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[Ghostdog]

men, when youre really struggling and youre depressed, why do you not reach out?

answer: you ever check in on a tool? ever check in on a hammer or a saw or a screwdriver or a drill? not just contruction tools any type of tool. you ever check in on it? no you dont ask it questions, you dont ask how its feeling, what its going through, what kind of stresses its going through. no its built for a certian thing and thats how people percieve men. were just built to take on the world, because theres this toxic masculinity craze of men are suspose to be big and strong and can take on the world. no we can not. we have breaking points but people look at us as tools, just utililtes. i hear this all the time from other guys "people dont call me, people dont check in on me, people dont want to say whats up to me, unless they need me for something otherwise im left on the shelf just sitting there on my pegboard waiting to be used again." thats how many men feel. theres only one differance, tools dont get to decide when they get to end their subsciption to life, men do. and men do at 70% higher rate then women. because no one check in on the tool. no one take a saw, cuts through 3 peices of plywood and say "saw how you doing today? i know i just put you through the ringer but you doing ok?" and then when we decide to unsubscribe to life people ask "what could we have done?" how bout try to listen to us when we need to talk, how bout making sure were ok, we deal with so many emotions that we dont get to share and you will never see it because the moment we show the handle is cracking or the blade is breaking, people want to replace us, people just go to the nearest hardware store and get a new tool. so men dont reach out because no one is encouraging us to do so and things will continue this way until we realize that men are human beings and not robots, machines and tools.

[Starise]

I can empathize with this.

[missmuffet]

Why not reach out to God? He is the One who really cares. 

[Ghostdog]

 

4 minutes ago, missmuffet said:

Why not reach out to God? He is the One who really cares. 

but sometimes its nice to hear from people who we care about to show that they care to.

[missmuffet]

Just now, Ghostdog said:

 

but sometimes its nice to hear from people who we care about to show that they care to.

But first reach out to God. Some people really care and some people don't. I wouldn't give another human importance over God. 

[other one]

I have not experience this very often Ghostdog.  I grew up in a very close family; actually a very close extended family.  Dad had 11 brothers and sisters which had a bunch of kids and we all got together often.   We had family reunions from 1959 to 2019 every year and I got to see and catch up with a couple of hundrec cousins once a year at least....   There are two dozen of us that are on facebook and 120 of us exchange email often.   I can understand what you are talking about from some work friends in the past but consider myself super blessed because of my family and the Xerox people I worked with for 38 years.

[The_Patriot21]

I regularly check on my tools...the more expensive they are, the more i check on them. Why? Because when i need a tool i want it to work, so i regularly pull them out and make sure they function properly. Especially the ones that go "bang"