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[Emily~Anne]

Thanks for the help and answers

Hi Friend.

I learnt late in life that people only abuse you for as long as you you let them.

God Bless.

Haz.

Yup, I learned this too. I had to go to great lengths to stop the abuse cause I waited so long. I prayed and prayed for God to show me the right way and time to get out of the abusive relationship for good and sure enough, God showed me. I was scared, but I knew God was answering my prayer, therefore he would see me through safely. The police were not much help in permanently solving the problem, although they did put him in jail for the night several times. Mandated AA meetings, anger management classes were all fruitless for my ex boyfriend. Sometimes he did the AA meetings just to get me to stay a little longer, but deep down he had no intention of changing.

Think about this, would you treat anyone the way your abuser treats you? Of course not! You truly do deserve better.

I love you Tigger, and so do many others here. I think of you often and you are in my prayers. ((((((((((Tigger)))))))))))

[tigger398]

I didn't say it was me

[Emily~Anne]

I didn't say it was me

Sometimes it is just easier to answer a hypothetical question assuming hypothetically that it is you.

Nonetheless, you are still in my thoughts and prayers.

[Guest stevej]

Tigger, the stastistics on this are horrible. Without intervention the repetitive rate is over 90%, with intervention it is about half that. Like the rest of the folks here i would insist on intervention and failing that pray, pray, pray! God can make the change in a person's heart.

[tigger398]

I didn't say it was me.

[stafy]

If someone was being physical or emotional abused. Does it stop, Will it stop

without details who can say,

[Guest lnj]

If someone was being physical or emotional abused. Does it stop, Will it stop

without details who can say,

Please listen, I was once where you are, but God does not expect you to be physically abused. Please move out if you can...it needs to stop and you need people around you to help.Family, local womens shelter, friends and even if you need a Domestic Violence Protection Order..do it. The life you save maybe your own or his.

[terter]

Sometimes people who are in abusive relationships don't realize that they are in a cycle of abuse.

#1- abuse occurs (usually it gets worse as time passes).

#2- the abuser is very sorry, promises to never ever do again. There is hope.

#3 - egg shell stage - the person being abused knows that it is going to happen again - it's pending - looming - just don't know when or why.

Repeats 1-3, 1-3,

[Guest lovinghim4ever]

I am praying; no matter who you are talking about.

:emot-hug:

[quieth3art]

Tigger, I have seen you ask this same question in chat several times and the responses there have been the same as they are here. You give no details of the situation though and that makes it very hard to help.

Am I correct in thinking that what you want to know is if an abuser can stop being abusive? If that is the real question, then the answer is:

Yes, it is possible that an abuser can stop being abusive, but the abused should never hang their hopes on that. If you are the one being abused, then you need to get out and get help from the authorities as suggested in these posts. If you KNOW someone who is being abused, you need to do your best to help them get out and get help from the authorities.

If you gave us more information regarding the situation, perhaps we could be more help. I know we all would like to help.