Do you feel like following Jesus is "crimping" your love life?

[luke22ministries]

Often times, in many ways, you feel "blessed and fortunate" to be following the Lord Jesus Christ. There are things that are done, according to the world that you look at, and feel happy that you no longer have a taste to do. However, let's be honest, dispite Paul's emplore of all of us, we have carnal urges. For love, for affection and yes (we are all adults and Christians) even for sex. For many, the longer you go without that (in the human world) the more you seem to desire it. It can even become a "stumbling" block for many Christians. They jump into relationships with those who take them away from Christ and they compromise on purity and end up having sexual contact before getting married.

Here is the link on my latest article about the "Cost of being a disciple of Christ"

http://www.examiner.com/christianity-in-west-palm-beach/dear-aspiring-disciple-so-your-ready-to-be-a-disciple-of-christ

How did you resist the carnal urges of the world? How did you go about knowing you were equally "yoked" with the person you are with?

I would love to see your post on this subject

[sunflowerwife]

Thanks for your interesting topic!

Well first I want to point out that, before I was saved I certainly had my fair share of lovers. But, God changed my heart and I was made a new person. The past is forgotten and I was reborn.

I was saved by His grace nearly 3 years ago, and sexual sins and desires are certainly things I struggled with. As I was going through the scriptures, I found no evidence that "long term dating" was biblical, in fact it states that it is better to marry then to give in to sexual sins. So within 4 months of being saved, I was married. My husband and I courted for 3 months, only seeing each other with chaperone's and leaving even our first kiss for our wedding day. Because of how quickly we married, certainly the critics will find that, we didn't have time to properly getting to know each other, and it certainly caused a certain amount of challenges especially in the beginning. But the Bible says nothing about "getting to know each other", my husband and I honor God by loving, and caring for each other. For taking on our God-given roles. My husband is my leader and I fully submit to His authority. We center everything we do, every decision we make around God, and despite the fact that my husband and I appear to have nothing in common, none of that matters because God has blessed our marriage tremendously through our obedience in Him.

All of that to say, I believe that in order to keep yourself pure, it is imperative to find a spouse quickly. God says nothing about dating x amount of people, for x amount of time. The reason it says nothing about it, I think, is because the more you date, the longer you wait, the more likely it is that you will fall into sin. Now certainly some will not be called to marry, and through the obedience to God they will overcome those impure thoughts. But for those whom God has called to be married, I pray that they might find that person young and that they might glorify God through their marriage.

[ayin jade]

Following Christ has enhanced "my love life". My husband and I are closer because of our relationship with the Lord.

[enoob57]

Often times, in many ways, you feel "blessed and fortunate" to be following the Lord Jesus Christ. There are things that are done, according to the world that you look at, and feel happy that you no longer have a taste to do. However, let's be honest, dispite Paul's emplore of all of us, we have carnal urges. For love, for affection and yes (we are all adults and Christians) even for sex. For many, the longer you go without that (in the human world) the more you seem to desire it. It can even become a "stumbling" block for many Christians. They jump into relationships with those who take them away from Christ and they compromise on purity and end up having sexual contact before getting married.

Here is the link on my latest article about the "Cost of being a disciple of Christ"

http://www.examiner....ciple-of-christ

How did you resist the carnal urges of the world? How did you go about knowing you were equally "yoked" with the person you are with?

I would love to see your post on this subject

Christ came into the World to bring the Truth of Him Jn 18:37 ... within that truth is Who He is and what was necessary by The Father

to bring salvation to His creation! Death, burial and resurrection the Gospel was,is and will be the only door of life and belief in Christ to cry

out in repentance of everything we are as sinners headed to hell and eternal separation from God. This Gospel can result in Spiritual rebirth and the

indwelling of of God The Holy Spirit... Our lives who have passed through this door are now no longer our own but are owned by the Price Christ

paid for us and in that Ownership we are to be Holy as He is Holy and to reckon ourselves dead to the body wants for we know it is not redeemed

and will not relinquish it's carnal wants of lust of the flesh, lust of the eye, pride of life -> therefore we are to reckon our flesh dead already

because of sin and walk in the Spirit thus to engage our mind, soul and dead bodies in the service of God to His Pleasure and Glory...

So all must first contemplate can I live solely unto God in devotion to His Word as advised by Paul or to marry because of lack of self control!

We are now a People who have been Given God Himself in The Son to live within us by The Person of The Holy Spirit and if we draw near to

Him He will draw near to us... "To whom much is given much is required" ...

frightening to evaluate this in light of the above truth -> what do you do with Christ in You? Love Steven

[luke22ministries]

Thank you guys! Keep posting. Very interesting!

[jeffnevins]

I've been single my whole life, and am 37 now.

When I was younger, it was more difficult; I thought I needed physical contact with a woman every three years (no interest in sex or nudity makes life easier).

eHarmony was nice some years ago.

10.5 months of chronic pain (including headache) has drastically reduced interest in a relationship.

I may be called to singleness for until death, but perhaps not. I'm unsure of God's plan.

[OneLight]

If one believes that their faith in Christ is crimping their love life, they not only have a false understanding of love, but have replaced Christ with the idol named sex. Sex and being in love are vastly different.

[enoob57]

I've been single my whole life, and am 37 now.

When I was younger, it was more difficult; I thought I needed physical contact with a woman every three years (no interest in sex or nudity makes life easier).

eHarmony was nice some years ago.

10.5 months of chronic pain (including headache) has drastically reduced interest in a relationship.

I may be called to singleness for until death, but perhaps not. I'm unsure of God's plan.

Prayed .... for Personal peace and understanding and relief from the pain... Love Steven

[Joshua-777]

Following Christ has enhanced "my love life". My husband and I are closer because of our relationship with the Lord.

Same here,