why the divorce rate in american is so high?

[silviawang]

http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm

---it is said that the Christians can not divorce

[Shad]

Because more and more people marry out of lust than out of love and once the excitement has worn off there is nothing left to hold the marriage together.

[kari21]

We are a throw-away society. If we have a little trouble, we toss it out and get another one. People included. We have been brought up to believe that the only important thing in life is our continuous happiness. If something comes up that we are not happy with, why bother to take the time trying to fix it? It's much easier to just chuck it.

[tsth]

Because we do not have a correct biblical view of divorce, and because we have not gone back to God's Word in regard to teaching the next generation about "marriage" and "divorce". We have a society of kids who only KNOW that divorce IS ACCEPTABLE, because that is all that they see, they are not being taught anything different. We may think that they know differently, but if we look at what is acceptable in this society, THAT is what they learn. And until we start speaking in detail about correct marriages and God, they will not do any different than the generation before them.

This is a portion of the Soapbox Debate thread on the "Biblical View of Divorce":

Here is what I would tell them with regard to a divorced person:

The Word of God clearly states that God hates divorce. And, that a husband is to take a wife for life, to care for her and love her, and she is to respond with the same for him, along with respect. Biblically there was not to be divorce, but because of adultery, Moses gave them certificates of divorce to be able to put their wives away. THAT was the ONLY reason given as allowable, BUT they began divorcing for any and every reason....this was not supposed to happen.

Today, people are divorcing because they are not being taught correctly with regard to God's Word, (I blame the pastors, but the people are responsible as well to read God's Word and believe It) So, because of this practice, I do not know what God will have to say about it? I ONLY KNOW what has been revealed within God's Word to me, so I am passing this along to you, as my child. God hates divorce. He wants us to believe in Him and marry spouses who believe in Him. IF you do this, then you should not have to encounter a situation of divorce....for you will both GROW in the Lord Jesus Christ and His Word, TOGETHER, as ONE.

LadyC, the problem of rampant divorce is due to our inclination to keep planting the same seeds, therefore we keep getting the same crop. Our crop will not change until the seeds we plant change.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[kat8585]

From my own experience, it is because of lack of communication, and a refusal on the part of one party to work on the marriage.

[Guest The Chief]

"The U.S. divorce rate is the lowest it has been since 1970, reports the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center for Health Statistics. Experts attribute the decrease to multiple factors, including individuals taking longer to choose a spouse, couples considering important issues such as finances, children, and religion before they wed; and troubled spouses seeking marriage counseling more readily."

Bloomberg.com, May 11, 2007

[EricH]

There are many reasons for the hight rate.

[Smalcald]

Divorce is one of those cases that are hard to sort out; Eric is right there are many reasons.

One thing we should consider when comparing ourselves to other countries is the marriage rate. What I mean is that in the US compared to some countries in Europe, more of us get married. In Europe many people never marry they just have kids by themselves or co-habitate. So obviously the people that do get married really really want to be married and will have less divorce.

I think we marry to young, we marry to fast, and things like living together and sex before marriage all contribute to higher divorces after marriage. I also think that it is tied to rates of promiscuity and adultery, the fact is Americans have quite a few different sexual partners in their lives, more than other countries. If you are used to having different sex partners you are going to have a hard time limiting yourself to just one person for your entire life after you get married.

But the fact is in the Church we often accept adultery among our leaders with a shrug, and this is a problem. I hate to name names, but I think this is a prime example. James Hagee had an affair with his current wife when he was pastor of a Church and she was a member, he then divorced his first wife and married the new women, this is public record and not disputed, it is not gossip it is the truth. Of course if you look at his website he has his "family" shown. What he does not show is any pictures of his children from his first marriage or mention of them as his family, as if they never existed. Yet we hold him up as a leader? Until we call people to task who claim to be our leaders we are never going anywhere on this issue. Look at politics. Every single current Republican front with the exception of Romney, is divorced.

[Guest james454]

ask God please for the answer to your why question plzzzzzzz

[Smalcald]

think we marry to young, we marry to fast,

Historical evidence says just the opposite. Hundreds of years ago people married much younger than they do today, and remained married and often had a dozen children or more.

They also died at 45.

But you are correct historically. But today statistics do indeed show that marriages that occur under 20 have very high rates of divorce, much higher than the average of 50%. In fact our divorce rate nationally would be much lower if we did not count marriages for those under 20.

Once again though that does not mean if you got married under 20 you are going to divorce for sure, not at all. Many great marriages started young. But if you want to play the odds, you would be better to wait. Think about how much we all changed between the ages of 18 and 25. I am so thankful I did not marry the type of women I thought was just great when I was 18, and I would have been a horrible husband at that age.

But I think it is important we get the information out there about what increases your chances for marital success, and one of the things which greatly increase the chances of NOT getting divorced is not getting married when you are under the age of 20.