Blind dating

[Marathoner]

2 hours ago, Starise said:

Me? I'm happily married to a great person I met online. We have been together for 20 years. People can knock it all they want to, that girl someone met in a bar probably didn't last a year.

You've expressed what I wrote about earlier in the topic. If the will of the Lord is to give you to another in marriage, then His purpose will be made known. It doesn't matter how you meet; it can be online, or while you're waiting in the grocery store checkout line. 

What the Lord raises up, no man can tear down but by the same token, what the Lord destroys no man can rebuild. No one can claim they've never made a mistake nor blew it royally. I have done just that a number of times. 

Nothing worked out, brother. It simply wasn't meant to be, and I lived in ignorance of the reason why until I found myself in a perilous situation with my sister in Christ. We wanted nothing more than to get married --- neither one of us were married --- and it seemed good... that is, until the Lord intervened and made His will known to both of us. 

It was a traumatic experience. Our weakness conspired to lead us both astray: I was a babe in Christ and perfectly clueless, and my sister knew something which she had withheld at that time. She didn't perceive me as I was but rather, who I would become in time, and it was this man whom she loved and desired to marry. But she didn't understand and of course, I understood nothing. I was a bonehead. 

The Lord declared His judgment: my sister was to marry another man but as for me, I have no wife. My brother suffered the sudden passing of his wife --- I was there when we committed her body into the earth --- and so the Lord would bring the two together and, in this way, she would become the mother of many children.

After their marriage which I was blessed to attend, the Lord completed that vision which my sister had witnessed when we first met, and He gave her husband the same vision as well. They wept for me, but I didn't understand why. 20 years later, I discovered the reason why my best friends wept for me: the Lord revealed the end of my trial to them both and it was a terrible thing to witness. 

I'm not the least bit concerned whether someone believes or not, my friend. Does it matter? We know the truth and that's all that matters. I love how you met your wonderful wife online. Isn't God so good?  

Edited June 29, 2022 by Marathoner
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[Starise]

23 minutes ago, believeinHim said:

If she was physically cheating, then that's one thing.

You want pictures? Everyone likes to play the judge. I don't owe you anything. Sin is a dirty nasty business and it always has implications. 

8 minutes ago, Marathoner said:

You've expressed what I wrote about earlier in the topic. If the will of the Lord is to give you to another in marriage, then His will be made known. It doesn't matter how you meet; it can be online, or while you're waiting in the grocery store checkout line. 

Very true.

9 minutes ago, Marathoner said:

Nothing worked out, brother. It simply wasn't meant to be, and I lived in ignorance of the reason why until I found myself in a perilous situation with my sister in Christ. We wanted nothing more than to get married --- neither one of us were married --- and it seemed good... that is, until the Lord intervened and made His will known to both of us. 

I guess it was for the best then. Paul states that it is better for some to remain single. Not as many obligations, meaning more freedoms in some areas. One can still have friends and not become that involved. For many this works best. I don't fault anyone either way. The main thing is that you are doing the Lord's will for your life and are happy in it. 

15 minutes ago, Marathoner said:

It was a traumatic experience. Our weakness conspired to lead us both astray: I was a babe in Christ and perfectly clueless, and my sister knew something which she had withheld at that time. She didn't perceive me as I was but rather, who I would become in time, and it was this man whom she loved and desired to marry. But she didn't understand and of course, I understood nothing. I was a bonehead. 

I think it's ironic men and women often meet when they are the least mature and young. Maybe if  wisdom came early fewer would get married  and the world would have a population problem. What I have found over time is that my wife has become my best friend. Maybe not the friend I would have always chosen, but the best friend for me because real friends love us warts and all and they often say and do things that make us uncomfortable for our own good. A true friend does what is best not what we always like the most. I know she won't lie to me or hide anything from me. We are a true team. But yeah...we are all boneheads at one time or another. lol.

23 minutes ago, Marathoner said:

I'm not the least bit concerned whether someone believes or not, my friend. Does it matter? We know the truth and that is all that matters. I love how you met your wonderful wife online. Isn't God so good?  

Yes God truly is good. I don't really feel compelled to try and convince anyone of anything.

Wait a minute. Didn't I say I was done here?

 

 

 

[Marathoner]

15 minutes ago, Starise said:

Yes God truly is good. I don't really feel compelled to try and convince anyone of anything.

Wait a minute. Didn't I say I was done here?

Are you here? Are any of us actually here? Or...

Are we sitting somewhere hundreds (or thousands) of miles away from the Worthy server, sipping coffee? 

That was a wonderful post overall, and I didn't have the heart to give it a laughing reaction when it deserved more than that. Nuance is key so perhaps I might presume to offer some counsel? 

Consider the source, brother. Enough said, no? 

Edited June 29, 2022 by Marathoner

[Marathoner]

19 minutes ago, Starise said:

I guess it was for the best then. Paul states that it is better for some to remain single. Not as many obligations, meaning more freedoms in some areas. One can still have friends and not become that involved. For many this works best. I don't fault anyone either way. The main thing is that you are doing the Lord's will for your life and are happy in it. 

