unanswered prayer

[LilyPotter]

Hi, I hope someone can offer some words that might help. I am a happy mom of 3 kids. I really wanted to have a big family, though, and I had thought that God led me in that direction also. Hubby has said no, no, no, no to having more kids, he wasnt even keen to have 3 in the first place. Honestly, I really, truly believed that eventually my prayers would be answered and we would have at least one more little baby. But now I'm thinking it probably isn't going to go that way. We are getting into the advanced age range, esp dh, who is older than me.

I have tried to learn to accept it this way. I can even see all the perks about being "done" - all those things people say look, now we can do. And believe me I dread all that pregnancy would even entail. I am high risk and have lost babies before, so I know what I face. But I can't get over wanting to just give it one more go, one last time before we are just plain too old and it's just plain too impractical.

I have also prayed that if this is not in the cards, God please just take away my longing. But that just doesn't seem to happen. I can practicallly sense this other child I believe I should be the mother of - does that sound kookie?

Anyway, any encouragement would help. Thanks.

[nebula]

Hey Lily -

This will probably sound even kookier, but if you "sense" the child, maybe you should start praying for that child.

[kross]

Isiah Chapter 54 (I think) may be the understanding you seek

[Botz]

Praise G-d you are happy and have been blessed with three kids.

[Guest man]

I would respect the wishes of my spouse.

[LilyPotter]

This will probably sound even kookier, but if you "sense" the child, maybe you should start praying for that child

I have done that before, but I don't think it's beneficial. It just entrenches my desire more.

I would respect the wishes of my spouse.

Couldn't that also be said to him? Anyway, obviously I'm not having a child unless he changes his mind. It doesn't mean I no longer want that simply because he has said no. That is the whole point of my post.

[Guest John 21:21 and 22]

Hi, I hope someone can offer some words that might help. I am a happy mom of 3 kids. I really wanted to have a big family, though, and I had thought that God led me in that direction also. Hubby has said no, no, no, no to having more kids, he wasnt even keen to have 3 in the first place. Honestly, I really, truly believed that eventually my prayers would be answered and we would have at least one more little baby. But now I'm thinking it probably isn't going to go that way. We are getting into the advanced age range, esp dh, who is older than me.

I have tried to learn to accept it this way. I can even see all the perks about being "done" - all those things people say look, now we can do. And believe me I dread all that pregnancy would even entail. I am high risk and have lost babies before, so I know what I face. But I can't get over wanting to just give it one more go, one last time before we are just plain too old and it's just plain too impractical.

I have also prayed that if this is not in the cards, God please just take away my longing. But that just doesn't seem to happen. I can practicallly sense this other child I believe I should be the mother of - does that sound kookie?

Anyway, any encouragement would help. Thanks.

Wow - this is a tough one.

One thing you said in your post is troubling - that your husband "wasn't keen to have 3 in the first place." How is that playing out? Does he spend time with the kids? Pray with them? Love them?

This is something obviously you and your husband need to work out. I would suggest you seek out a good Christian counselor - your pastor, if he/she can be impartial. Lay everything out before that pator or counselor, and heed the advice that is given.

You are correct that only God can take away your longing for a child, if you are not to have another one. But perhaps I can offer you some encouragement. My wife and I are in our mid to late 50s - our two kids are grown up. But through the circumstances of my 22 year old daughter's marriage breaking up, we are currently guardians of our two little grand-daughters. We do not know for how long we will have charge of these little ones (one is almost 3, and the other is 13 months) but we're happy for the time we do have them.

Hang in there, and keep looking up.

[David170907]

Perhaps you could pray for God to change your Hubbies heart on this matter?

I thought it was never too old for men to physically make teh babies..but I guess when you get older it's hard to have children at home.

[ColleenLovesMischief]

I would respect the wishes of my spouse.

even if God was leading her differently??? "accidental" (no pregnancy is an accident) happen all the time through birth control, and sterilization. If He so deems it then it will happen.

[Guest man]

I would respect the wishes of my spouse.

even if God was leading her differently???

I thought the man was the head of household.

And if God was doing the leading, I doubt this thread would be here.

"accidental" (no pregnancy is an accident) happen all the time through birth control, and sterilization. If He so deems it then it will happen.

That could very well be.

Time will tell.