Am I Supposed to take action or wait on God????

[Guest LadyC]

ok, let's look at this objectively. whether or not the one had anything to do with the other, please try to see this from another perspective so you can see how it COULD influence it.

someone schedules an interview for you. if you were unable to make it and there was a valid reason given as to why (such as a family emergency, a car accident, something of that nature) AND the reason was passed along to the interviewer, then you're right, it would have nothing to do with his flakiness.

however, if you failed to give adequate notice that you needed to reschedule, or if the reason was one that the interviewer didn't see as valid (for example, your car won't start, your dog died, you overslept), then it would likely have everything in the world to do with what you perceive as flakiness.

did he behave unprofessionally? yes, according to what you told us regarding his own tardiness and failure to give you an application. those actions are unprofessional. his failure to return your calls are not. they may be aggravating, but managers have a great deal on their plates, and you were probably one of a large number of applicants for the position. it's rare that a company will call you if you do not get the job. they only call if you DO get it. once in a great while you'll find a company that will send out a letter of rejection to the applicants who did not get the job. i think in my entire lifetime, that's happened once.

as time goes by, you'll find that when looking for a job, it's critical to apply for many, many jobs... fill out more applications DoK, schedule more interviews. if you can, try to line up three interviews per day. it will greatly increase your odds of getting a good job, as well as give you a tremendous amount of experience in how to conduct yourself during an interview. it will also give you the option of being able to pick and choose the company that you feel most comfortable with, because the person doing the interview represents the company, and first impressions are just as important for both the employer and the potential employee.

just out of curiousity, what type of position were you applying for?

[DaughterofKing]

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Ok look, listen, they have NOTHING to do with each other! Ok, it was not a big deal, the first interview just never happened, it was NOTHING. STOP TALKING ABOUT IT!

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[Fiosh]

OK, ARGH, I am SO frustrated!!!!!

SO here is the deal:

Ok, so I interviewed for this job that I would like and from the get go this manager I interviewed for was a total flake. He was about an hour late to the interview, forgot to gimme an application, and has not returned two messages I have left him asking for the

status of our interview.

I have had it up to here and I am SO frustrated. I dont know what to do. Am I spose to just let it go and assume that it is fate and that if its meant to be it will just happen? Or am I spose to keep taking action by calling this dope ? Or should I go even a step further, contact the company, tell them my situation and ask them if they would please grant me a fair interview with another manager?

I mean I just dont know how much I am sposed to leave it to God and how much I am sposed to make things happen and take action you know. ( And yes I have prayed about it and turned to the word but im still confused) I dont know if God is telling me to just forget about it or if I am sposed to fight for what I want...????

Opinions? HELP!!

Hi DoK,

Since I wasn't there, I obviously don't understand the circumstances of your contact with this company. But, aren't you judging this guy pretty harshly? Who knows, maybe he had a car accident on the way to work that day......or had to rush his wife to the hospital.......or........??? He may be a really nice guy having a really bad day. In either case, it might be that your attitude showed thru during the interview and affected his perception of you. Is that a possibility?

If you were employed there and this man treated you unfairly, then I would say, "Go over his head". But you are just an applicant. It will make you look like a trouble maker if you go to someone else.

Is there a chance you could re-apply for another job when it opens???

I didn't catch how long it's been since the interview. If less than a month, it could be they have not made a decision yet. But, not all companies send out "rejection" letters, even though it's a nice courtesy.

My suggestion would be to send this guy a nice card thanking him for the interview and telling him you what you said about it seems like a friendly place to work and that you are definitely interested if anything else opens up.

As someone who has interviewed applicants, I can sympathize with this guy. Often I was running from a meeting back to the office for an interview, while scrambling for the appications and notes I'd made so I looked like I had had least some clue of who I was talking to.

Be humble. Blessed are the meek.

Peace,

Fiosh

[Kabowd]

Well none of us were present at either interview, but based on the way you are treating us (the people you are soliciting advice from), you're offering plenty of possible reasons why any employer would reject you as an applicant.

[Guest LadyC]

DoK, it's clear that you really don't want help here, you just want sympathy. the fact that you are unable and unwilling to even examine how your own behaviour might or might not affect an interview indicates that you are likely not the kind of person a large company would be willing to employ. or even many small companies, for that matter. finding meaningful employment is not a crap shoot. it's a learning experience though, and you are rejecting the advice of people who have been in your shoes, and who have been in the shoes of the manager you call a dope.

failure to show up for a first interview is a huge red flag to an employer. it indicates a lack of professionalism on the applicant's part, unless an emergency situation arose and/or you had to call and reschedule at least 24 hours in advance.

as a former manager of a company who has done more than my fair share of hiring and firing over the years, i'm sensing that you neither of the above situations applied... because if you had given plenty of notice or had a legitimate excuse to reschedule, you would not be so adament about withholding that information.

words of wisdom here, if you are even slightly interested in getting ahead in life (job-wise). employers judge you long before they ever sit across the table from you.

[DaughterofKing]

OH....MY....um....maybe this is not the place to turn to for advice....bye guys.

[Guest LadyC]

it's a great place to turn for advice. it's just not the best place for playing the innocent victim.

[Kabowd]

OH....MY....um....maybe this is not the place to turn to for advice....bye guys.

This is a great place to turn for advice, when advice is actually wanted and appreciated. But when someone just wants attention or sympathy, it's disingenuous to present it as an appeal for advice and then subsequently disrespect everyone who takes the time to offer you a reply. Just be honest next time. If you're wanting to vent, let us know it's a vent. If you're wanting prayer, post it in prayer requests. But don't pretend you're here wanting help, ask for responses, and then verbally abuse people who are kindhearted enough to attempt to help you, falsely believing you actually wanted help.

[ayin jade]

You didnt get the job. Move on to the next interview and let this go.

[eric]

Well I would like to hear the manager's side of the story before I could offer any advice. Sounds like an attitudinal problem to me. I would not think that a company the size of which you are talking about, would hire someone flakey as a job interviewer.