Will you guys give it up???

[kittylover0991]

Okay, I may seem to be a little out right with this, and call me whatever, but I am getting so sick of this...

You know? I deal with arguing and debating all day at school and I hear them around my house... I even hear them in the youth group sometimes with the bickering... NOT IN HERE!!!!! You know what? I am truly sick and tired of this!

Most of you guys are full grown adults and even I as a teenager knows better than to sit here and degrade people! Won't you guys get over it? Seriously.... I am so sick of all these posts about "we are all Christians and should get along" yet here I am posting one myself. I am sick of reading those posts, but most of all, I am sick of the bickering and putdowns that cause a post that is actually very interesting, insightful, of which many of us can learn from, deleted because some people can't hold their tongues.

Yes, I am very upset about this and it is just about driving me up the wall. We have enough things going on in this world, such as shootings, the various controversial issues, our own lives for goodness sakes, why must we resort to this bickering all the time? I love coming on here to have FELLOWSHIP and to LEARN... not to have really interesting posts that are finally starting to go somewhere interesting(really deep) Deleted because enough in here won't stop the personal attacks....

I love this board so much, and I love so many on here... but this is getting truly ridiculous... Can't you all see how many people are being turned away from the boards? There are many that come to know Christ on here and many have come to change their lives because God opens some doors one way or another... I know I learned abotu tongues and stuff on here which has REALLY come in handy once I got into high school... The Lord has really opened doors and people are being turned away.

I would rather be in a room of people who are atheists and discussing thigns that I disagree with, then see a bunch of "Christians" arguing.... It is irritating and very fustrating...

Crystal

[Marnie]

There is a difference between interesting exchange of ideas and actually bickering. I personally enjoy a mild debate as it shapens my own beliefs. As the Word says, Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend., (Proverbs 27:17, in the KJV for my friend, Butero... ). Some other boards don't allow any form of debate, and gosh they are boring. No, I think Worthy is the right balance of respect and debate. Sometimes it gets out of hand, but the moderators (love them or hate them ) reign us in. If you don't like the debate, you don't have to. There are mild threads out there.

[EricH]

There is a difference between interesting exchange of ideas and actually bickering. I personally enjoy a mild debate as it shapens my own beliefs. As the Word says, Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend., (Proverbs 27:17, in the KJV for my friend, Butero... ). Some other boards don't allow any form of debate, and gosh they are boring. No, I think Worthy is the right balance of respect and debate. Sometimes it gets out of hand, but the moderators (love them or hate them ) reign us in. If you don't like the debate, you don't have to. There are mild threads out there.

I agree. I think we learn most from an exchange of ideas. As long as it remains civil

[Kabowd]

Well something that is frustrating me is, there are a few people who consider disagreement with their views as personal attack. They cannot distinguish when a person is attacking their viewpoint versus attacking them personally. I'm a very straight-forward person (duh), I hate beating around the bush, I want to get straight to the point. In a discussion, when someone makes a statement that I don't understand or disagree with, I will ask about it. I realize that I can be intimidating in the way I come across (I honestly do believe that it has to do with how I've been raised), and I try not to get aggressive (unless the other person responds in a way that seems inappropriate). I'm just to the point most of the time. The problem I have, is when people make statements without thinking first, and then when they are questioned about their statement, they get all defensive and/or play the victim (accusing me or others questioning them of "attacking" them or "persecuting" them). This inevitably ends up with insults being hurled back and forth until the topic is closed or deleted.

It's true that I could be less direct in my approach at times. But frankly, sometimes I'm simply asking a question or responding to one and BAM, they go all ballistic on me..lol. I don't understand why people join discussion boards if they are that insecure about their beliefs and/or are emotionally unable to deal with disagreement.

While, yes, I agree there needs to be less senseless bickering...at the same time I think a large portion of it is the result of people being unwilling to be challenged and unable to differentiate between a person not agreeing with ther views vs. not liking them personally. Some of my best friends in the world are people I have the biggest, knock-down-drag-out fights with..but we're still great friends! It's certainly not because we always agree or talk in cutesy baby voices to eachother. It's because we respect eachother's views (even if they are different), and we know we'll still love eachother when the argument about the issue is over. Some people need to realize that being corrected is a sign of love. If someone doesn't care, they won't point out your flaws or your errors. People who take the time to correct you or show you where you are wrong are true friends who do truly care.

Yes, some of us could be less blunt, but some could also be less insecure and easily offended.

[AndrewA]

We are all at different walks and all have different spiritual ages, some people are extremely sensitive to any kind of criticism, especially those who need emotional healing, and are in habit of reading everything negatively. Any kind of comment that doesn

[kittylover0991]

Alright *done some cooking and has calmed down*

Hey Andrew, I personally believe that the mods do a great enough job, considering that they have to "balance" between to delete a thread because it is getting out of hand, or keep it there before it isn't too bad and it is a really good post. Banning is in the hands of the mods, and I really don't know what to say about that, sorry.. .

but my thing isn't the arguing or the debating.. I am completely used to that and can live with it.. in fact, many times, it's fun! But Andrew, as you said, the thing with interpretation is really a hard call. We can't see each other face to face so it is hard to tell emotions and what a person really means. However, and this is a big however.... Even if someone is supposedly attacking your beliefs.. which they may be and there is nothing wrong with standing up for you beliefs.. but turning around and talking bad about them won't do any good either.... One needs to understand that cursed blessing of a cliche "Two wrongs don't make a right"... and the bible says to turn the other cheek.

Like I said, I love these boards, and I hate posts like the one I'm making this very moment(seriously, I really really hate them), but this is getting ridiculous. There have been many threads, especially lately, that have been very interesting.. but then they were taken over by people bickering. If nothing else, shouldnt' people take these arguments in pm or with an admin even? sheesh.. don't have to ruin a thread.... People have different opinions and different ideas! Which is another thing, it is not only what ne says, it is HOW one states their opinion that shows maturity or immaturity.

Thanks you guys

[RGR]

There is a difference between interesting exchange of ideas and actually bickering. I personally enjoy a mild debate as it shapens my own beliefs. As the Word says, Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend., (Proverbs 27:17, in the KJV for my friend, Butero... ). Some other boards don't allow any form of debate, and gosh they are boring. No, I think Worthy is the right balance of respect and debate. Sometimes it gets out of hand, but the moderators (love them or hate them ) reign us in. If you don't like the debate, you don't have to. There are mild threads out there.

I agree. I think we learn most from an exchange of ideas. As long as it remains civil

Wanna debate that?

[LadyGunivere]

I agree crystal..... i've already posted one topic about misinterpreting....some just like to fight...Me I'm a lover not a fighter!!!!

[anitarose]

I agree crystal..... i've already posted one topic about misinterpreting....some just like to fight...Me I'm a lover not a fighter!!!!

don't like fighting either....but oh, well....that's what you get when you stir up the devils...LOL (j/k)

Anita

[shepherdsgrace]

Well, as you guys know I seldom get in on the hot and heavy topics even though I read quite a few of them. However if it is particularly interesting to me then it is on. I tried one of the boards that does not allow debating and it died. Everytime someone had different opinions they were banned. no fun. and really just a little bit scary. We as Christians are allowed and invited by God to think. But I do know that kindness goes a long way........a long long way.