wolly Posted February 1 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 31 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/18/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted February 1 Hi,I started to smoke because my own parents are mistreating me and I had no one to support me.I tried praying a lot but my prayers were unanswered and I had the idea that if I die of lung cancer everything will be better.I realise this is not the answer but it's very hard to live all by yourself.This isn't about stress this is about the continous state of struggling,loneliness and pressured by others. I have no life and I have no idea what to do! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted February 1 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.23 Reputation: 9,762 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted February 1 Hi Wolly, You and I have similar pasts, but that is what it is, our past. You speak of many issues here, not just smoking or self harm. Loneliness is a very hard issue to deal with, but you are never really alone. You have God and He will never leave nor forsake you. If it's people you seek, have you tried getting involved in a local body of Christians? If it's just companionship you seek, I know many people who have gotten a pet for this purpose. I have a dog to keep me company. I also have found ways to be involved with the community through interest I have. Being pressured by others is a very common issue, only because everyone has an opinion and wants to share it with you. It's up to each of us if we allow their "suggestions" to cause pressure in our lives or not. If we do, then we have basically given control of our lives to them. If not, then accept their suggestions with a smile and consider if what they are saying is best for you ... you can always refuse to follow any persons suggestions and still remain friends (if you what to remain friends). To me, and this is my personal opinion - smoking is no worse than any other self harm problems, like eating junk food, drinking alcohol, watching bad movies, etc. They are all personal choices we make. In my lifetime, I've given up many bad habits, but, to date, have not quit smoking. Just like coffee, I've found a use for it and am not ready yet to give them up. I know I didn't answer you question on smoking, but wanted to support you with your loneliness and pressures from others. You are not alone with any of this. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted February 2 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 598 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,128 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,855 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted February 2 5 hours ago, wolly said: lung cancer everything will be better. You don't want to die that way if you can help it... Wolly, I don't know a lot about the general society where you live, so I really don't have a clue how to help. I do know that in all my years, the only way to make good friends is to be a good friend. That old treat others as you want to be treated. As for family that just won't treat you right, if possible, just get own with life. Get a job and be out on your own and go places where you can meet people in a wholesome way. We found friends in college 50 years ago and are still friends and visit with them every week, along with going to the same church. Anyway, I have had a couple of uncles and three cousins that died from lung cancer, and that's no way to go. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wolly Posted February 3 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 31 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/18/2018 Status: Offline Author Share Posted February 3 On 2/1/2024 at 10:15 PM, OneLight said: Hi Wolly, You and I have similar pasts Well were you too mistreated and bullied by your parents? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted February 3 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,189 Content Per Day: 7.98 Reputation: 21,467 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted February 3 Is self harm morally wrong? Yes for the child of God for the Bible says: 1 Corinthians 6:20 (KJV) [20] For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. So The Fathers Son was what the Father paid for you... do you really have no value? In the lies of this place you don't so might as well off yourself... But in The truth of Scripture your value is immeasurable... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted February 4 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.23 Reputation: 9,762 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted February 4 On 2/3/2024 at 9:32 AM, wolly said: Well were you too mistreated and bullied by your parents? In my eyes, worse, but this can only lead to comparing your life to mine, which is never a good idea. Accept the fact that many in this world have been mistreated and see what you can learn from them. Let it go ... give it to God. You can't change your past, only seek a better future. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FJK Posted February 4 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 43 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 3,349 Content Per Day: 7.92 Reputation: 1,305 Days Won: 1 Joined: 03/01/2023 Status: Offline Share Posted February 4 On 2/1/2024 at 12:55 PM, wolly said: I have no life and I have no idea what to do! Skipping over all the scriptural quoting and platitudinous stuff, Just do this: Go join in on a church group of some kind, many, many churches have age oriented activity groups and (maybe even better) Bible study groups that are open to anyone interested and not just members (often age group oriented as well). Try it, you have nothing to lose by doing so and might gain everything your looking for. So now for the scriptural stuff: Jesus said to seek the Kingdom of God first and all the other things will be added to you. That "life" you want is falls in the category of the other things that will be added. (Ref. Matthew 6:33) May the Lord bless you and bring his guidance to you this day. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted February 6 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 952 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,573 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,054 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted February 6 On 2/1/2024 at 2:55 PM, wolly said: Hi,I started to smoke because my own parents are mistreating me and I had no one to support me.I tried praying a lot but my prayers were unanswered and I had the idea that if I die of lung cancer everything will be better.I realise this is not the answer but it's very hard to live all by yourself.This isn't about stress this is about the continous state of struggling,loneliness and pressured by others. I have no life and I have no idea what to do! What to do. First; pray for and about your parents. Second; listen and pray some more for and about your parents. Third; read within the word of God, the Bible, and pray, plus think on the word read. Fourth; get job, fifth get a second job and a third even. You will become so busy with life you will only have need for a bit of rest. Then rest in the Lord- Reading the bible will give you understanding of what that means. Smoking? Bluntly put, it is the coward's suicide. I tried five packs a day myself. What an idiotic waste that was. There is life to be had, good life too! Hang on my child, joy comes in the morning. There is both morning and joy coming for you. Seek it prayerfully and never ever give up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Who me Posted February 6 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3,300 Content Per Day: 1.72 Reputation: 1,685 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/27/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted February 6 On 2/1/2024 at 7:55 PM, wolly said: This isn't about stress this is about the continous state of struggling,loneliness and pressured by others. I have no life and I have no idea what to do! Life can be very hard when one is own one's own with no family or friends to get help or advice from. That said can you change jobs to one that is less stressful, could you meet all your bills, could you lower your costs in some way. Otherwise as TFK has said get involved with a local chu4ch. Check out there Web sites, watch any online services, even email the minister with questions and give them a try. To make friends one has to b3 friendly, which means opening ones self to the possibility of rejection. Look out for the people on the fringe, often they are struggling to be accepted so try and befriend them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Know Jah Posted February 6 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 5 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 289 Content Per Day: 0.17 Reputation: 126 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/28/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted February 6 Wolly, study the word continue to pray even if it seems not answered. Learn how our creator feels about you 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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