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What should I do? / What would you do?

I am going through a divorce and trying to decide what to do about custody of our 3 boys.

My greatest fear is if I allow my 3 sons to go with their father over the summer I wont be there for him to rage at so he may rage at them and cause them emotional damage in the long run.

But then I think about the fact that he is their father and every boy needs a father and perhaps he won

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If he's never taken his tempter out on them before, don't assume that he will now.

Boys do need their father.

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If he's never taken his tempter out on them before, don't assume that he will now.

Boys do need their father.

He has said some things that should never be said to a child out of anger or any other time. (Which he apologized for later) And he has raged at them some just not as much as he did me.

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Pray. And I know you are already doing that. Remember God is in control. You can allow your boys to go see their father for the summer or send them one at time. (Im not sure how the custody arrangement is) Chances are, if the boys are too much for their dad to handle, or they feel terrorized by his rage, (they should be able to stay in phone contact with you) they can come back home to you. Custody arrangements are not set in stone. They can be arrannged and rearranged as situations change.

Let God have your fears. And let God hear all your praises for all that you have. I will pray for you also.

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Maybe supervised visitation is the answer.

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Boys need their father BUT they also need protection. Protection is number one. I do not think anyone can describe the pain and grief and fear that a raging parent can cause. Plus...where will the rage lead? For me, there would be no confusion. Protection would be my goal.

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Blood isn't what truly makes a father. A real father doesn't abuse his child. If you're concerned that he will give them emotional abuse, then see that the amount of time he sees them is limited until he learns to treat them like precious gifts of God (which is what children ARE).

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What should I do? / What would you do?

I am going through a divorce and trying to decide what to do about custody of our 3 boys.

My greatest fear is if I allow my 3 sons to go with their father over the summer I wont be there for him to rage at so he may rage at them and cause them emotional damage in the long run.

But then I think about the fact that he is their father and every boy needs a father and perhaps he won

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Some states go by the favorable parent idea, in which they rule in favor of the parent who most supports the children having a bond with both parents. If you can't prove the emotional abuse, and you insist on supervised visitation only, they may see you as uncooperative and rule in favor of the father. Just wanted to give you a heads up on that.

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