taking advantage of

[Guest lovinghim4ever]

This man isn't homeless. He is just a friend from the coffee house who doesn't have a lot of money. He has an apartment, is well fed and taken care of. He just doesn't get enough money for coffee apparently. I'm not worried about how he spends the money because I know he buys coffee with it (I'm there when he buys it). He is a good friend and honest and I know he's not into drugs or anything like that.

I misread this post then. I thought he was a stranger - you say he's a good friend. I don't have too many good friends who ask me for money who always ask me for money and then act like it's not enough. In this case - I don't know what to tell you to do. If he is not homeless, is well fed and taken care of and is a good friend - I'd probably not be too inclined to keep giving him money; when he apparently doesn't really need it.

That's okay Believer, I must have misread it too. The way I read it gave me the impression that this man was a stranger. So, I'm with you. I don't think I would keep giving him money either.

[enoob57]

At a coffee shop I go to there is always a man there asking for money for coffee/the bus/laundry/etc. I started giving him a few bucks here and there. But now when he asks for money and I give him some, he asks for more. I give him $1, he says "Are you sure you don't have a few more dollars?" I like giving to people in need but I am getting the feeling that I might be taken advantage of. I don't know how to handle this situation. Advice?

I need some work done! It's unskilled labor minimum wage are you interested? See what his answer is. If he's interested in what kind of work tell him hard work. See what his answer is. If he has excuse or not interested

2 Thess 3:10

10 For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: If anyone will not work, neither shall he eat.

NKJV

Love Steven

[Blien]

Pray about it..

[~Shalhevet~]

He isn't a GOOD friend but a friend nonetheless. We talk only at the coffee house. Definitely not a close relationship. I would suggest that he find a job but he's schizophrenic and disabled. I'm not sure who would employ him. I would love to keep giving him coffee but I don't want him to always expect a handout from me. You know? Thanks for all the replies. Helps a lot!

[2Joyful]

This man isn't homeless. He is just a friend from the coffee house who doesn't have a lot of money. He has an apartment, is well fed and taken care of. He just doesn't get enough money for coffee apparently. I'm not worried about how he spends the money because I know he buys coffee with it (I'm there when he buys it). He is a good friend and honest and I know he's not into drugs or anything like that.

Wow, I guess I saw things on your post. I thought I saw he was homeless....sorry. But never the less, I feel that you should not continue to give if you "feel" he's taking advantage of your giving heart. Many times that "feel" is the Holy Ghost trying to bring things to our attention. Pray and seek God to show you what He's trying to reveal concerning these thoughts of you being taken advantage of.

[georgedrw81]

We give donations sometimes it could be a person or an organisation. We do it because we want to to. If for example our donation is given to a church we do not have second thought to give more. When we give a donation to a person we do hesitate and/or have doubts. What really counts is how we feel towards God and Jesus after our donation. No matter how much money you give the much more you will be given back.

Blessings

[OneLight]

2 Corinthians 9:7

So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.

[~Shalhevet~]

2 Corinthians 9:7

So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.

Does this verse even apply in instances where the person is obviously taking advantage of your generosity?

[Believer1997]

2 Corinthians 9:7

So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.

Does this verse even apply in instances where the person is obviously taking advantage of your generosity?

I think if you feel your friend is taking advantage of you; then you would not be giving with a cheerful heart. If you feel that he is taking advantage of you - simply tell him that you are not able to give him money anymore and/or find another coffee shop where you are less likely to run into this person.

[MorningGlory]

I'm going to have to echo Lady C and Believer's comments....if this guy is a 'good friend' he has a strange way of showing it. I have no friends who hit me up for money and, if they did and they weren't in dire straits, I'd kick them to the curb. That type of person is a user. I also thought you meant a homeless person, btw.