Am I part of a dying breed?

[mikado5001]

Somtimes I have to wonder. Am I the only Non-smoking, non-drinking, , non-druggie, non-workaholic, yet honest, loving, sincere, guy out there. I don't frequent bars. Or get stone drunk that I can't remember my own name. I don't even drink coffee. Much to the amusment of co-workers and friends.

Are women so intimidated by the genuine gentleman that I am? That they think there is a psycopath beneath my exterior. I have not a fake bone in my body. I do not sleep around. Nor would I want to date anyone who does. One night stand is not in my lexicon.

IS IT SO HARD TO MEET A NON-SMOKING, NO HEAVY DRINKING, NON-DRUGGIE WOMAN IN THIS WORLD? Everyone tells me go to the bars. I don't want to go to the bars. Where else is there to meet women with there heads screwed on right. Women who are not heroine chic. And have some meat on thier bodies. I once met a girl who I could hug with my thumb touching my pointer finger. The type of woan who does not discuss procreation and the like, as they do on certain TV shows. Only once did I see a guy who had my values. I WANT A WOMAN WHO IS SMART. WHO IS NOT, I SAY AGAIN NOT, MARRIED TO HER JOB. NOT WORKING 15 HOURS A DAY. WHO KNOWS THE GENUINE ARTICLE, AND WANTS IT. A WOMAN WHO BELIEVES THAT THERE ARE MEN LIKE ME OUT THERE. AND WE ARE NOT THE IMPOSSIBLE DREAM.

So my question is....IS THERE ANYONE LIKE ME OUT THERE? Guys who believe that women are deserving of love, honor, respect, fun, and happiness. And are there any women who believe that men are likewise entitled to same?

THANKS FOR LETTING ME RANT AND VENT. I APPRECIATE IT. Feel free to respond. I am at work for another 5 hours.

[Mongo]

I know exactly how you feel!

Let me just say that I hear women always say, "Good men are hard to find","I need a good man in my life","Why are all the good ones taken" and yet when they get one, they abuse our kindness and our "Good" and then split.

Honestly, I have a much longer rant about this, but this forum simply could not handle it. It would implode.

I am praying that somewhere out there is a woman whom I will meet that will treat me as I treat her - and keep doing so after I've repaired her bathroom, lol!

[Irish_Graham]

I feel like that sometimes, and I pray that God will send me along my soul mate when He sees fit, if ever. I have Faith He'll do whats right for me though, and either way let His will be done.

(One thing though, coffee???

Im aware of the dangers of addictions and how they everntually get put in front of the Lord if allowed to run on unchallenged, but I dont think a coffee in the morning is any way bad!!)

[other one]

Well there were, and I scarfed her up and married her 35 years ago...... God forbid that she might be the last. Keep looking and praying. If it is ment to be He will get the two of you together.

[yomotalking]

I hope to marry.

I would not have said that some time ago, but I feel I would love to have someone who would love me, and have a heart for Israel, and we would be missionaries together out there........

But as I'm 14, I guess I've got a bit of time to wait!!!

[Guest shiloh357]

Somtimes I have to wonder. Am I the only Non-smoking, non-drinking, , non-druggie, non-workaholic, yet honest, loving, sincere, guy out there. I don't frequent bars. Or get stone drunk that I can't remember my own name. I don't even drink coffee. Much to the amusment of co-workers and friends.

Are women so intimidated by the genuine gentleman that I am? That they think there is a psycopath beneath my exterior. I have not a fake bone in my body. I do not sleep around. Nor would I want to date anyone who does. One night stand is not in my lexicon.

IS IT SO HARD TO MEET A NON-SMOKING, NO HEAVY DRINKING, NON-DRUGGIE WOMAN IN THIS WORLD? Everyone tells me go to the bars. I don't want to go to the bars. Where else is there to meet women with there heads screwed on right. Women who are not heroine chic. And have some meat on thier bodies. I once met a girl who I could hug with my thumb touching my pointer finger. The type of woan who does not discuss procreation and the like, as they do on certain TV shows. Only once did I see a guy who had my values. I WANT A WOMAN WHO IS SMART. WHO IS NOT, I SAY AGAIN NOT, MARRIED TO HER JOB. NOT WORKING 15 HOURS A DAY. WHO KNOWS THE GENUINE ARTICLE, AND WANTS IT. A WOMAN WHO BELIEVES THAT THERE ARE MEN LIKE ME OUT THERE. AND WE ARE NOT THE IMPOSSIBLE DREAM.

So my question is....IS THERE ANYONE LIKE ME OUT THERE? Guys who believe that women are deserving of love, honor, respect, fun, and happiness. And are there any women who believe that men are likewise entitled to same?

THANKS FOR LETTING ME RANT AND VENT. I APPRECIATE IT. Feel free to respond. I am at work for another 5 hours.

The important thing in all of this is not what you are looking for. Instead of looking for Mrs. Right, ask yourself if you are Mr. Right. We need to be less concerned with what WE want out of someone else, and spend more time making sure that we measure up, and working on those things that need improvement. Love is not about what I want, but about what the other person wants. True love wants those things that make for their highest good and makes them happy, even to our own hurt. Love is not obsessed with wants and desires of self. Keep working on yourself and refining the rough edges. Just make sure you are ready when the right woman comes along. Even if she doesn't, it is not the end of the world.

[Keith]

Paul also says in 1Corinthians 7:7-8,

[kodischild]

Paul also says in 1Corinthians 7:7-8,

[Guest shiloh357]

The important thing in all of this is not what you are looking for. Instead of looking for Mrs. Right, ask yourself if you are Mr. Right. We need to be less concerned with what WE want out of someone else, and spend more time making sure that we measure up, and working on those things that need improvement. Love is not about what I want, but about what the other person wants. True love wants those things that make for their highest good and makes them happy, even to our own hurt. Love is not obsessed with wants and desires of self. Keep working on yourself and refining the rough edges. Just make sure you are ready when the right woman comes along.

This standard is impossible. The only person who has ever remotely met it is Jesus himself.

Sorry, but I'll be 90 years old and still not even remotely close to that.

I'm selfish.

Oppinionated.

stubborn.

lazy

etc,

etc.

and its not like you just flip a switch and any or all of those go away.

It is not an impossible standard, at all. It takes a discipline. The standard seems impossible to you, because you choose to remain selfish, over opinionated, lazy, etc. There is nothing impossible about daily renewing your mind in the Word of God and allowing Him to point out things in you that need to be gotten rid of.

I don't believe that God has one person pegged for you to marry. I have never believed that. I believe that God guides you in your choice, but if you are going to be selfish, then you will find yourself single the rest of your life. If you are insistent about inflating the value of your opinions, and you are not willing to put out the effort to be a desirable candidate for marriage, then you find yourself growing old alone. If you truly believe that God does not want anyone single, then you are effectively in rebellion against the Will of God, by making yourself an undesirable, and unqualifed candidate for marriage. God cannot provide you with a wife that you are going to verbally and emotionally abuse.

Love is the opposite of every quality you listed. You cannot just "flip a switch" and make those qualities disappear, but you can begin working on removing them out of your life, now. It is a path, a process, but not a one time event. You have a lot of work to do.

[nebula]

This standard is impossible. . . .

WSB -

What about the command for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the Church - who loved her and gave Himself for her?

Do you see this as impossible? If so, why would it be commanded?