone.

I think in a thread like this, I would again ask that we be careful of what we say. Let us speak the truth in love. If we do that it could be a very healthy, long overdue conversation. If we don't it could get heated very quickly. There could be the temptation to blame difficult circumstances on this group or that group, but we all know that in the end, it's everyone and nobody's fault. And if we think about  it's Adam and Eve's fault.

I agree with everything DDisconnect said. I think peoples' memories tend to be very short. We tend to measure life by how things are now. But let me ask you this: if you got a one way ticket on a time machine that could take you anywhere , would you pick, for example, the 15th century? There would be different challenges them. The pendulum swings and history repeats itself, but in a way that keeps making things slightly more chaotic. I think entropy is happening and will continue but I think there is also enough hope that we can make the best of it ( I am an optimistic person) 

Young people face many challenges today that are extremely complex (I know, because I am in such circumstances myself). I do not know what the solutions are or if there are any, but I know that I am really, honestly, doing the best I can with what is available to me. I think, quite simply, young people need the trinity. They need Jesus to save them, the Holy Spirit to convict and guide them and a Father to love and discipline them. I have worked with youth during outreaches and have dealt with extremely difficult people. And in my experience, a mixture of love and discipline always works. Tell them the truth. They will not like it. But afterwards they will realise that they need it and will return for more. At least, that's what worked for the youth I have worked with.

But also remember that there are different people, cultures and backgrounds and what works for one person in one generation might not work in the another. 

Just my thoughts