What should I do???

[DaughterofKing]

Im 25 and Im at a crossroad. I dont know what to do. I live with my parents and they have decided to move yet again to another mundane city. I want to move to NYC and live there for various reasons.

Of course my parents want me to join them very much and make it clear to me that they would desperately miss me and be so sad without me.

On the other hand, of course I love my parents and dont really want to be seperated from them. Yet I am anxious to start my own life and do what I want where I want to. I would also feel very guilty deserting them and might be very lonely without them.

I dont know, maybe I take the "Honor thy mother and father" commandment too far? I am always doing whatever they tell me to.

What should I do???????!!!!!!!!

[elkieDannsa' Air An Drochaid]

PRAY

Let The Holy Spirit in you speak to you, guide you.

Jesus says His sheep know His Voice, grow so close to HIm tha HIs voice is unmistakeable and trust Him, seeking HIm first.

The Father has good plans for you and will help you and is ever near to you.

You are in my prayers, hope to talk with you soon.

elkie

[Guest NewPilgrim]

Neither decision is a prticularly bad one. There comes a time in all our lives when we feel we want to at least taste our independance. At 25 its perfectly acceptable. Youre Parents havent forbidden you to move away from them, they simply love you deeply and will miss you. At such a crossroads, the best decision maker is our commitment to God....does he have a plan waiting for you, that requires you to venture out alone? Seek it in prayer.

[Iryssa]

I don't think you'd be dishonoring your parents by moving out. Sure, they'll miss you, but so long as you remember the things they taught you and remember to call, you won't be breaking any commandments that I know of. I know how tough it is to get out on one's own...it's a big step. On one hand, you have the pressing knowledge that it's time to move forward, but on the other, you have your deep love for your parents and don't want them to have to be missing you. Heck,I feel bad that my parents have to miss me, and I only live an hour and a half away in the same province! It has to happen sometime, though, and they will come to terms with it.

On making the decision...like everyone's been saying...be in prayer and surround yourself godly counsel while you make it.

A final thought: have you considered moving somewhere a little closer to them at first (I'm going on the idea that New York is probably out of state from where your aprents will be)? It might help your parents make the transition if they know you're not far off and can come to your aid if you need it.

[Leonard]

At 25 you can certainly make your own decisions, and I'm sure your parents would honor that.

However I sort of question the mental stability of anyone who would live in New York City by choice!!!

[DaughterofKing]

i kinda of want to flee from my parents house but how? i have no money and no car. i have a college degree but it is just a piece of paper. what do i do? how do people just up and move?

I also have this really big fear of needing to listen to my parents. I am so scared that if I go against them, God will punish me or I will fail miserably...

Edited January 14, 2006 by DaughterofKing

[Khristeeanos]

i kinda of want to flee from my parents house but how? i have no money and no car. i have a college degree but it is just a piece of paper. what do i do? how do people just up and move?

I also have this really big fear of needing to listen to my parents. I am so scared that if I go against them, God will punish me or I will fail miserably...

God won't punish you if you make a mistake. You need to find your own way. You will never fully realize what it means to be an adult if you stay with your parents and let them take care of you.

I say you go on a serious job hunting mission and as soon as you do, find a cheap apartment and move out. Save some money and when you can, search for a job in the city of your choice.

Trust me, if you ever want to get married and have a family of your own, you can't live your life through your parents anymore. You have to make your own way.

The time has come for you.

[Bolts]

PRAY

Let The Holy Spirit in you speak to you, guide you.

Jesus says His sheep know His Voice, grow so close to HIm tha HIs voice is unmistakeable and trust Him, seeking HIm first.

The Father has good plans for you and will help you and is ever near to you.

You are in my prayers, hope to talk with you soon.

elkie

Amen.

Part of being an adult or being independant is being able to hear from the Lord for yourself. You also have to learn how to provide for yourself. If you don't feel ready to do that just yet, than make moving to NYC a short term goal and set about preparing yourself for it. There are alot of pressures in being out there on your own. I would hate to see you resorting to x rated jobs just to pay the rent.

[thunderbyrd]

Daughter of the King: look, i'm not ridiculing you but i am giving you heart-felt advice in Christ's Love: from looking at all your post, it seems you may have had a somewhat sheltered life. i think you really do need to "get out on yr own", but IMHO NOWAY should you try New York City. NYC is not "Seinfeld", it's a harsh place. It has a glamorous image, but it's not a place for everybody. Plus, it's a very expensive place to live.

No: you need to pray about it all, but in the meantime, it looks like you ought to move with your parents and then try to save up some money, get a car, then look at going out on your own.

As for moving to a "mudane" city, all cities on this earth are mundane.

[shepherdsgrace]

I have been thinking about that word "mundane". You simply need to know the will of God and move on it. Nothing and no where is mundane if you are in God's will for your life. Perhaps you need to live independently with your parents for awhile. New York city is no magic place. I can not imagine someone without transportation and a job and financial backing suddenly "making it". You need to get yourself started where you are and then you will gradually go where God gives opportunity. Do not be afraid of how it looks to be with your parents and do not be afraid of being on your own. Just PREPARE!! And think about the will of God for your life..