So What's Wrong With 'Leave It To Beaver' Type Days/Famili

[KarenJo5]

Nothing wrong with them!! I was blessed to be raised in that kind of lifestyle..country-small town way of life. I had parents who could take anything that happened in our daily lives and teach a lesson on it .

Daddy worked and Mama stayed home with us kids and my Daddy's Mama , she lived with us until her death. Mama went to work when Daddy got sick and had to retire, and then he was always home with us..different but I was able to spend a lot of days sitting under the pecan tree shelling peas or butterbeans or just talking with him and those are some of my favorite memories

We lived about 3 miles outside a really small town and the little country Church we attended was set back in some trees across the road from our house and we all walked to Church together on Sunday mornings.This wasn't 50 years ago either just about 30

I know it sounds too perfect and there were problems and trials as there always are in any life...but I was so very blessed to have the upbringing I had.

I tried to do close to these same things with my kids, some times I feel like I suceeded , sometimes I feel I fell short.

I know it seems to be harder now days to make the time my parents did with us. Or maybe I still look at it from a child's perspective not realizing how hard it was for them.

Okay enough said ..I'll hush now

[Marnie]

Women in the house and the men out at work? All-white suburbs?

Sounds good to me. How about having the freedom (financial and otherwise) to live as you please, where you please? If I choose to live in an all white neighborhood, there should be no problem with that. Or vice versa. It would be nice if women had the freedom to either work at home or not.

[Emily~Anne]

when a mother works, she tends to carry the work home with her. the emotional baggage. she's distracted. she's concerned about what's going on at the office or wherever. she's on call to fill in when someone else can't be there. and even if not, she is still carrying work home with her in terms of stress, and emotional distraction. i'm twice your age, if your nickname indicates your age, and have yet to ever in my life meet any mother who worked full time outside the home who did not bring it home. that includes myself, and my mom, and every friend, acquaintance, and relative that i've known in my life. no matter how much we want to be, we can't all be super-mom. in fact, the only way to be super-mom is to be a super MOM to the kids that know that they will always be her first and foremost priority, no matter what.

Another thing that brings great stress to a home with a full time working mother is the lack of TIME. Every morning is running around trying to get everything together, finding a child dawdling when he/she should be doing something to get ready, losing patience with the child, etc. Then coming home from work in the evening (after a frazzling day at work) to see the morning rush mess still there, feeling exhausted and having no idea what to make for dinner. My observation in these households is that dinner has a chaotic feel to it leftover from the day and knowing that there is a time crunch. Then there is dinner clean up, going over home work, maybe taking a child to gymnastics or something, then a little time in front of the TV, then getting everyone ready for bed and then collapsing only to start it all over again the next day. Dividing up your loyalties between a full time job outside the home and your family really truly does cut a huge chunk out of bonding/nurturing time with the family. It is a huge price that the whole family pays

[georgesbluegirl]

Sounds good to me....If I choose to live in an all white neighborhood, there should be no problem with that.

*spews tea that she had been drinking from nose*

But why?

I get the freedom to choose how you live thing. Once again, every family should be able to choose what works for them. It was the last bit that got me - again, freedom of choice, but how is an all-white neighborhood better than a comparable neighborhood composed of residents with a diversity of backgrounds, ethnic, cultural and otherwise?

[georgesbluegirl]

Okay, I get it then. But choice or not, I personally see something wrong in deliberately choosing an all-white neighborhood. That wasn't the point though, so I'll let it be.

[Marnie]

Sounds good to me....If I choose to live in an all white neighborhood, there should be no problem with that.

*spews tea that she had been drinking from nose*

But why?

I get the freedom to choose how you live thing. Once again, every family should be able to choose what works for them. It was the last bit that got me - again, freedom of choice, but how is an all-white neighborhood better than a comparable neighborhood composed of residents with a diversity of backgrounds, ethnic, cultural and otherwise?

It has to do with preference.

First, let me say that I don't live in a neighborhood. I have chosen to live in the High Desert, my closest neighbors are miles away in either direction (not counting the various and sundry illegals that cut through my fence and camp out from time to time).

I grew up nothern Viginia in a very diverse neighborhood. Being Jewish, I was surrounded by Jews; but the Italians were one block over, the Poles were two blocks south and the Irish were a couple of block in the other direction. I have absolutely nothing against any minority or culture, as long as they are law abiding and respectful of my beliefs and freedom. However, as I said, it has to do with preference. I may prefer tall men over short men. I may prefer to associate with educated people rather than with ignorant people. I may prefer to be surrounded by people of my own ethnicity because it makes me feel comfortable. Who cares? My point is, we should all be able to associate with whomever we please without being called "racist." If you walk into any college cafeteria, you will see blacks eating with blacks, people from Turkey eating with other people from the Middle East. It's called "freedom of association," and it seems to be allowed for everybody except white Anglo Saxons, who are forced to mingle with people different from themselves or be seen as racist. I believe in liberty for all.

[Floatingaxe]

I should hope that the word "prefer" wouldn't ever enter into it at all.

[Marnie]

I should hope that the word "prefer" wouldn't ever enter into it at all.

Why not? We all have preferences. If I am not hurting anybody and nobody is hurting me, what's wrong with preference (don't take that to an illogical conclusion, by the way, we're talking about with whom we assoicate, nothing more)?

[Gerioke]

Is there a contest to see how far off topic we can go?

[georgesbluegirl]

Yeah, I think it's actually very relevant. The fifties "ideal" versus what was actually going on.