When sin produces a blessing

[Natt]

At present I'm witnessing to a solo mum. Here are some questions she has given me.

If a person sins by sex outside marriage, then is blessed by having children. How can someone feel sorry for this sin?

Are we saying her having children is a mistake?

What should she tell her children?

[Emily~Anne]

Wether or not those children were conceived in sin, God can still use those children in incredible ways! There is a saying, 'What Satan intends for evil, God intends for good!'

[kittylover0991]

At present I'm witnessing to a solo mum. Here are some questions she has given me.

If a person sins by sex outside marriage, then is blessed by having children. How can someone feel sorry for this sin?

Are we saying her having children is a mistake?

What should she tell her children?

I think the mom, unfortunately, will forever have to remember her sin, and there will probably be many struggles along the way becuase she is a "solo mum"... but, the Lord can make a bad situation and turn it for good.. he isn't going to desert her because she made a mistake... God can work throught he circumstances and he can use it for good

Will be praying for her

[Guest LadyC]

she can still feel remorse for having grieved God, can't she? i mean, i can sorta relate... my oldest daughter was the result of an affair. i do feel remorse and have repented for the sin of adultery. my daughter has not been an easy child, (although she's 21 now), but she is still a blessing to me. for that, i give God the praise and the glory for having shown me His love and mercy despite my sin.

you see, God loves that baby your friend had, and isn't going to hold the sins of the mother against the child. but she may very well experience a lot of heartache and difficulty with her child as a result of her sin... either financially, or maybe simply because of the child's personality... but the harder the road, often the sweeter the reward.

tell your friend she owes it to her child to acknowledge that what she did was WRONG, but to raise that child to understand that her child is living proof that our Lord is loving and merciful and forgiving.

[Natt]

I've been saying to her that sex outside marriage was a sin and repentance is turning from that sin and not doing it again.

Regarding her children I 've said that God has a purpose and plan for them.

I asked her what she would like for her children. She has twin sons and 1 daughter. She has said she doesn't want them to be solo parents but argues pre-marital sex is not sin.

I can only pray and leave this in God's hands.

[GeneV]

At present I'm witnessing to a solo mum. Here are some questions she has given me.

If a person sins by sex outside marriage, then is blessed by having children. How can someone feel sorry for this sin?

Are we saying her having children is a mistake?

What should she tell her children?

Why does this remind me of the Samaritan woman by the well? Emily

[MeCajunboy]

At present I'm witnessing to a solo mum. Here are some questions she has given me.

If a person sins by sex outside marriage, then is blessed by having children. How can someone feel sorry for this sin?

Are we saying her having children is a mistake?

What should she tell her children?

As odd as that sounds to a Christian living the Word of God , that is the mentality and the way of thinking for much of the world. They have to develop a pattern of this type of thinking for most of their lives in order to get through life without having to face God's reality. But somthing more sad than that, if one does not repent for any wrong doing, they cannot ask for favor from the fruit that is produced from that sin. So, for her to expect proper Christian growth from any sin would be wrong. If I were in her shoes and I were her friend I would "thank God for her offspring but beg forgiveness for the sin that these children may have to carry with them, not to mention the mother and "should be" father!. And please don't take any of this as being judgemental, as I can always show scriptural reference for my concerns.

Prayers and Blessings

Cajunboy

[tervana]

Well....I had a different response until I read that she doesn't feel she has sinned. I'm assuming she isn't a Christian. Either that or she hasn't read her Bible. It's hard to witness to someone that isn't open to the teachings of Jesus. Pre-marital sex of course is a sin but the children we produce are Precious In His Sight. He knows us before we are born. Whether we are born out of sin or not it doesn't change His love for us. Half the world is born this way. The old testament talks about "the sins of the father". We do have consequences from our sin. And unfortunetly it does pass down to our children. But Jesus Christ in His infinite wisdom, mercy and grace will take care of them as long as they live for Him and shun evil. I prayed for your friend to come to repentance and to seek God in her life.

God bless,

A friend in Christ, Terri

[SanDiegoCA]

I saw this as two questions and a serious situation.

First: sex outside of marriage. The bible is pretty explicit about a person who practices it and the consequences. But a person can be forgiven by stop (repentance) sinning (practicing) and seek forgiveness. However now reaping what we sow comes into play. From the break of truth and hurt inflicted on their marriage partner to children from the affair.

Second: the children from this affair can be a blessing or a curse. Is the man now going to accept responsibly and provide for the child out wedlock. This open a big can of worms that all parties need to be involved or the child of this situation will suffer. Reality is most men walk away and the single mom is left to defend for herself and the child. This happens frequently with divorced men.

Christians need to remember fatherless household and include them in our prayers and activites.

[RedeemedByHim]

Wether or not those children were conceived in sin, God can still use those children in incredible ways! There is a saying, 'What Satan intends for evil, God intends for good!'

I totally agree. My sister got pregnant in high and it was her first time ever. But Kaylee (her daughter, my niece) is the biggest blessing to our family. And even though the father took off, my sister's best friend stepped up to the plate, married her, and adopted Kaylee. They now have a son that was born 11 months after Kaylee and have another one on the way. God has taken that situation and truly turned it around for good.

I wanted to add however, if she doesn't feel it is a sin, she is setting a bad example for her children to where they will think premarital sex is ok. I personally have seen the damage that premarital sex and adultery does to you. My husband was the first man I did not sleep with until we were married. I am so thankful for that. We have to call sin for what it is and stop beating around the bush. I have been guilty of doing this myself. I do agree that she may still have trials, but that child is NOT a mistake. God has a plan and destiny for those children.