Nervousness of Accountability

[kittylover0991]

How do you get over the nervousness of talking to someone(in this case the youth pastor) because you need ot talk to them for accountability on an issue that you normally woudlnt' talk about as it has been kept a secret for abotu 11 years?....

In otherwards... how do you get over being nervous before talking to the person, while you are talking to the person, and after they know?

[ayin jade]

Kitty, this is one of things you have to take to the Lord...the nervousness I mean. There are going to be embarassing situations that you will have to tell people all throughout your life. I know it is difficult, but your youth pastor has undoubtably heard this before from someone else. I think you will find yourself a lot happier after you tell him. You can also tell him about your nervousness. Im guessing he will make you feel comfortable afterwards.

You know, sometimes the Lord drags things out of us that hinder our walks with Him. It seems so painful at the time, but when it is over and done with, really it wasnt so bad. Read my sig line, Philippians 4:6-7.

[kittylover0991]

I pray he willl.. but I talk to him today... or at least going ot try to ....

So the only way to deal with this is to pray about it and then just "spill the bean"?..

[ayin jade]

As I see it, yes Kitty. This is one of those things that make us nervous, but also one of those things you have to face head on. Somethings you cant hide from. (Ive tried lol)

[other one]

How do you get over the nervousness of talking to someone(in this case the youth pastor) because you need ot talk to them for accountability on an issue that you normally woudlnt' talk about as it has been kept a secret for abotu 11 years?....

In otherwards... how do you get over being nervous before talking to the person, while you are talking to the person, and after they know?

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Practice......

[Avodah]

I pray he willl.. but I talk to him today... or at least going ot try to ....

How did it go? Do you feel better?

[kittylover0991]

Well.. i didn't get to talk to my youth pastor tonight... there was no time after the service because my ride was leaveing..

I hope i can talk to him Saturday or sometime soon.. my stomach turned upside down when i looked at him and was about to talk to him.. ugh.. so, Lord's timing i guess

[Guest Gods-Princess]

Hey kitty

I remember feeling just like you.. The way i coped wit it was tried to focus that i wasnt tellin my pastor but God..I knew God knew but he just wanted me to confess it. I also spoke to my pastors wife because i felt more comfortable talking with a female.. Just trust God.. And know that once you tell your pastor God will help you to deal with what ever it is.. he is there God is not goin to judge you nor should your pastor bless you

Ashleigh

[kittylover0991]

Yeah i know he wont' ..

thankyou

[#1smile]

Hey Kittey,

Let me tell you I totally know what it feels like to spill the beans about something kept in secret for years. I personally dealt with falling in to habital sin and God convicted me to the point I hated the sin and didn't like living in it and hidding it. So one night I open up to my mother, which was so hard. I thought she would get mad and say like.. how could you do such a thing, but she did. She totally acted fine. She let me confess and cry and she prayed with me.

Then later on when I was serving in my church I was still dealing with the sin off and on, well a leader of mine said we all need to fill out a certain form and have our feet washed. At that particular chuch they take what jesus did at the last supper to heart, so they would like everyone who serves in the church to get there feet washed too. Anyways... one of the questions on the sheet had to do with sin that one was still struggling with. So I knew again I need to confess it so she would understand why I couldn't get my feet washed and so forth. Well I was so scared inside. I thought to my self.. how is she going to react. Is she going to treat me different after finding out. Well let me tell you I finally got up the nerve to tell her one night, I said to her I have something really serious to talk to you about, so we went off to a little part in the room and I told her... full of tears and guilt. She showed such compassion and love back. She did ask any question, she just listined. She then prayed with me and said she would continue to pray for me. Well her prayers have helped in that I'm learning where to go to get advice and I'm seeking the lord more.

My best advice to stop what ever is keeping you in sin, Is to make time with the lord daily, to read his word daily and to write in a Journel. For me it hekped release all my feeling, plus helped me connect with the lord a lot more. I hope this is an incouragement to you. Your not alone in having to confess a sin. God will give you the time, person, strength, and words to say. I'll be praying for you.