Indeed. Considering the wringer I've been pressed through, and some of the places I've been, I would weep for the wife who was sentenced to suffer along with me. I certainly wouldn't want to subject my wife to where I'm at right now. This isn't a pleasant nor safe neighborhood. Because it's only me and no other, I'm not the least bit concerned. The Lord gave me that freedom, but I'm not blessed above my brothers who are husbands and fathers. What does the Lord tell us? Love your wife as Christ loves His Church... that's a solemn responsibility. Both of us suffer in our own way.

26 minutes ago, Starise said:

I think it's ironic men and women often meet when they are the least mature and young. Maybe if  wisdom came early fewer would get married  and the world would have a population problem. What I have found over time is that my wife has become my best friend. Maybe not the friend I would have always chosen, but the best friend for me because real friends love us warts and all and they often say and do things that make us uncomfortable for our own good. A true friend does what is best not what we always like the most. I know she won't lie to me or hide anything from me. We are a true team. But yeah...we are all boneheads at one time or another. lol.

I rejoice for you! We understand that love is not dependent upon emotions for if it were, then we would vacillate between love and hated at the drop of a dime. It isn't... love is a commitment more than anything else. We commit ourselves toward love whether we are loving our wife, a brother or sister, or even a stranger. I will never say that it's harder to love a stranger than a wife, or more difficult to love a husband than it is to love our fellow bondservant in Christ. 

It's easier to love a stranger because we don't know them, and they don't know us. That's the truth! It's also a simple matter for the Lord to uproot me and send me thither and yon (I've always wanted to use that phrase ), because I travel light and I'm just as happy as if I had good sense. Yes indeedy. 

I derive the most satisfaction from serving others. This is why I choose to remain invisible, loitering on the fringe of get-togethers. I get why this might confuse others who sometimes assume that I prefer to hang out along the back wall because I feel alienated. "Is everything okay?", they might ask. "Of course!", I'll reply. "Are you finished with your plate?" 

"Oh, yes, I am." I'm hanging out along the back wall so I can keep track of empty plates or glasses in need of filling. It's what I love to do! But when I wasn't so wise, I'd waste my time entertaining tables and attracting undue attention to myself. Bah. 

The Lord teaches us wisdom one lump at a time.   

[debrakay]

On 6/26/2022 at 12:36 PM, teddyv said:

I did not even know that dates had eyes.

Enoob would be able to make you a good graphic. 

[debrakay]

On 6/26/2022 at 1:45 PM, Marathoner said:

They don't. Ribs don't have eyes either, but then there are ribeye steaks. 

That is dinner for tomorrow!!

[Marathoner]

2 minutes ago, debrakay said:

That is dinner for tomorrow!!

 

[Charlie744]

51 minutes ago, Starise said:

You want pictures? Everyone likes to play the judge. I don't owe you anything. Sin is a dirty nasty business and it always has implications. 

Very true.

I guess it was for the best then. Paul states that it is better for some to remain single. Not as many obligations, meaning more freedoms in some areas. One can still have friends and not become that involved. For many this works best. I don't fault anyone either way. The main thing is that you are doing the Lord's will for your life and are happy in it. 

I think it's ironic men and women often meet when they are the least mature and young. Maybe if  wisdom came early fewer would get married  and the world would have a population problem. What I have found over time is that my wife has become my best friend. Maybe not the friend I would have always chosen, but the best friend for me because real friends love us warts and all and they often say and do things that make us uncomfortable for our own good. A true friend does what is best not what we always like the most. I know she won't lie to me or hide anything from me. We are a true team. But yeah...we are all boneheads at one time or another. lol.

Yes God truly is good. I don't really feel compelled to try and convince anyone of anything.

Wait a minute. Didn't I say I was done here?

 

 

 

I think it is truly a blessing that you and your wife are best friends. To me that is one in a million and so precious... I wish all couples could say that same thing! Honesty, integrity and never hid things or keep things from each other - great!

BTW,  would you please tell her I will be late for our date tonight?  Charlie

[debrakay]

8 hours ago, ladypeartree said:

those that do know him think the same ... ask enoob   

His sense of humor is what I truly like about Pat. My sarcastic tone and dry humor has gotten into several pickles on here.  If in doubt I put up the sign or the  or the  signs.  I know who your were talking to Pat but she is fine too.  Just another kind of sense of humor but she does not mix words or tread lightly in some conversations.  

[debrakay]

3 hours ago, missmuffet said:

Some people do not take marriage as a serious commitment. As a Christian we need to pray for a life time partner that God wants us to be with. If you find that partner who is in Christ there is a better chance that person will be with us for a lifetime. 

Marriage is a covenant when both are followers of Christ.  This covenant is not just between the man and the woman.  It is between the man, the woman and God. the Father.  Breaking the covenant is not available unless there is adultery (any kind of sexual lust) involved and even then He wants us to forgive and continue the marriage.   If forgiveness cannot be found He will let us break the contract but there will be consequences.  I could write a book of my 10 year marriage from hell and my 40 year marriage from heaven.