So dating a non-Christian is obsolete??

[DaughterofKing]

So dating a CHristian guy is obsolete? Does the bible say so? Even if he's a nice guy? Why?

[Iryssa]

I dunno if I'd say "obsolete." More like "not the greatest idea."

Why? Try this demonstration:

Stand on a sturdy chair. Have a friend stand below. Now, you represent a Believer, your friend an unbeliever. Now, try to pull your friend up, with no help from them. It's hard, right? Now, get them to pull you down...that's pretty easy. Now, thinking about this symbolically, it's easier to be pulled down into sin than it is for you to pull an unbeliever up to God's standards.

[Ovedya]

Obsolete? Nah. Not wise? Probably not.

[50_Cent's_dog]

I dunno if I'd say "obsolete." More like "not the greatest idea."

Why? Try this demonstration:

Stand on a sturdy chair. Have a friend stand below. Now, you represent a Believer, your friend an unbeliever. Now, try to pull your friend up, with no help from them. It's hard, right? Now, get them to pull you down...that's pretty easy. Now, thinking about this symbolically, it's easier to be pulled down into sin than it is for you to pull an unbeliever up to God's standards.

I like what you said. Far out!

[ayin jade]

The bible tells us plainly not to marry an unbeliever. Where did you get the idea it is obsolete to date a Christian?

[Iryssa]

The bible tells us plainly not to marry an unbeliever. Where did you get the idea it is obsolete to date a Christian?

I think she was trying to say "non-Christian"...at least that's what I assumed...

[irishcowboy]

So dating a CHristian guy is obsolete? Does the bible say so? Even if he's a nice guy? Why?

here is what the Bible says about it......

2Cr 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

mike

[DaniJ87]

Obsolete isn't the word I would use, because it was never really an acceptable practice, to begin with. It is not wise to date an unbeliever, because the only purpose you should have for dating is to find an acceptable person to share your life with. Since you cannot have the purpose of marriage and be following God's commands when you date an unbeliever, it is not wise to date an unbeliever- besides that it is totally against the idea of dating. If you are "dating" for any reason other than to find a mate, (for fun dating) try to figure out why you do so? Try reading Joshua Harris' books on dating and courtship- they make a lot of sense! (and are biblical!)

You can be FRIENDS with an unbeliever... but if you were to date someone, and they started to really like you... but you said you wouldn't be able to marry them unless they were Christians... what assurance have you then, that this person will not claim to be a Christian, to win you?

Christian or not, it is not a good idea to date someone without the firm goal of marriage, and the knowledge of what type of person is suitable for a mate. Without this, you will just end up giving pieces of your heart away, and you will no longer have a whole heart to give to your husband.

This is my opinion, anyway. Also, you CAN live happily without a husband if it is God's will for your life. Don't be rushing out to find a husband just because you feel "old"... My aunt for example, did not get married until she was in her late 30's... but she is now married to a wonderful man (my uncle, of course), and she did not miss anything by waiting.

~Danette

(another single girl)

[deadman1204]

So dating a CHristian guy is obsolete? Does the bible say so? Even if he's a nice guy? Why?

here is what the Bible says about it......

2Cr 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

mike

I believe your miss applying this passage. Its more broad than that. It speaks about all your relationships. All people need edification and support from other believers. If you are constantly in contact with mostly non-believers, it could hurt you and certainly not help your faith walk.

Paul speaks far more clearly in 1 corrinthians about marriages where 1 doesnt beleive.

1Cor7:12-14 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

There is more after that too, but while mentioning unbelievers, it doesnt apply to this situation persay.

There is no hard and fast rule for this situation. Pray over it, but don't abaondon someone just because they don't Believe. Otherwise, how could more people come to know God?

[irishcowboy]

So dating a CHristian guy is obsolete? Does the bible say so? Even if he's a nice guy? Why?

here is what the Bible says about it......

2Cr 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

mike

I believe your miss applying this passage. Its more broad than that. It speaks about all your relationships. All people need edification and support from other believers. If you are constantly in contact with mostly non-believers, it could hurt you and certainly not help your faith walk.

Paul speaks far more clearly in 1 corrinthians about marriages where 1 doesnt beleive.

1Cor7:12-14 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

There is more after that too, but while mentioning unbelievers, it doesnt apply to this situation persay.

There is no hard and fast rule for this situation. Pray over it, but don't abaondon someone just because they don't Believe. Otherwise, how could more people come to know God?

the question was about dating, not about our every day walk through this world.....

we are infact suppose to interact with the non-follower, as a witness to them for Christ.... as far as dating, it has been said that a follower and a non-follower would not do good together..... even the analogy of the one person on the chair and the other on the floor is a good example of a follower and a non-follower being in a marital relationship.....

something a person also has to keep in mind, is that you can not change the other person... no matter how good you think you are, the other person will not change on your wanting them to and will only create friction....

even if a non-follower desides to go to church with you and do all the right stuff on the outside, say the right things, becarful... this can be a very deceiving time.... and then the relationship can become volitile after they get married, the non-follower will stop going to church, cause now they have no need to go, they have won their prize.

mike